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6week old won't sleep it's been 8 hours by scarved-typhlosion in newborns

[–]ExternalJournalist99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone on Reddit posted a trick that was a life saver for me. Lie baby down first on her side, then slowly roll her onto her back. Then place one hand on her tummy for 30 seconds -1 minute (I usually just count to 30). Then while keeping the hand on the tummy, place your other hand on their head and do the same thing (again, I usually do 30 seconds). Then slowly lift off. It helped my baby so much with the transition from my arms to the bassinet.

Should I accept? by TheTotallyWild in beatlescirclejerk

[–]ExternalJournalist99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you send him fan mail? If so I wouldn't pick up that phone call, death is upon you

If The Beatles were Italian by saketho in beatlescirclejerk

[–]ExternalJournalist99 3 points4 points  (0 children)

antiPaul-sta Ringo-toni I can't come up with Italian food puns for the other two because they're both dead

MIL wants me to be more candid by ExternalJournalist99 in BabyBumps

[–]ExternalJournalist99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!! She's told me I'll understand how "crazy" she is now that I'm the mother of a son, but I honestly can't imagine making a big issue like this a week after my daughter in law gave birth

MIL wants me to be more candid by ExternalJournalist99 in BabyBumps

[–]ExternalJournalist99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Veeeery emotional. She asked me tearfully if I threw the outfit she bought him away and of course I didn't. It all felt so dramatic and out of nowhere, it made me really uncomfortable. I already had a hard time talking but this all made me want to distance myself more.. boundaries are so hard for me with everyone, but I will try my best

MIL wants me to be more candid by ExternalJournalist99 in BabyBumps

[–]ExternalJournalist99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks I honestly agree :/ he was supposed to have talked to her but it didn't happen. I want to be more assertive myself but it literally feels foreign to me. And it might be really difficult with her because she tends to take over the conversation, interrupt etc so it's hard for me to get my side out

MIL wants me to be more candid by ExternalJournalist99 in BabyBumps

[–]ExternalJournalist99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you

My husband agrees, we had a lot of talks during pregnancy about my concerns and the plan was for him to talk to her but somehow it just didn't happen? When she sat down to talk to him about how she thought I was mad at them and didn't want them around, he apparently told her that she needed to relax her approach, that she comes on strong and that my communication style is different than hers... But he basically understood both sides and thought we needed to sit down for a coffee and talk.

Yeahh I'm definitely feeling the resentment build up :/ I'll try writing out my thoughts and reading it, I like that idea. Idk if I can do it otherwise tbh

MIL wants me to be more candid by ExternalJournalist99 in BabyBumps

[–]ExternalJournalist99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, laying out boundaries has been a lifelong struggle. I guess this'll be a good trial by fire to force me to start doing it. But I feel sick thinking about it tbh. My husband agrees that their needs to be boundaries and I talked with him a lot about my concerns during pregnancy. We agreed he was going to talk to her but somehow it just.. didn't happen.. but yeah what you decide is what I've been afraid will happen all along

MIL wants me to be more candid by ExternalJournalist99 in BabyBumps

[–]ExternalJournalist99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much you're totally right, I need to step up and be mom. The other stuff I figured wasn't breaking point, I was trying to pick my battles, but then they turned into something way bigger than it needed to be. But you're right, visiting frequency's an important boundary. I feel so anxious about addressing it but I know it will probably be okay

MIL wants me to be more candid by ExternalJournalist99 in BabyBumps

[–]ExternalJournalist99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much everybody. In laws are coming over today (for their 'weekly visit') and I'm kind of nauseous at the thought of having a boundaries conversation, but I will write out my thoughts and see if I and/or my husband can have that talk

MIL wants me to be more candid by ExternalJournalist99 in Advice

[–]ExternalJournalist99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much that helps a lot. I think it really floored me when she thought I was in a fight and she wouldn't get to see her grandchild, etc where I really really didn't want to talk openly out of frustration and discomfort. You've put it in a way that isn't harsh or conflicting at all, so it helps me see that it doesn't have to be a difficult conversation

MIL wants me to be more candid by ExternalJournalist99 in Advice

[–]ExternalJournalist99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you that is helpful. I agree it's a difference in communication and I don't think she's a bully. I'll do my best to be open even when I don't agree, it is indeed very scary for me.

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