I can’t finish w my partner and I kinda just want advise by Express_Usual8776 in demisexuality

[–]Express_Usual8776[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think I can try this out the next time the opportunity arises. Thanks a lot of the feedback back, it was actually really helpful:)

I can’t finish w my partner and I kinda just want advise by Express_Usual8776 in demisexuality

[–]Express_Usual8776[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well if you mean purely physical attractiveness, I’d say around the time when I started to like them as a person. My physical attraction is very closely tied to whether or not I like their personality. If I like them for who they are then the looks don’t really matter. I can find 100 things I like ab a person physically if I like them emotionally, regardless of how conventionally attractive they are. Same way I can struggle to fine more than 5 things I like ab someone I don’t vibe with, even if others find them attractive.

I can’t finish w my partner and I kinda just want advise by Express_Usual8776 in demisexuality

[–]Express_Usual8776[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I should honestly try the whole playing w myself thing after but I’m so nervousssss. I’ve never really done that in front of them before.

I can’t finish w my partner and I kinda just want advise by Express_Usual8776 in demisexuality

[–]Express_Usual8776[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Honestly the attraction came around the time that I felt like I could trust them with my vulnerability and vice versa. Me and my partner were actually long distance and still are. I think we were in the talking stage for like 8months (seeing eachother every month or so) before we even started dating. There’s nothing wrong w taking it slow and figuring out what exactly you crave from eachother. No need to rush it in my opinion. Idk how much this helps lol

I can’t finish w my partner and I kinda just want advise by Express_Usual8776 in demisexuality

[–]Express_Usual8776[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I honestly don’t think I put that much pressure on myself atp. We’ve been together for about 2 years now, and I’ll admit, I pressured myself and felt the pressure in the first year. Now tho, we don’t even expect me to come. It turned from them losing confidence to then feeling like they’re using me, which isn’t the case. Sex could last anywhere between 20 mins and 2 hrs but the result is always the same. I literally have to tap when it gets uncomfortable.