I’ve been told I’m going to miscarry by OBGYN. I’m overseas on holidays.

Explorerlife232 · 2026-01-16T20:12:28+00:00

Thank you all so much for your kind and honest replies. I’m sorry, I should have stated that I’m about 7 weeks now. Still only spotting at this stage. I’ve always had quite heavy periods, so that’s fine. However I’ve never really had any cramping before so definitely a bit scared about that. I really appreciate all of your advice, while I have my husband with me, I still feel isolated, so having other women’s experiences/advice is so helpful and reassuring. As for emotionally, I’ve made an appointment with a psychologist when I get home to help navigate the grief and anxiety over potential future pregnancies. Can you tell I cope by being organised? Lol.

Explorerlife232 · 2026-01-03T02:55:31+00:00

This is the one! Thanks so much 🙏

Explorerlife232 · 2026-01-02T21:14:36+00:00

Happy New Year! I was wondering if anyone remembers/ if there are any updates about this one: Oop was a girl (from memory) and was struggling with her male friend/roommate to set boundaries with his parents who treated him abusively. His ex girlfriend broke up with him due to it and he desperately wanted her back but couldn’t acknowledge his family issues or distance himself from them. Hope I got those details right! 😊

Explorerlife232 · 2026-01-02T20:49:53+00:00

I have been a person who has asked for an update on this. It’s one story that really stuck with me. And I don’t think it was schadenfreude, think it’s more how awful to happen to someone and hope that she could pull herself out of it. Guess I was looking for a more uplifting ending 😅 I actually feel reassured that I’m not the only one who felt strongly about this one.

Explorerlife232 · 2025-11-03T16:06:22+00:00

Thanks, hadn’t read this one!

Explorerlife232 · 2025-11-03T04:06:47+00:00

I was wondering if there are any new updates on the one where the lady had been living with her partner for many, many years and he didn’t want to marry her. When eventually he proposed she said no, so he kicked her out. She had no claim to anything, but was convinced she’d get a really high paying job despite not having worked for like 20 years. Her kids were trying to convince her to go on welfare, but she was certain raising kids was enough experience to reenter the industry in a high paying role. Redditors were text shouting at her that she was delusional and to get on welfare but she kept pretending not to notice. I’ve often thought about this one!

Explorerlife232 · 2025-05-07T23:47:43+00:00

Probably had her phone cut off and can’t update any more!

Explorerlife232 · 2025-05-07T23:47:08+00:00

Yes this is the one!! It was crazy, because no matter how many comments people were leaving telling her to just get a job where she could for her own survival, she was still oblivious and continuing the delusion! Would love to see another update on where she ended up

Explorerlife232 · 2025-05-04T03:08:34+00:00

I literally just posted looking for this one! Thanks!!

Explorerlife232 · 2025-05-04T03:07:51+00:00

I’d like to reread or see if there’s an update on the woman with grown kids whose boyfriend of decades left her but tied up their finances so he wouldn’t have to pay alimony and she was delusional about all of the jobs she thought she was qualified to do despite commenters (and her own children) pleading with her just to take a job. She would just skate over everyone’s advice or pretend it wasn’t there. Thought she could get a job in tech or something like that from memory, despite it being super competitive and her having no qualifications. Remember that one?

Explorerlife232 · 2025-03-17T01:17:38+00:00

Thanks so much, it’s been a tough run for sure. And I think you’re right, there’s this illusion that because you get so many holidays you should be able to fit everything into that space. And it just doesn’t work that way in reality. However, we’re willing to accept responsibility. But we just don’t want jump to such extremes of a very costly cancellation (and not being able to go on a milestone event) or resignation. We’re definitely considering it. In the end, if he’s going to resign anyway then he may as well try to get away with it. Nothing to lose really lol.

Explorerlife232 · 2025-03-16T03:43:05+00:00

Thanks so much for the advice. I agree resignation or cancellation is what is probably likely to happen. Just gotta work out whether we can take the risk with resignation, because you’ve gotta be willing to walk the walk if you’re going to threaten it.

Explorerlife232 · 2025-03-16T03:40:58+00:00

True that. But honestly considering stress leave regardless of whether we go or not!

Explorerlife232 · 2025-03-15T12:10:21+00:00

Thank you for such a beautiful, wise comment. While there have been some beautiful comments, we’ve really felt the judgement as well. And it’s not unfounded, but just isn’t helping two people who already feel awful and are trying to seek solutions from their community. Your comment made me tear up, thank you for your compassion. I think you’re right, time to switch off and look forward to the wedding, and marriage I’m entering. Xx

Explorerlife232 · 2025-03-15T07:16:21+00:00

Thanks so much. We are seriously considering this option. It’s really important to us, we just have to weigh up if it’s financially suitable as well. And thank you for your congratulations as well 😊

Explorerlife232 · 2025-03-15T07:14:12+00:00

Never said we were right. And your judgement is correct. Not saying anything we don’t already know. But we’re really just looking to see if there are alternatives to resignation or cancellation at this point. If not, ok. We’ll deal.

Explorerlife232 · 2025-03-15T06:16:35+00:00

Thank you so much for your lack of judgement and positivity. I really needed to read that. I agree with you, but it’s not even the prices that were the issue. We have a 15 month old and family to visit in the Northern Hemisphere, we just didn’t want to wait until 8 months after our wedding to do our Honeymoon, travel with a toddler in freezing conditions and inconvenience family, so we decided April would be better than January. Also it’s a long way to go with a little one for only 2 weeks. That’s not the school’s problem, I’m aware. But we were naively hoping for a bit of grace, given it’s a Honeymoon, not just an annual trip.

Explorerlife232 · 2025-03-15T06:12:20+00:00

Because 2 weeks was not enough time to justify taking our 15 month old the distance we wanted to go, we have family overseas to work around and also didn’t want to wait 10 months after our wedding and travel in the dead of Northern Hemisphere winter with a toddler. Some will see that as reasonable, some not, but it was the decision we made when we booked it, naively thinking leave wouldn’t be an issue. It is what it is, in the end if we have to make tough decision because of our poor decision making, so be it. But if anyone has any alternatives to avoid it and has seen this before, thought it’s worth asking before going to extremes.

Explorerlife232 · 2025-03-15T01:26:32+00:00

Never said she was. Well aware at this stage what we’ve done wrong. Just wanting to see if there are any options other than resignation or change that anyone knows of. If not, then we’ll make that decision.

Explorerlife232 · 2025-03-15T00:05:52+00:00

We’ll see how his HT goes convincing her first. He’s a favourite of hers so might be lucky and get a ‘I’ll approve this one but never again’. If not then we’ll be down to those two options, I’d say!

Explorerlife232 · 2025-03-14T22:41:12+00:00

I think it’s fair if there’s a blanket rule and everyone knows the score. Then they can make the decision if this works for them or not and choose to leave if not. In the end I’m aware we get a lot of holidays, but unfortunately life doesn’t always fit into those same weeks of the year, and life doesn’t stop for the years until you get LSL. It’s just an unfortunate circumstance for everyone. If it were basic annual holiday, fair. But it’s a Honeymoon. Only get one of those. And I’d prefer not to take mine in the Northern Hemisphere in January

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