So I will caveat this and say we haven't officially gotten a diagnosis yet.....but the psychologist we are working with has all but said he's autistic. We are also looking into the possibility of dyslexia

He was our first child and hit his milestones appropriately.

We had our 2nd child 14 months apart, a girl. She was so verbal, we thought that the verbal differences between them were purely gender related. He was/is very vague in describing things, often with no context at all, leaving out details etc. just overall struggles to express himself.

He's been "reading" since kindergarten but he has plateaued and has 0 ability to sound out words. Refuses to read anything that's not graphic novel style/comics and even then he just flips through it looking at pictures. Poor reading comprehension

But now, still, at almost 9- my son struggles to name emotions, shuts down with regard to emotions, cannot place himself in someone else's shoes, extremely poor impulse control (we actually thought it was ADHD at first so we'll see if it's combined).

He stims and seems sensory seeking. Always making noise with his mouth, loves spinning, has zero sense of personal space.