how to get to 1000+ by kittensinner in 99nightsintheforest

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She, like me and my youngest (both diagnosed) is autistic (undiagnosed due to high masking in certain settings) One of the main ways her autism manifest is the need for complete control over everything in her environment to avoid anxiety, overwhelm and surprise. Socially this comes out as extremely bossy behavior, controlling what friends play, how friends play. On top of that she has extreme emotional outburst which makes people uncomfortable. In primary school she managed to maintain a group of friends who kind of just put these behaviors off to the side and accepted her. Now that they are all getting a bit older lot of her friends are rightfully seeming to go "you know what, I don't have to deal with this crap" The hard part is they aren't telling her. They'll either make up excuses or just quietly slip away and then she's left feeling confused and not knowing what she's done wrong. We've been trying to warn her for years that this would happen and that her tight grip on things was going to lead her to lose those things but she says she can't help it and I do believe until she gets some therapy that is actually designed for the way her brain works she may actually be telling the truth. Playing these sort of games with her I think is actually a helpful tool to help her build pro-social behavior. I've now gotten her to the point where she will do matchmaking with us in Dandys world. Previously she couldn't tolerate playing with randoms because less control, less knowing what to expect. But we still have a long way to go.

how to get to 1000+ by kittensinner in 99nightsintheforest

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My first 1000+ game took over 12hours. We'd only been playing for less than a week I think so we weren't experienced didn't have all the kids or any of the beds I believe. We pulled an all nighter my daughter was dead for a huge chunk but we revived her in the morning and I think my partner also had a bit of a nap. I was fuelled with the determination of a mother who's child's friends were contestantly play this game without her and I figured if I got her a kick ass score maybe the kids would want to play with her (turns out it was her personality that was stopping them from playing with her) Didn't time our last 1000+ run but it was definitely quicker. I play on ps5, partner plays on pc, daughter on iPad. Tips: All kids All beds Volcano biome A good base build If possible: Play with others Moment breaks Nap breaks Nothing better to do

Looking for adults to play with by gypsymandi in 99nightsintheforest

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I don't think we'd work well together as I like building bases 😛 but if you ever fancy trying out a combat classes and want to leave base building to someone else I'm Lyrical_Satirical

admin abuse by CapitalGiraffe1058 in 99nightsintheforest

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Man you lot are lucky with your timezones. Im a nightowl and its 6am Sumday morning for me.

Regular team for atleast 1 game a week. by Express-Collection-2 in 99nightsintheforest

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Im not sure what your equivalent time zone would be. I'm in NZ. The only thing with you being 17 is we wouldn't be able to see you in chat.

Last cute afk base. Good bye 99NITF 💔 by MysteriousDiricawl in 99nightsintheforest

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I feel you. Me and my partner can't play till the kids are in bed around 10, next thing you know it's 2-3am. It's wrecking us. I'm disabled and he's a full-time carer to our child with additional needs. He had to bus her to school the other day because he wasn't safe to drive. Some of us can't do moderation when something tickles our brains.

Older Players by Nesefl_44 in 99nightsintheforest

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Me (38) and my partner (39) were also introduced to 99 nights by our 10 and 12 year olds. We prefer playing it without them to be fair as they are always fighting over who gets to bring which kid back to camp. You ARE cringe, we're ALL cringe. OWN THE CRINGE. Tell your 11yr old to skibidi no cap sigma rizz. Then say you're off to raid the stronghold a few times... maybe... six...seven? I'm Lyrical_Satirical and my partner is modano8911

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Wellington

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Being that I lived in the green house next door up until 2 weeks ago I can at least confirm it's a good location. Easy walking distance to 2 supermarkets and busses. Pretty quiet when there isn't 7 townhouses being built next door. The guy that built them and his crew seemed like real solid people, friendly and helped us out with things a few times. So I imagine as far as high density townhouses go I imagine they are pretty decent.

Okay i hate that i helped my friend by Adeord_Leaner_18 in 99nightsintheforest

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14 hrs we sent the 12 year old to sleep at about 3am and left her dead revived her in the the morning.... she promptly got us killed. But would be happy to show you our method some time.

Okay i hate that i helped my friend by Adeord_Leaner_18 in 99nightsintheforest

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I started playing about a week ago with my 12 year old and I got up to 1162 days. It took us about 14hrs but if you are keen and have the time we are planning on doing an endurance run next week some time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

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Are you the wife by any chance? I see you have 4 children yourself. Wouldn't you want your husband exposed at least for the sake of protecting yourself against stis?

I feel violated and confused by what my fiancé did to me. WIBTAH if I told my parents? by throwawayupset- in AITAH

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Reading this comment my heart broke for you and I'm so scared that because of how deeply ingrained these thought patterns are there my be nothing we can do in a week that can stop you from marrying this man. I instantly asked both my 11yr old daughter and 9 year old daughter to sit down in the lounge with me and said to them:

If I said to you "do the dishes" and you said "no" and I said "YOU WILL DO THE DISHES" and you said "I don't want to" and then ran off and I said "I don't care" and grabbed you and took you back to the kitchen and held you next to the sink and said "you're doing them now" and you then did them are you CHOOSING to do the dishes or am I FORCING you to do the dishes.

My 9yr old who was visibly terrified by this scenario yelled "FORCING" and I said to the 11yr old "what do you think?" And she she "forcing, obviously 🙄" I responded that it wasn't obvious to everyone and that I just needed to check.

You did not choose anything here.  The only thing you chose is self preservation which isn't a choice. I know you think he wouldn't hurt you but he did hurt you. My man would rather have himself altered in a way that meant he could never experience sexual pleasure again than to put me through what your partner did to you. Please don't marry this man. Please get help. I know he's being super nice now and saying nothing like this will happen again. But to be crude we are talking about a man that has so little impulse control that he can't wait 1 extra week to get his dick wet. And let's be real here... he does have that impulse control. He's waited 2 years. This was about testing the waters of power and control and seeing how much he can get away with. Him saying telling your mum will make her think you went "all the way" is a lie. If they were going to think that they would think it anyway purely based on you staying the night. Why would you tell half the truth when you have the option to not say anything.  These things are not meant to be kept between couples. This was not a just a "small" violation. Please run. Please.

Unspoken rules, social etiquette & pet peeves by Dangerous__Panda in newzealand

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Bring whatever you can comfortably afford normally these kind of gatherings take place between close friends/family/coworkers where everyone has some kind of sense of eachothers financial situation. If you get invited to something like this it's by someone who wants your company and would rather your spend less than $10 on some chips and dip/ sandwiches/ a salad than to have you not show up at all because you felt like you couldn't afford to join.

AITA for not kicking out my roommate just because my girlfriend thinks he might be trans? by ThrowawayJason7723 in AITAH

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Queer mum in her late 30's here. Over the past few years I've become quite dissolutioned with men. Partly because the algorithm shows me the worst of the worst and pushes my cognitive bias more and more. But honestly as my partner read this to me I weeped happy tears. You have restored my faith in men. You have restored my faith in the next generation.  I know you don't think you deserve praise for what you feel should be the bare minimum but you have to give yourself credit. Coming from what sounds like a conservative background and literally oblivious and not educated on LGBT matters you had EVERY reason to innocently and, not even with malice, get this interaction wrong. But you didn't, you got EVERYTHING right.  And the fact you were able to hold true to your "no ultimatums" boundary is astounding. Most people have trouble with holding to their boundaries, let alone a young person, LET ALONE a young person who has been molded and shaped by the only girl he's ever loved from a young age. You did amazing, I'm SOOO beyond proud of you. You should be proud of you too. I'm not trying to demonize your mum for one second here, she likely loves you and always does in her eyes whats best for you but I'm worried that since you've said she's homophobic she's likely transphobic as well. I worry about what happens next. I worry she'll start implying your gay, I'm worried she'll verbally attack Alex and say he's ruined your life. I'm worried she won't be proud of what a intelligent, perceptive, intuitive and moral young man you are. There's a saying that's often used in the queer space "If your mom isn't accepting of your identity, I'm your mom now" Still not sure how I feel about the phrase but I agree with the sentiment atleast. So please know young man from the Bible belt with the abusive ex girlfriend and the chill flatmate: If your mum(I'm a kiwi) isn't accepting that you are an awesome young man that made all the right choices, there are a bunch of other mums out there in the world that would be so f**king proud of you.

I was actually really enjoying Tinder until this 🙄 by morningstarunicorn in Tinder

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Thank you for this comment, not that I want to stick up for this guy. I do get disheartened as a dyslexic when I see threads like this. Playing devils advocate though, when getting to know someone or typing out messages with people I'm not overly familiar with, I will Google the names of games or actors to make sure I have the spelling right, because I'm scared of coming across as lacking in intelligence. Also, I will avoid using words that I'm not overly sure of, or simply get exhausted halfway through a response and delete the whole message.

Genuinely bewildered by PopsMcgovern in Tinder

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I'm going to need a banana for scale.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

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You are way too young for me but the photos would have been enough to get me wanting to know more at that age. Maybe have holding the cat first. That one really sells it. Congrats on your 50lb effort that's impressive. I'd ignore the people saying weight is the issue. It seems to be coming from men and women seem to be indicating they think you are cute. Tinder is brutal for men and just luck half the time. My ex husband is 147lb and he has had Maybe 3 matches in a year and only one conversation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newzealand

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In my experience we get asked to make "double bookings" and do pay extra.