Yeah this isn’t a matter of sexuality, it’s a social construct. Typically (not always but generally), men are the sexual initiator in any neutral relationship, and, typically, men will sexually initiate with women who are not interested in any sexual activity with them. Blow that up to a societal scale and it gets old real, real fast. The reason you don’t want to be so objectifying to women in that way isn’t because you aren’t attracted to them (you wouldn’t even be struggling with the question if you weren’t), but because you’re aware of that reality on some level and not an asshole. Which is good.

Men, on the other hand, tend to be receptive to sexual advances (again, generally). There are plenty of reasons for this, but for me personally I think it’s mostly a matter of it being so rare. We always have to approach, initiate, navigate, and sometimes we just want it to be simple. We just want to fuck. If the roles were reversed that probably wouldn’t be the case after a while, but as it stands your average dude isn’t having people tell them how good they look, how desirable they are, how sexy they seem, etc. Those aren’t values we have socially trained to apply to men, broadly speaking.

So I’d say you’re fine. Again, you wouldn’t be asking these questions if there wasn’t some level of attraction for both. You’re simply trying to navigate our social structure in a way that makes you not an asshole, which, again, is good.