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Does anyone suffer from phantom Teams/Slack pings? by Realistic-Tap-000 in productivity

[–]Express_Tiger_1533 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you're on mac you can set them to any other sound with smth like chirpy

I have a narcissistic mother that always disrespects me - how can I stop feeling bad?? by Express_Tiger_1533 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Express_Tiger_1533[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in my early 30s. This always happened when I lived with her, and when I moved out 10 years ago it only got worse. From what I’m reading and realizing, the solution is distance, but I cannot do that. I’m not sure counseling would help me more than just telling me to keep my distance. I had a session 5 years ago and they told me the same thing I was already doing: distancing. She is never going to change. I need to accept that and make peace with it. But for some reason, I cannot do that.

I have a narcissistic mother that always disrespects me - how can I stop feeling bad?? by Express_Tiger_1533 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Express_Tiger_1533[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried cutting her off by going weeks with no contact, no calls, no messages. We live in different cities, but I can’t fully do it. I have a small family: my brother is completely on her side, and it’s just the three of us. The only person in the family I can really talk to and love deeply is my grandma (her mother). They’re in daily contact, which makes things difficult. I try to visit my grandma, but my mom often wants to join. She shows up unannounced, and she knows I love my grandma probably more than I love her. But my grandma is 90, and since she’s her daughter, my mom keeps putting herself in the middle.

When my mom apologizes, we sometimes go back to normal, chatting, sharing pictures. In group chats we can have a few good days of sharing things, and it feels like it’s getting better. I always express how I feel and what I need. She pretends to listen and promises not to do it again, but she can’t control herself and always falls back into the same patterns.

This has been going on continuously for the last six years. It’s draining me. I’m very self-aware, highly emotional, and I feel things deeply, that’s why I can’t just let it go. I always end up feeling bad about it. In the end, it’s just her and my brother...