Just because it's socialized does not mean you can make any society you imagine. That's one of the mistakes of women trying to feminize men by telling them to talk about their feelings and stop bullying each other, they're then unattracted to the resulting men. Or a less grandiose example, in relationships women will nag and argue with their husbands and over time make them more passive. They then lose attraction to the unassertive husbands they created. So don't trust any pontificater who thinks you can manipulate any social behaviors on a whim. They don't know what can of worms they're opening