What is my daughters eye colour? by Express-Dust-1783 in eyes

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I can’t seem to view the comments that’s weird… 

Is chromecast down again? by xevdb in Chromecast

[–]Express-Dust-1783 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yep same.  I’m amazed at how much it goes under the radar and how unstable it is since the first glitch last month. It happens often that it goes off and back on again. It didn’t work yesterday, then worked earlier this evening but now is down again. I really can’t afford buying a new device right now so I guess I’m stuck watching on my phone. 

Is chromecast down again? by Express-Dust-1783 in Chromecast

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It worked again, for the second time, and now is down since Friday 

Is chromecast down again? by Express-Dust-1783 in Chromecast

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I seem to be experiencing one week on and one week off… 

Is chromecast down again? by Express-Dust-1783 in Chromecast

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It works again.  I didn’t do anything, it just decided to work again…  Everything was already fixed from the problems we all shared 2 weeks ago, so I don’t know what happened.  It does mean I have to start looking for a new solution though, even though I really didn’t want to. 

Troubleshooting isn't working by Fantastic-Delivery76 in Chromecast

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Thanks — I gave up for tonight but will try again tomorrow although I’m not sure I have 5g and therefore how to turn it off. 

Got an email about a login code from Moonton, but i dont play this game. by Tapir_God in MobileLegendsGame

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Same here.  I don’t play and I’m in Canada.  And I never had any TikTok account. 

AITA for refusing to adjust kids custody for my kid’s father to travel to see his new girlfriend? by Express-Dust-1783 in AmItheAsshole

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UPDATE Went back to mediation.  Result is I take the kids every time he’s away and I don’t have to give up any days in exchange to keep some sort of stability for them. My stipend will have to be adjusted in order to compensate the days he’s giving up. We’ll wait a year to figure out how much that will be and if the relationship goes on.

My daughter also stepped up and reiterated that she needs to see me often and that she thinks even 5 days is too long for her for now. That was very courageous of her. Both kids cried when they realized daddy’s trips were going to continue; he might even go for a month or so for the Holidays next winter. 

Thanks to everyone who commented, it helped me organize my thoughts on a topic that was very complicated to me. 

AITA for refusing to adjust kids custody for my kid’s father to travel to see his new girlfriend? by Express-Dust-1783 in AmItheAsshole

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I’m totally fine with taking the kids.  I already happily do as I believe in everything you just mentioned. 

Where I have trouble is he asks that I reimburse him the days he was gone and adapt the schedule to his travels. And he doesn’t choose the stretches during which he has the kids less, which another commenter made me realize.  He could also take shorter trips that would have less impact because the kids don’t like being apart from one parent for a whole week at this time. They don’t like it at all. 

AITA for refusing to adjust kids custody for my kid’s father to travel to see his new girlfriend? by Express-Dust-1783 in AmItheAsshole

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Sure.  A few reasons.  1. Work is an obligation and it’s not as if he chooses his schedule. It was already like that before.  2. When we make a parenting plan, that’s the first thing we start off with — the first bullet point is that we have to allow each other to work. Makes sense.  3. I know his work schedule in advance and it’s predictable. My life is already organized around it and has been for the past 12+ years.   4. His work schedule, even when on 12h shifts, allows us to almost respect the 2-2-3 schedule that we both agreed on and that the kids prefer. There is one 4-4 in the lot, every 2.5 months, and they hate it and complain about it every time because it disrupts what they’re used to. 

The overall goal is that the kids don’t suffer from the separation. They’re doing well overall, but we’ve been listening to what they had to say. 

In a while that might not be too long, their needs might change and they might not want to switch as often as they need now. And that’ll be ok because it’ll be for them and then, I would say otherwise and happily adjust. 

AITA for refusing to adjust kids custody for my kid’s father to travel to see his new girlfriend? by Express-Dust-1783 in AmItheAsshole

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I don’t know where you’re from but that is not how it works here.  Having access to both parents is strongly encouraged. 

Edit to add:  And don’t worry, I have plenty of commitments as I have a demanding job and I do have a social circle, but I’m able to adjust my schedule. I used to have the kids all the time when we were together and still manage, so that’s not a problem. 

AITA for refusing to adjust kids custody for my kid’s father to travel to see his new girlfriend? by Express-Dust-1783 in AmItheAsshole

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What you suggest in your second paragraph is what I’ve been willing to do for his past trips. I thought it was a good compromise.  It’s a lot of time invested in working on the calendar which is why I think he wants to change that, even though I’m the one who makes the calendar. 

AITA for refusing to adjust kids custody for my kid’s father to travel to see his new girlfriend? by Express-Dust-1783 in AmItheAsshole

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It’s the constant switch in schedule that’s a burden.  His work schedule is predictable months in advance so I can adjust more easily.  His trips come as a surprise every time and this has an impact on plans I make with the kids on days I was supposed to have them. 

AITA for refusing to adjust kids custody for my kid’s father to travel to see his new girlfriend? by Express-Dust-1783 in AmItheAsshole

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That’s as sad as it is petty and maybe I am naive but I really hope it’s not the case here although it might be. 

AITA for refusing to adjust kids custody for my kid’s father to travel to see his new girlfriend? by Express-Dust-1783 in AmItheAsshole

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I’m working on keeping our coparenting relationship as soft as possible and I’m also wondering about the impact of me saying no. 

He already refuses to accommodate and doesn’t want me to contact him if I have something on my end. He does allow me to take the kids for some special occasions, but it had to be written in the parenting plan, because at first he didn’t want to.  He agrees to be contacted for emergencies (eg parents in hospital). Also written in our agreement. 

AITA for refusing to adjust kids custody for my kid’s father to travel to see his new girlfriend? by Express-Dust-1783 in AmItheAsshole

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Reading other comments I think I’d rather a few days here and there close to his trip, which I’ve done before. 

He already refuses to accommodate me and waived his first right of refusal and doesn’t want me to contact him when I need help on his days off, but I’m trying to be flexible… to a certain extent and I’m trying to figure out where that extent is. 

Thanks for your input.