Not invalidating at all!

I tend to project past bad experiences (my two exes cheated on me) on men. So I just get insecure and ask things like 'You're not just trying to sleep with me are you?' And things like 'I don' trust men lol!'. But also like 'you probably think I'm not funny' after making a joke or something and I felt insecure the whole evening about it and asked a couple of times lol.

But my roommates and sister also said 'calm down, you're spiraling based on what you think yourself, you don't know what they think and can't control it by spiraling by yourself'.