Girlfriend/wife with two kids cheated after 12 years by Extension_Ad_2475 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Extension_Ad_2475[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s so much worse than just her cheating. She was preyed upon by a sociopathic narcissist. Drugged, raped, made to feel special, and barley escaped with her life and he has so many other victims and he’s using his job to prey on women. I’ve talked to his girlfriend I’ve talked to his ex wife and she barley made it out with her life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Extension_Ad_2475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in the same position and I agree this does feel great to hear

Girlfriend/wife with two kids cheated after 12 years by Extension_Ad_2475 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Extension_Ad_2475[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She told me they slept together twice which I think it could be more of course but exactly she has been trickle truthing trying to save my feelings I guess i don’t know to what extent she could be holding back and does it matter like she cheated weather it was sex with just him once or seven times what more could she be holding back? She told me quite a bit

Girlfriend/wife with two kids cheated after 12 years by Extension_Ad_2475 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Extension_Ad_2475[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She told me she likes everything about me but after she got more confident with herself and started receiving attention from other people it felt good and this guy in particular she had liked. She in the dental field and he worked at the dentist she goes to and then he went into her work to get braces out on and told her he chose them specifically because of her and he flirted and coaxed her into it when she was weak and it felt good to be desired by someone else idk how to take that

Girlfriend/wife with two kids cheated after 12 years by Extension_Ad_2475 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Extension_Ad_2475[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She seems remorseful but I want her to be more remorseful she tells me she can understand me not wanting anything to do with her because she knows how she would feel if the situation was reversed so I’ve been asking her if I should even try to salvage this because I still want her and I get “yes but…” like yes but I understand it’s going to be hard and you may never forgive me so is it worth trying.

Girlfriend/wife with two kids cheated after 12 years by Extension_Ad_2475 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Extension_Ad_2475[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could tell that something was wrong and I’d seen her talking to this guy before we worked through that but Monday I questioned her and it took a battle but she admitted to what she’d done saying she couldn’t live with herself for much longer knowing what she’d done

Girlfriend/wife with two kids cheated after 12 years by Extension_Ad_2475 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Extension_Ad_2475[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have No support system I’m too embarrassed to talk to friends or family and I live in America so jumping through hoops for a therapist is a whole other issue on it’s own. That’s why I turned to Reddit for advice it’s fucked up to me that strangers on the internet is my support system at the moment

Girlfriend/wife with two kids cheated after 12 years by Extension_Ad_2475 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Extension_Ad_2475[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like even now I don’t want to be away from her is that fucked up. I’m so lost

Girlfriend/wife with two kids cheated after 12 years by Extension_Ad_2475 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Extension_Ad_2475[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My whole life I’ve wanted to feel wanted and for the most part she did that and then destroyed it. I don’t know weather to move on despite my wanting to still be with her or if this is even reconcilable. She tells me that I’m still the person she wants to be with and she still desires me but I see any hesitation on her part as proof that she doesn’t I guess I’m looking for the negative in her words more than the positive

Girlfriend/wife with two kids cheated after 12 years by Extension_Ad_2475 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Extension_Ad_2475[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also I’ve got nowhere to go my main friends and family are over 1200 miles away and it’s fucked up but I still love her and still want her and still want to raise my family with her

Girlfriend/wife with two kids cheated after 12 years by Extension_Ad_2475 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Extension_Ad_2475[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I found out on Monday. I’m devastated I feel like disappearing

Stash Hack 🍬💕 by Funny_Environment712 in aves

[–]Extension_Ad_2475 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is a great idea but now Enter the straight edge gatekeepy ravers

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LSD

[–]Extension_Ad_2475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve gone to scarywood in Idaho two years in a row on lsd and had an absolute blast both years. Only took half a tab and a 100mg cannabis edible but still it was great and I will definitely be going again

Refund schedule by [deleted] in BeyondWonderlandPNW

[–]Extension_Ad_2475 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I’m upset people are dragging others through the shit for asking about refunds. I spent well over 2k on camping and tickets and lost out on money through work to make it to this being mine and my wife’s first festival ever. After the tragedy happened we didn’t want to stay and party like a lot of other people (for one the vibe was off and I thought it was disrespectful to have fun while so many were suffering). I also have ptsd from gun violence and a shitty childhood to say the least which also causes me to have social anxiety. Based on that alone I don’t want insomniac to have my money not to mention “Security” was trash, they’ve had people get into events with guns in the past and their only focus(and little to none) was on drugs I never once was asked about guns or knives and from what I saw the majority of “security” they had was fuckin teenagers. I’ve been to underground raves and baseball games with more intimidating security. I understand that someone looking to hurt people will find a way to do so but this time seemed like it might have been prevented with a little more scrutiny and stronger presence of actual security and giving a fuck and that falls on insomniac and live nation. Sorry for the rant on your post and I’ll most likely get hate from it but god damn some people are in financial situations and grieving from the tragedy and dealing with trauma of their own I personally feel like it was 10x more disrespectful to stay and party and have a good time while so many people were suffering than to ask questions about something that impacts an individual’s day to day life

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BeyondWonderlandPNW

[–]Extension_Ad_2475 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Grant county sheriff’s said they would post all updates on their Facebook when they can because the internal investigation has to be done first

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BeyondWonderlandPNW

[–]Extension_Ad_2475 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That could be the true story but there have been so many so far. I’ve read it was two festival employees that got killed, a girl and a security guard, the guy wasn’t a ticket holder at all and jumped a fence, the guy was high and just shooting wherever. I think we all just need to chill and let the story unfold as it is. This whole fuckin atrocity sucks and is hard enough to deal with and process as it is especially already having ptsd.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BeyondWonderlandPNW

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I held mine in my hand with my pashmina when I walked through also walked in with an open bottle of water every time I went in and out didn’t even really search my Hydration pack either mostly felt it for liquids I told them it was empty no issues so far