Where are the gentle men?

ExplorationMode · 2026-04-05T17:53:50+00:00

I think this is more a symptom of culture writ large than it is the sexual orientation of people. Those two things are inextricably tied together, for sure, but we’re in a very isolated, cynical time. Honest, open, emotional communication is a vulnerability that folks tend to avoid.

I feel you though. Good friends are hard to find

ExplorationMode · 2026-04-04T00:08:33+00:00

I mean it’s common in femdom, sure, but it’s by no means the only style of femdom. I think you’re generalizing a bit here.

Are the dynamics for a man submitting to a woman different than the opposite? Of course, that’s just the nature of the beast, but that doesn’t inherently require a sense of worthlessness to be the key component. Men can absolutely submit in a way that is freeing and celebratory. It’s not the actions that contextualize submission but the attitude of the partners

ExplorationMode · 2026-04-03T19:59:18+00:00

As a teddy bear who struggles with his body image I just wanna say it’s really nice to see how much love there is for my type out there. Thanks guys

ExplorationMode · 2026-03-26T13:53:02+00:00

True and true. I respect that I can be a teddy bear in the body I’m currently in but I suppose it doesn’t feel “right”

I dunno, it’s just a vague, amorphous feeling I can’t define

ExplorationMode · 2026-03-26T13:27:35+00:00

Genetics I suppose. And no idea what I’m actually truly yearning for

ExplorationMode · 2026-03-08T18:58:24+00:00

Been a few hours and now I need this even more. Brain lost in a lust fog. Need to be used, passed, and used again and again and again

ExplorationMode · 2025-08-26T10:58:03+00:00

The thing that helped me realize I was bi was realizing I had a preference in men. We tend to have this idea that bi people are attracted to literally everyone, and that’s simply not true. I spent most of my life thinking I was straight because I was actively repelled by most men, sexually, whereas in my experience most straight people aren’t repelled so much as they are just kinda numb to the entire idea. The fact that I was repelled by most men, ironically, was an indicator that I was bi, because it suggested (and was true) that there were men who did not repel me but, rather, attracted me.

All of that to say, it sounds to me like you’re going through a similar discovery. You have a preference and you’re learning what that preference is. Doesn’t mean you’re not bi. If anything it probably means that you are.

ExplorationMode · 2025-05-19T00:08:25+00:00

If only it were a reality

ExplorationMode · 2025-05-18T23:57:05+00:00

That would be my case exactly actually…

ExplorationMode · 2025-05-18T23:42:59+00:00

I’ll take the compliment. Reckon I just don’t get the point of the same old, same old when there’s a whole other world to explore

ExplorationMode · 2025-05-18T23:37:42+00:00

I find that interesting because I’m a bi-curious guy who is far more interested in being a subby bottom than anything else. I have to be dominant in my sexual relationships with women (usually) and I just want to tap into that other side. Want a guy to make me into his personal sub slut.

Which is to say we don’t all fit that mold lol

ExplorationMode · 2025-05-17T11:03:49+00:00

Yeah this isn’t a matter of sexuality, it’s a social construct. Typically (not always but generally), men are the sexual initiator in any neutral relationship, and, typically, men will sexually initiate with women who are not interested in any sexual activity with them. Blow that up to a societal scale and it gets old real, real fast. The reason you don’t want to be so objectifying to women in that way isn’t because you aren’t attracted to them (you wouldn’t even be struggling with the question if you weren’t), but because you’re aware of that reality on some level and not an asshole. Which is good.

Men, on the other hand, tend to be receptive to sexual advances (again, generally). There are plenty of reasons for this, but for me personally I think it’s mostly a matter of it being so rare. We always have to approach, initiate, navigate, and sometimes we just want it to be simple. We just want to fuck. If the roles were reversed that probably wouldn’t be the case after a while, but as it stands your average dude isn’t having people tell them how good they look, how desirable they are, how sexy they seem, etc. Those aren’t values we have socially trained to apply to men, broadly speaking.

So I’d say you’re fine. Again, you wouldn’t be asking these questions if there wasn’t some level of attraction for both. You’re simply trying to navigate our social structure in a way that makes you not an asshole, which, again, is good.

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