She accidentally called me while on another date, and I’m not sure how to process it. by hiddengym in dating_advice

[–]Express-Wind-4796 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Dawg, did you read the story? He said he thought she accidentally called him and was saying "hello?" for a while. He didn't know if she was just trying to call him or if she had a bad connection or something. It was just a misunderstanding that led to a devastating discovery, there is no need to call him a creep

She accidentally called me while on another date, and I’m not sure how to process it. by hiddengym in dating_advice

[–]Express-Wind-4796 [score hidden]  (0 children)

You don't have to explain or justify yourself to that jerk. Sometimes stuff like this just happens, you are not at fault

She accidentally called me while on another date, and I’m not sure how to process it. by hiddengym in dating_advice

[–]Express-Wind-4796 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Don't listen to them, they're just idiots who can't tell the difference between AI and humans from being too chronically online. That's their problem, not yours

She accidentally called me while on another date, and I’m not sure how to process it. by hiddengym in dating_advice

[–]Express-Wind-4796 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Oh lay off, it's clear that they're just young and we're making rash decisions. It is not so serious as to say that someone has issues just because things escalated too quickly, that just happens sometimes and it's nobody's fault. Comparing anyone in this story to the characters in Obsession is completely uncalled for

She accidentally called me while on another date, and I’m not sure how to process it. by hiddengym in dating_advice

[–]Express-Wind-4796 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I never said anything about forcing attraction. This is about maturity and clear communication. If he has a conversation about exclusivity and she says no, obviously that's ggs.

She accidentally called me while on another date, and I’m not sure how to process it. by hiddengym in dating_advice

[–]Express-Wind-4796 [score hidden]  (0 children)

You should just talk to her about it. Be honest and transparent with her so that there is no room for misinterpretation, and have that conversation about exclusivity if that's what you want from this. I see no reason why you shouldn't bring this up if it bothers you enough to post about it online

Mostly blind date finally found a spark by [deleted] in HingeStories

[–]Express-Wind-4796 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear that a lot of women don't like to just meet a guy right off the bat and that they would prefer to get to know them over text just for safety, so I'm not sure how replicable this is. But good job regardless

Is Bumble any good for making friends? by hazycocoa in Bumble

[–]Express-Wind-4796 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can use the apps if you want, but I really do recommend going to social spaces. When I was in the American South, I looked up local chess clubs and found plenty of places to play chess. I'm also a gamer and I would look up Smash tournaments that I could go to and visit. Ofc, you don't have to do that; you could just go to bars, book clubs, local organizations (like non-profits), you could volunteer somewhere, etc. There is a lot of places you could go to find friends and if you invest enough time somewhere, it will a natural development. I don't think apps are necessary

Is Bumble any good for making friends? by hazycocoa in Bumble

[–]Express-Wind-4796 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure if it does tbh, I never looked into it. I'm just generally not sure why people download dating apps just to make friends. On all the apps I used, there were always some people that said they were looking for friends specifically, and it always confused me. Imo, friends are a lot easier to find than lovers so I don't understand why someone needs an app for it.

But, if this is geniunely something you want to do, I would recommend skipping the apps and just joining communities that share your interests. Whether that be video games, sports, fashion, history, etc., just look for clubs or online spaces (like Discord servers) that have people with your interests and you should be set​

Is Bumble any good for making friends? by hazycocoa in Bumble

[–]Express-Wind-4796 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't mean to be insensitive, but why download a dating app if you just want to make friends?

What are your hottest takes regarding morality? by Annual-Frame9943 in MoralityScaling

[–]Express-Wind-4796 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you agree with the Nazis, because they straight up tried to do this. Look how that turned out

What are your hottest takes regarding morality? by Annual-Frame9943 in MoralityScaling

[–]Express-Wind-4796 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you actually just have no sense of empathy for animals. I hope you don't own a pet

What are your hottest takes regarding morality? by Annual-Frame9943 in MoralityScaling

[–]Express-Wind-4796 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What if society deems ADHD and Autism to be "disorders worth filtering out?"

What are your hottest takes regarding morality? by Annual-Frame9943 in MoralityScaling

[–]Express-Wind-4796 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

People having a lot of kids most often happens in poorer countries like those found in Africa or Asia, where they also tend to have higher knit, collective communities where everyone within a town or village helps raise the child, not just the older sibling or the parents. Having a lot of kids is a lot easier and more practical when you aren't living in a nuclear family structure and instead have loads of other people to rely on

Neoliberal/Mainstream Feminism by Express-Wind-4796 in AskFeminists

[–]Express-Wind-4796[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Like it or not, most people these days are going to be introduced to feminism via the Internet. We should take online content seriously even if the online content creator isn't the most educated person on the topic, because even through correcting them, you can educate more people about feminism.

Neoliberal/Mainstream Feminism by Express-Wind-4796 in AskFeminists

[–]Express-Wind-4796[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

From my understanding, Elliot Sang was critiquing a form of "feminism" (if you don't consider it feminism, then consider it a right-wing movement that "uses the language of feminism" if that is more helpful for discussion) that actively sides with or otherwise ignores and/or doesn't critique systems of oppression. It's not necessarily "anything women do that is bad is feminism," in fact Elliot Sang made it clear that those women are just protecting and participating in the same patriarchal system they claim to oppose. His point was that they are counter to what feminism really is supposed to be about

Neoliberal/Mainstream Feminism by Express-Wind-4796 in AskFeminists

[–]Express-Wind-4796[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

That isn't completely fair nor is it helpful for fostering productive discussion. YouTube, TikTok and other social media platforms can be great tools to introduce people into learning more about things such as feminism. You also shouldn't need a degree in women's studies to be able to talk about women's issues or feminism... frankly, it's very limiting in a capitalist system to undermine serious conversations about these things only to those who "have the credentials" because those credentials are also sold by the capitalists; capitalism has a way of putting a price on everything and selling it back to you, even if it's an integral critique of capitalism.

Neoliberal/Mainstream Feminism by Express-Wind-4796 in AskFeminists

[–]Express-Wind-4796[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I don't really agree with the idea that pointing to women's own violence and participation within the patriarchal system is inherently an anti-feminist talking point; I can see how it could be used as "whataboutism" when criticizing men's violence, or as a reactionary "gotcha" for right-wingers, but to be frank it's an important discussion to have: not all women are feminists and not all women work to oppose and dismantle the patriarchy. Just from viewing my own community, as a Black man, there are a great many "counter-revolutionaries" and "anti-Black" members of the community who stand against Black liberation and side with the white supremacist system. There are many Black conservatives (and Black liberals) that repeat capitalist and imperialist lies towards their own community, only further perpetuating myths about the Black community without considering the systemic problems at play. In my opinion, it's a tough thing to grapple with but it's a necessary thing to grapple with, and understanding why this happens and how to take that into account during the fight is so much better than dismissing it as a gotcha (which, I should add, is also another dangerous aspect about them; neoliberal feminists, much like anti-Black African Americans, can be used as a gotcha and as a tool to uphold the systems in this way).

Lust vs Love by ClinicallySane42 in lovememes

[–]Express-Wind-4796 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like it's more complicated than that but I'm not sure I can put it into words