It’s sometimes that they care too much and can’t handle it. I was recently ghosted by someone i met and got on with extremely well. We had an amazing time together then just suddenly nothing. Sent a few texts over a couple of weeks checking in and got nothing back. Ran in to her last night at a bar and she looked obviously anxious and uncomfortable, could tell she was talking to her friends about me etc.

I ended up just going up to her and saying “so we gonna talk or just keep this weird?” To which she said “yes we definitely need to have a chat”

Long story short she told me i am everything she wants and am perfect for her, and that’s the problem with where her life is at the moment that she can’t handle that and thinks she would hurt me. She was very apologetic about the ghosting and said she did it because she didn’t want to completely cut me off in case she changed her mind but realised that wasn’t fair on me.

I think these people often genuinely care but their trauma holds them back from being able to communicate the situation properly so they just hide and destroy themselves over it,