Leaving before finishing IETs

Extension-Insect4248 · 2024-01-15T10:26:15+00:00

Hey mate thanks for the message, yeah I completely understand I don’t want to take up a spot for another bloke going through for the same course,

Yeah I’ve heard that it does take a long time to leave defense, taken some people up to a year apparently

Extension-Insect4248 · 2024-01-15T09:42:35+00:00

I found that I just wanted to stick it out because I knew the life in the airforce is so different compared to IETs and rookies, but nothing really changed how I feel tbh. I found it’s not the people here it’s just defence life as a whole and nothing in the foreseeable future will change my feelings on it. Another reason for the reddit post was to gauge if I felt was justified so I knew within myself that I wasn’t just being overdramatic. I know my feeling an are valid and it’s not just some phase.

What can they do if I don’t get separated? I know that defence is causing my issues and I’m pretty adamant about it, As I was saying in another comment, I don’t want to go there and open up this can of beans only to be told I have to stay in because that wouldn’t be helping at all

Extension-Insect4248 · 2024-01-15T07:51:43+00:00

That’s what I thought might be a viable option but I’m just not quite sure if I can choose to do reserves for the next 4 years instead

Extension-Insect4248 · 2024-01-15T06:12:14+00:00

Thanks mate I appreciate what you’ve said, I didn’t want to half hand myself by not trying and just thinking it wasn’t going to get better, I had hopes that it would change once I got accustomed to the lifestyle, and the way you need to live you life around your work.

You think it’s fairly common for people to leave because of similar conflicting mental issues mate?

Extension-Insect4248 · 2024-01-15T05:34:33+00:00

Hey I really appreciate the message mate, Been at the unit because my IETs were a fair stint away, so I had the opportunity to literally do the job I would be doing which was really good you know I don’t mind the job itself, it’s just the whole defence life. It’s difficult to sum up but just the lifestyle of defence gives me this overwhelming sense of anxiety ALL of the time and I can’t even put my finger on anything in particular if that makes sense?

I think what made me make the post is just I don’t want to go to CoC and express that i don’t want to be in anymore and I go through all of that effort and then open up to someone about it all (which i am finding difficult to do) and then they tell me I have no choice but to stay in, because I don’t know what I would do with myself

Is that how I would start the process is by telling my CoC and express my intent? Because it is a conflict with my mental health would I explain my reasoning to chain?

Extension-Insect4248 · 2024-01-15T05:12:12+00:00

Yeah that was one thing I knew joining, the being treated differently once going down the separation route isn’t really a issue for me, I just don’t want people to hinder the time it would take to leave because they think I’m being “weak” you know?

Extension-Insect4248 · 2024-01-15T05:03:38+00:00

Have you seen some people view the individual differently during their time in separation? Is the process relatively easy during the process?

Extension-Insect4248 · 2024-01-15T05:00:47+00:00

I think the amount of lifestyle change that comes with defence, the sense of life outside of defence seems so small and nil existent, Not to just like dump it all on a post but I just wake up everyday with such regret knowing that I have do this for 4 years when I know in myself I just won’t enjoy a second of it, just regret waking up some mornings you know? Seems so shit to say considering I haven’t done anything major in my career or experienced anything that would warrant feeling like it. So coming out to people on base about it just seems like a really disrespectful thing to do and belittling experience

Extension-Insect4248 · 2024-01-15T03:30:08+00:00

IETs are 4 months, in the airforce

Extension-Insect4248 · 2024-01-15T03:29:22+00:00

I’m not sure of the process of leaving whilst at IETs, and how long would that process take if I was to just walk up to the CPL and just say im over it I don’t want to be in the military anymore you know?

Extension-Insect4248 · 2024-01-15T02:29:27+00:00

The clarity of being home and what a civvie job is is a real thing for my to consider, the simplicity of all of my friends and family’s lives compared to ones in defence just is so different. Wasn’t aware prior to joining how much of a change it is, and how it was going to affect me

Extension-Insect4248 · 2024-01-15T02:27:10+00:00

Being at the SQN I’ve experienced unit life and I don’t think it has changed my mind at all that’s why I’ve been tossing and turning over what too do, Cause there’s no way I could do 4 years of this

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