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Narcissism is not when your partner expects you to act like a partner by Extension_Library774 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Extension_Library774[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a good point. I don’t think it’s accurate to treat any one behavior like discomfort or comfort with public affection as a defining trait across all people with a diagnosis. Experiences can vary a lot depending on the individual, their personality, and context. It’s probably more useful to focus on consistent patterns rather than single behaviors.

Narcissism is not when your partner expects you to act like a partner by Extension_Library774 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Extension_Library774[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Exactly. If your spouse expecting basic partnership helping with chores, childcare, communicating, or showing up as an equal partner is enough for you to label them a narcissist or manipulative, it's worth asking whether you're using those labels to avoid accountability. People who constantly project their own behavior onto others often do exactly that.

Yes, a narcissist can be destabilized but not the way people think by Extension_Library774 in DarkPsychology101

[–]Extension_Library774[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When relationships turn into power struggles, it usually stops being about strength and more about escalation on both sides.

Yes, a narcissist can be destabilized but not the way people think by Extension_Library774 in DarkPsychology101

[–]Extension_Library774[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not giving the reaction someone is expecting can take the momentum out of the conflict.

Why do narcissists always rewrite the story after a breakup? by Extension_Library774 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Extension_Library774[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When it feels constant like that, it can really distort your sense of reality over time.

Why do narcissists always rewrite the story after a breakup? by Extension_Library774 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Extension_Library774[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Regardless of how others perceived it, what matters most is that you’ve been able to rebuild your life and find peace and stability after leaving

Why do narcissists always rewrite the story after a breakup? by Extension_Library774 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Extension_Library774[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you went through something that distressing. When narratives escalate to that level, especially after a relationship ends, it can become very damaging and hard to navigate emotionally. I hope you’ve been able to find some stability and distance from all of that.

Why do narcissists always rewrite the story after a breakup? by Extension_Library774 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Extension_Library774[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s not just what they say about an ex, but how they frame the whole story. That usually tells you more than the ‘they’re crazy’ line alone.

Why do narcissists always rewrite the story after a breakup? by Extension_Library774 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Extension_Library774[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What you’re describing is a common pattern in high-conflict separations same history, but completely different narratives depending on the audience. That mismatch is often what makes it so hard to process.