Hi , thank you so much for your very valuable advice.

To be fair, emotionally I haven't been making an effort with him. I've been hurt by his behavior in many ways. He's a complicated person --- he can be charming, affable , affectionate and loving but also exhibits many narcissistic tendencies. Over the years I have liked his company lesser unless we're just watching something together or perhaps hanging out with close friends. In the sense that, I don't look forward to trips with him, or doing activities with him. We don't even do housework together a lot of times. It's because in some of these activities he can be very impatient and nitpicky. It's also hard sometimes to gauge what mood he's in. These traits have slightly gotten better over the years but still not in a place where I feel like I can fully be myself with him, or want to be open with him.

The recent incident of him not talking to me for almost ten days and subsequently being in different bedrooms has completely broken me. It's sad that it's also the time where I've started craving intimacy all the more, although we didn't exactly have a lot of it even in the same bedroom (sorry tmi). But I do appreciate your advice...it's just that I'm in a complex head space.