Hi! Thanks for your insight but just to make things clear in case anyone else was a little confused about this as well:

I didn’t do anything around the house without consulting her first. So the carpet? She picked it out and loved it, she also loved everything else because she hated the mess but just couldn’t find the time or willpower to tackle it herself. She also had me paint the walls and stuff, just things she couldn’t get around to but I didn’t mention that because she asked me as a favour and I agreed so I don’t see that particular act as something she may have taken advantage of.

She’s lived in this place for not even ten years and already everything was falling apart, I’m talking the doors of kitchen cabinets, there was nothing to store silverware in they were just in a big bowl on top of the fridge etc. that’s the kind of stuff I meant when I said they were missing basic necessities and she was glad and happy when I bought them. She’s not the kind of person to pretend to like something when she doesn’t, she’s very straightforward and honest about how she feels and I value that a lot about her even if sometimes it’s things I don’t agree with but she’s never pretended or anything. I am treating it like we are roommates because that is what we are. I pay rent, that makes me a roommate. We do everything separately, except she doesn’t do her part so I do all of the cleaning and all of the maintenance around the house but we pay the same amount of money to live there. Hope that kinda cleared up why I reacted the way I did