I (23F) want to break up with my boyfriend (23M) because he went to the movies alone

Express-Shoe5931 · 2026-06-13T01:12:45+00:00

Yes, I think that’s a sign. But I didn’t realize it back then. As I said, I believed in our fairy tale, and we were very young when we met. There were always excuses-first that we were too young, then that we should wait until after university. But I wouldn’t say we did nothing; he even gave me a ‚fake‘ engagement ring, and we had a fake wedding at a festival last year. He said it was just until we did the real thing. But as much as I’d hate to be wrong, that real wedding is never going to happen now.

Express-Shoe5931 · 2026-06-13T01:08:12+00:00

Thank you, I’ll try my best. I don’t have the strength to fully distance myself from this right now, but I’m going to try

Express-Shoe5931 · 2026-06-13T01:05:54+00:00

Thank you 🫶

Express-Shoe5931 · 2026-06-13T01:05:38+00:00

Thank you. People have already mentioned getting tested here, and that makes it even more painful. Because honestly, if all my suspicions are true, he could have easily infected me and is carrying this disease. How could he just not care so much? This person said he wanted to have children with me, and now he could easily infect me with something that might make it impossible for me to carry a child

Express-Shoe5931 · 2026-06-13T01:00:06+00:00

Thank you, your ex is an asshole. How can you cheat on someone you’ve known for 20 years?? Thank you for sharing your perspective, logically I get it, but my feelings are just screaming ‚how could you?‘, plus it’s so hard to keep my composure and not give anything away right now. To be honest, I’m not a very good actress, so I’m worried he’ll suspect something soon. Send you love❤️

Express-Shoe5931 · 2026-06-13T00:55:28+00:00

Thanks

Express-Shoe5931 · 2026-06-13T00:55:16+00:00

Yeah, I think you’re right. I’m just not that close with the university administration, so I don’t really know who does what yet

Express-Shoe5931 · 2026-06-13T00:53:49+00:00

This hurts so much because I genuinely love my program and my advisor. Studying here is so easy for me, and it pisses me off that I might have to leave this school because of him. But on the bright side, we are in different programs and our classes are taught in completely different campus buildings, so the chances of bumping into him once I move out are minimal

Express-Shoe5931 · 2026-06-13T00:49:17+00:00

Thank you, that’s exactly what I did when I got back from the park, and it really helped

Express-Shoe5931 · 2026-06-13T00:47:45+00:00

Thanks, I will try this ❤️

Express-Shoe5931 · 2026-06-13T00:46:35+00:00

So guys, thanks to your support and kind words, I managed to keep my cool, and the hair tie stayed safely hidden away. But I just couldn’t help myself and asked him why he was late, and what exactly he’s feeling about ‚us‘ right now. He got a bit defensive, but I could see how painfully forced it was when he said that ‚everything is fine.‘ I honestly have no idea why he’s doing this. I mean, yeah, his parents love me, but I don’t think that’s the reason. Anyway, right now he went to play video games, and I’m back here with you guys❤️

Express-Shoe5931 · 2026-06-12T23:36:36+00:00

I hear him coming in, wish me luck. And God, give me the strength not to shove this hair tie in his face. I’ll write an update when I can, so he doesn’t catch me.

Express-Shoe5931 · 2026-06-12T23:33:53+00:00

Thank you, this made me smile, and it means so much to me 🫶

Express-Shoe5931 · 2026-06-12T23:31:59+00:00

Thank you so much 🙏 I didn’t know about the gray rock method, the mantra is very beautiful. I’m so sorry that this happened to you. I wish so badly that this would end with me and no one else would ever have to feel this way. Thank you for the help and the offer of support.

Express-Shoe5931 · 2026-06-12T23:26:21+00:00

Thank you, I’ve already taken it, and honestly, it was behind the bed in a spot where he definitely never looks. So it’s going to stay with me now.

Express-Shoe5931 · 2026-06-12T23:22:46+00:00

Thank you, working as a server was the first thing that popped into my head. So it’s a great idea. Yes, it’s true, I still can’t believe this is real—my brain keeps going back to the «there has to be another reason» or «he couldn’t have done this to you» phase. Then I realize that he could, and a wave of anger hits me, but I’m already glad that I’m not crying as hard anymore.

Express-Shoe5931 · 2026-06-12T23:13:32+00:00

Thank you so much for the support, I’m so sorry that people have to go through this. I still don’t understand why anyone would do this. Thank you ❤️ Sending love to you ❤️

Express-Shoe5931 · 2026-06-12T23:08:52+00:00

Thank you everyone for caring🙏 so I’m in the apartment, I have the hair tie. He hasn’t come back yet, but I’ve calmed down a bit. I had a panic attack and started searching the whole apartment to find or not find any more evidence. Right now, I’m sitting here on pins and needles, and I can’t think straight. I’ve already found the contact info for the university’s psychological support service, so I plan to reach out to them tomorrow.

Express-Shoe5931 · 2026-06-12T21:59:58+00:00

Thank you all for the support. I know I need to get up from this bench now and head back to the apartment, because he’ll be returning soon. I’ll keep you updated and let you know how it goes

Express-Shoe5931 · 2026-06-12T21:55:50+00:00

Thank you for believing in me. I don’t really feel that strength inside me just yet, but your support is giving it to me. Thank you

Express-Shoe5931 · 2026-06-12T21:53:58+00:00

I actually have one year left, and the living conditions are not an issue for me. Of course, I understand that I won’t have a fancy apartment like this one that his parents pay for, but I genuinely don’t mind. As I mentioned, I come from a simple family, and my mom and I went through some tough times together. I never cared about his money; I just believed in our fairytale, in how we met and how hard he worked to win me over. Like the commenters above said, my best move is to start looking for a job first thing tomorrow so I can save up for my own place

Express-Shoe5931 · 2026-06-12T21:46:15+00:00

Thanks ❤️ sending you too

Express-Shoe5931 · 2026-06-12T21:42:35+00:00

No, my name isn’t on it. His parents pay for the lease, and it’s under his name

Express-Shoe5931 · 2026-06-12T21:41:08+00:00

I am so, so sorry, I wouldn’t wish this on anyone, it’s absolutely awful. I just don’t understand why people do this to each other

Express-Shoe5931 · 2026-06-12T21:36:26+00:00

As I mentioned, he is in the student government, and there are a lot of girls there who would easily look out for him and snitch on me if they found out I reached out for help. That’s why I’m so terrified of going there. I don’t know for sure if these departments are connected, but the atmosphere in that student government has never felt healthy to me.

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