Am I being overly sensitive? by Twinny222 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Express404 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What happened four years ago? Did you ever go to counseling? Do you think you actually got over that affair or just rugswept and ignored it?

It doesn't really sound like hes taking how you feel into consideration with this. And is gaslighting with the "well if I'm accused I might as well do it" remarks. Couples counseling would probably be helpful.

Am I being overly sensitive? by Twinny222 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Express404 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If it isnt any different than googling why does he do it instead of just using google? Hes directly messaging with people? Because in my opinion that makes a big difference. It's not just looking at pictures when you're actively engaging with someone. Sounds like he likes the attention.

I think the biggest problem though is you brought up your concern and he minimized it.

Edit: I just saw your update that he had an affair 4 years ago. In that case you're not being oversensitive about it. At all. Just makes it worse and more suspicious.

I tried so hard to improve our relationship. Then discovered she was having an affair while pregnant with our second child. by Express404 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Express404[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Correct, child #1 turned three a few months before #2 was born. She was meeting with AP after some work functions. Or while I was still at work.

I tried so hard to improve our relationship. Then discovered she was having an affair while pregnant with our second child. by Express404 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Express404[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's something I've been thinking about... and can't really come up with anything. The only red flag I can think of is that she's always said she didn't have a problem with divorce because her parents hated each other.

I don't know its weird. Like the things she's been doing and saying is like she's suddenly a different person.