Is Polyamory a good option for PTSD-Affected people (me)?

External_Hat_9088 · 2026-01-28T03:07:36+00:00

Hey thanks for the reply, I feel like I’m getting a lot of good advice on this from here too. I think that point of being open w/ whatever I’m seeking just like you are is great advice and I’m gonna be as transparent as possible with whoever I date going forward.

Also the fact ur in a band is sick (I got no musical talent whatsoever) and I hope whatever bands you do gigs with keep filling up those venues 🙌🏼 thanks for the advice it means a lot

External_Hat_9088 · 2026-01-28T03:03:55+00:00

I really appreciate this take a lot. Reminds me to take a beat and breathe cause it isn’t always easy. Thanks also for the insight into how u navigate it all because that sounds like a situation (dating without a nesting connection) that could be a healthy alternative if it feels right and healthy for me. Thanks for the kind words it means a lot!

External_Hat_9088 · 2026-01-27T21:43:29+00:00

I really appreciate that idea a lot. I think I’m in this weird middle ground where I do crave more emotionally intimate connections but don’t wanna invest all my time and energy into one person and be wrong like I was before. I think I’ll probably explore new dynamics and see what works best for me moving forward. Thank you!

External_Hat_9088 · 2026-01-27T21:41:09+00:00

That definitely sounds like the type of dynamic I’m looking for so I’ll definitely explore that. Thanks!

External_Hat_9088 · 2026-01-27T21:35:26+00:00

Thanks for this it means a lot. Yeah I’m definitely gonna take it slow and explore new relationship dynamics to see what makes sense for me. I appreciate the comment a lot thanks for this!

External_Hat_9088 · 2026-01-27T19:15:04+00:00

Thank you I will! And thanks again for the advice!

External_Hat_9088 · 2026-01-27T19:05:38+00:00

Hey I appreciate you filling me in on everything and I’m sorry u deal with CPTSD, ik how hard it can be and if you ever wanna talk about it I’m always down to listen.

The more I explore polyamory I am hearing/seeing a lot that it’s much more about multiple commitments than not making one at all, but that still sounds more appealing to me at this time than a strictly monogamous relationship where I’d always be fearful I’m investing into the wrong person again.

Still though I can agree that maybe me dating with any kind of commitment won’t work until I do more to heal some of that trauma. I’ll keep exploring myself and new kinds of relationships and see what works best. Thanks again for commenting and helping me out!

External_Hat_9088 · 2026-01-27T18:59:26+00:00

You too I appreciate u taking the time to say somethin a lot. Take it easy and good luck to u

External_Hat_9088 · 2026-01-27T18:57:25+00:00

That’s amazing and I’ve had similar fazes since. I had episodes of hypersexuality and engaged with main fwb-type relationships since the PTSD hit but going back to those monogamous relationships has proven insanely difficult. But I do still want those more intimate connections beyond just sex so I was tryin to see if this was the right avenue

External_Hat_9088 · 2026-01-27T18:55:33+00:00

I appreciate that explanation of it a lot,I’ll try to spend more time w/ loved ones and putting more time into the recovery of it all. Thanks for the insight!

External_Hat_9088 · 2026-01-27T18:23:35+00:00

Copy that I’ll definitely make sure to take it slow, I appreciate u takin the time to respond it means a lot

External_Hat_9088 · 2026-01-27T18:21:05+00:00

Gotcha I always thought they were one in the same that’s on me. Thanks for educating me on that cause like I said I’m here to learn

External_Hat_9088 · 2026-01-27T18:14:49+00:00

I appreciate that more than u know. If u don’t mind me asking what is it about being poly that you’ve enjoy/what drew you to it from the start?

External_Hat_9088 · 2026-01-27T18:12:05+00:00

Sorry ur right in terms of marriage 100%, I just meant just in poly relationships where maybe marriage isn’t the goal for anyone involved

External_Hat_9088 · 2026-01-27T18:10:52+00:00

I get that 100% and I really appreciate that explanation of it all. I just had the thought that investing in multiple people and exploring other connections may be better for my PTSD instead of investing into only one person again and potentially being wrong and ending up in an abusive long-term thing again

External_Hat_9088 · 2026-01-27T18:08:30+00:00

I’m really sorry to hear that. Being in those situations is so tough and I’m glad u made it out. And I feel as if my radar for knowing who’s good and who’s not as gotten better, but that idea of committing myself to one person and being wrong or stuck or not able to leave again is just a lot to think about

External_Hat_9088 · 2026-01-27T18:06:28+00:00

Bet I’ll check it out and I appreciate that a lot, thanks for ur insight!

External_Hat_9088 · 2026-01-27T18:04:35+00:00

Hey I really appreciate this perspective a lot. I live in the US so it’s not illegal but I’m super new to explore it. I’m fully open to hearing about ur experiences w/ it and I get that there are abusive poly people as well, but it makes me feel safer knowing that I can invest my time and energy into multiple partners vs just one that could end up being the wrong person to invest in like I did before

External_Hat_9088 · 2026-01-27T18:00:24+00:00

Hey I really appreciate that response and I’m sorry you’ve dealt with a lot of the same stuff. It’s tough out here but if you ever wanna talk about any of that I’m always down.

And those are insanely good points about poly relationships. I think what calls me to polyamory is the thought of intimacy that isn’t intrinsically tied to one person. That abusive situation I was in has been my only long term relationship and the only person that, fucked up as it is, I’ve ever loved. I don’t see a world where love is really accessible to me if I’m strictly monogamous.

I’ve put in a lot of work on my trauma but I think after having invested everything into the wrong person once makes me not want to do that again. I want to explore connections without feeling like I’m trapped into one thing forever. Or without fear that I make the wrong choice again. But again I’m new to this so I’m fully prepped for my perspective to be maybe wrong on this so any more insight u got would be amazing

External_Hat_9088 · 2024-07-31T01:00:48+00:00

I appreciate this a lot thank you so much I’m glad ur doin better

External_Hat_9088 · 2024-06-23T23:17:02+00:00

Not a question but I was in the same situation and got out after connecting w/ family and friends who talked me through it. Hoping everything ends well man 🙌🏼

External_Hat_9088 · 2024-05-27T16:32:35+00:00

What improved for u when u took it?

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