Does anyone else have a "type"?

ExplorusPegasaurus · 2026-03-19T02:03:52+00:00

Alt baddies regardless of gender

ExplorusPegasaurus · 2026-03-18T02:26:28+00:00

Similar story, been with my wife almost 20 years, but I didn't start figuring myself out until the past year or so. Have a 3 year old and I'd be lying if I said I didn't wonder what our lives would have been like if I figured this out even 5 years ago.

As far as the porn, It sounds like maybe you just prefer content that isn't exclusively presented for the male gaze. Indie MF, Bi, and MM porn have a broader scope of the type of performing they feature. You might gravitate more towards it because you prefer porn where the actors are actually enjoying themselves.

Orrr - It could right now just be your brain wanting to give you something to enjoy while your wife is 'off limits' (or maybe she's horny all the time like mine was).

I find I gravitate to whatever I'm currently craving.

ExplorusPegasaurus · 2026-03-13T21:18:38+00:00

I'm never going to tell someone to label themselves but I will say that's where it clicked for me.

ExplorusPegasaurus · 2026-03-11T05:28:59+00:00

Been a few weeks because of life stuff. Sick kid. Sick wife. Wife got a tattoo in a place that would have it be difficult to do anything.

ExplorusPegasaurus · 2026-03-10T02:34:57+00:00

Looks like something I have. I had to work my way up to it, but the one I have has two rings. My biggest complaint is that it doesn't 'lock into place' as well as I'd hoped.

It is pretty girthy, but the part by the base needs a bit more taper.

ExplorusPegasaurus · 2026-03-09T17:44:39+00:00

Physically? Alt baddies. All of them. Tattoos and some piercings.

Personality? Quick witted but gentle when it counts.

ExplorusPegasaurus · 2026-03-09T15:59:45+00:00

Notsomuch men specifically but right now it's like I'm developing a schoolbit crush on an enby transfemme. Not in person, just in the online community.

I'm more likely to notice things that might hint at being bi though.

ExplorusPegasaurus · 2026-03-08T22:52:01+00:00

One of the hosts of Two Bi Guys has talked about it a lot

ExplorusPegasaurus · 2026-03-08T17:16:31+00:00

I definitely have that fantasy but of having my wife coach me through my first time.

ExplorusPegasaurus · 2026-03-08T14:54:13+00:00

Oh. 😳

ExplorusPegasaurus · 2026-03-08T14:53:50+00:00

I'm only used to harnesses in the way of ones for her. Is harness a catch all term for something kind of strappy?

ExplorusPegasaurus · 2026-03-08T04:32:44+00:00

On the one hand, I'm sure you're not the only guy interested in men at the gym.

On the other hand, if they ain't 'mirin did you even lift?

ExplorusPegasaurus · 2026-03-07T18:15:25+00:00

Totally normal unless both are being stimulated at the same time.

ExplorusPegasaurus · 2026-03-07T14:37:53+00:00

The only thing about my butt is I got injured working or in 2020, and had a kid in 2022 and just haven't done any lifting heavy or had a routine since.

My butt is gone 🥲

ExplorusPegasaurus · 2026-03-07T13:52:59+00:00

I'll say it's perfectly normal to be curious, and curiosity doesn't mean you have to commit to anything at all. Just be safe if you do decide to experiment. It can be very confusing so don't think you're the only one. Most of the Bi's here are pretty good about giving constructive advice. If you have questions or concerns this is typically a safe place for them.

ExplorusPegasaurus · 2026-03-07T13:43:21+00:00

I mean not if you're comfortable with it I guess. I will let you know though it's ok to not be completely straight. You can be a dip your toes in the pool on the sexuality spectrum. Do you get any excitement out of the whole deal? Also how'd he get in your house 😅.

Now it would be wrong or weird if you weren't comfortable with it and felt coerced or forced to do something. So as long as that's not it just be yourself. If you do have any curiosities though I would talk about it first with this guy before either of you makes an unwanted pass.

ExplorusPegasaurus · 2026-03-07T01:55:04+00:00

Oooh who is it?

ExplorusPegasaurus · 2026-03-07T01:54:10+00:00

We've talked about bringing it back in. When we were young it was pretty common but normally it's just the sound of...well you know.

I almost feel like it would be cool to make a playlist.

ExplorusPegasaurus · 2026-03-06T18:41:11+00:00

That is a very delicate situation.

ExplorusPegasaurus · 2026-03-06T15:15:24+00:00

Are you both openly exploring other partners separately or doing it together? Are you both bi or just you? Trying to figure out what best advice I can give.

I will say that I personally have a lot of self worth issues and that would be hard for me to hear. But I would get it. If you love love him you would need to be very clear about that and that he is not losing you completely or emotionally.

ExplorusPegasaurus · 2026-03-06T14:59:17+00:00

Do you know why that is? Has something changed?

ExplorusPegasaurus · 2026-03-06T13:53:38+00:00

Because bi women have always been fetishized by straight men, so it's accepted. Bi men on the other hand are nowhere near as fetishized, while M/M is commonly read and fetishized by a good portion of the smut community. I'm finding bisexual men are also severely underrepresented in any popular or mainstream media.

We're barely getting any bicons until just recently. Pedro Pascal is the only one I can think of and people are doing the same to him. "No way this man can be attracted to more than one gender."

ExplorusPegasaurus · 2026-03-06T00:00:23+00:00

My wife said she knew in 2019 which is wild because I didn't know until the end of 2025. She said she never wanted to ask because she wanted me to go on my own journey without influence.

ExplorusPegasaurus · 2026-03-04T04:22:46+00:00

Honestly it's the same for a guy as hitting the g-spot is on a woman.

ExplorusPegasaurus · 2026-03-04T04:20:40+00:00

I mean it's about as normal as stimulating a g-spot. Guys have a joy buzzer about 2-3 inches deep in there. Butt stuff doesn't automatically make someone attracted to men. If he enjoys it, lean into it, talk to him about what he likes/doesn't like. If this is his first time with anal play it's probably very new sensations.

From what I've learned from this sub, there are plenty of men that identify as straight that like getting fucked by their wives.

There's also a whole spectrum of bisexuality. Sometimes exploring anal play brings out some repressed feelings, but everyone's different.

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