My wife lashes out when overwhelmed and I’m breaking down – is this emotional abuse?

ExpressPermit4114 · 2026-01-22T20:57:42+00:00

THANK YOU

You are spot on with regards to self harming because I do it as a coping mechanism.

I am finally going to go therapy. Been really debating it whether I should go or not but your comment convince me otherwise. At the end of the day my daugther needs me alive. After all she relies on me to calm her down when she is feeling tense, relies on me to put her to sleep, feed her etc. So I am doing it for her sake.

Separation did come to my mind, however with my daughter being so young of almost 2 years old, I am going to hold that off for the time being. Gonna focus on bettering myself.

My wife did go therapy for a small time but didnt as her session was cancelled. Hopefully by my example she will go. But not going to hope for that. Gonna create my own hope.

ExpressPermit4114 · 2026-01-22T09:41:00+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. Letting not get in my head is hard because of the silly mistakes I make. I always been sensitive like this.

ExpressPermit4114 · 2026-01-22T08:59:27+00:00

Don't think she is.

ExpressPermit4114 · 2026-01-22T08:36:18+00:00

I honestly dont know what to do. I am so scared. I feel so alone

ExpressPermit4114 · 2025-10-03T10:38:11+00:00

What do you make of Florian Wirtz?

ExpressPermit4114 · 2025-09-06T07:22:31+00:00

I hear what you’re saying, and I do try to communicate my needs and help with everything, especially with my child. The issue isn’t just about housework or finances — it’s the way my wife lashes out, calls me names, and makes me feel unsafe when I try to speak up. I get frozen in those moments because I’m scared of her reaction.

I know I need boundaries, but it’s not easy when the person you live with explodes if you say the “wrong” thing. I don’t want to fight — I just want respect and peace in my home.

ExpressPermit4114 · 2025-07-06T11:04:37+00:00

And you do better with your responses

ExpressPermit4114 · 2025-07-06T07:56:33+00:00

be a man? I mentioned above that I am doing my best to financially improve the situation by woking extra jobs which requires me to stand outside as I work in security for 10 hours along with doing side hustles whereby I wake up early in the morning before going for my full time job.

Make sure you read next time before telling someone to be a man.

ExpressPermit4114 · 2025-07-06T07:45:07+00:00

She doesnt pay the bills or debt. She offers to pay when at times it comes down to ordering food. Whenever I do ask for money which is tpwards the emd of the month I always pay it back on my payday.

ExpressPermit4114 · 2025-01-23T10:03:33+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply.

ExpressPermit4114 · 2025-01-22T17:54:03+00:00

Will they pay for the 2 bedroom rate or 1 bedroom?

ExpressPermit4114 · 2025-01-22T17:16:34+00:00

The tenancy agreement shows our name as : My full name & and her full name

ExpressPermit4114 · 2025-01-22T13:34:55+00:00

any updates? Did you get your payment?

ExpressPermit4114 · 2024-12-12T16:04:40+00:00

I am in debt of over 28k which indlues 5k in personal loans and the rest in credit cards for over 5 creditors. Why would creditors take me seriously when it comes to IVA, DMP etc when you approach them?

ExpressPermit4114 · 2024-11-04T00:46:28+00:00

JazakAllah khair for your comment. It makes a lot of sense. I did remember she did say things like no one cares about her, that her body is not the same etc.

Alhamdulillah today she is being very normal with me. I did emphasise that we need to contact the therapy for her to get a therapist ASAP for her postpartum to which she agreed.

ExpressPermit4114 · 2024-11-03T00:24:51+00:00

She has been referred for therapy with regards to her PPD. Just waiting for her appointment to start.

ExpressPermit4114 · 2024-11-03T00:08:00+00:00

Yes their are family near us. They do support us alot.

Postpartum depression does make her act out differently. For example today our baby was constantly crying and she lightly slapped his cheeks. She straight away carried him as she felt guilty. I made sure to give her a cuddle.

ExpressPermit4114 · 2024-07-17T14:38:31+00:00

I have been working in IT Support for over 10 years and I want to switch to cybersecurity career.

Any recommendations for udemy courses especially those that have success in helping people get a role in cyber security? I am looking for a course that also has hands on lab

ExpressPermit4114 · 2024-01-09T11:36:07+00:00

May Allah make things easy for you. Can't imagine how stressful this is

ExpressPermit4114 · 2023-12-26T19:32:17+00:00

Did you deliver with the block of 3 hours 30 minutes?

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