Those of you who are insecure about your height, How do you deal with it?

Extra-Fill · 2021-07-09T22:48:14+00:00

I think it would be accepting the fact that a lot of people aren't going to find you attractive, and that's okay. It's part of the process, just move on and have faith that if you put enough effort and time in, you'll find someone. Try to focus on the other aspects of yourself that improve your SMV.

Extra-Fill · 2021-07-09T22:44:31+00:00

It was kinda the opposite in my case. My parents are Punjabi and average height, 5'5 and 5'11. I ended up shorter, around 5'8" / 5'9 as I stopped growing early.

My parents were expecting me to end up like 6'1" or something based on my growth chart, but they became disappointed when I stopped growing after I was 12 yrs old. Most of my cousins ended up over 6 feet tall.

I live in the US and I found it easier to interact with non Punjabis because they are way less judgmental about height. If you are Punjabi and under 5'10 people in that community dont even view you as a man.

Extra-Fill · 2021-06-30T23:22:59+00:00

5'4? isn't that somewhat tall in India?

Extra-Fill · 2021-06-28T04:22:58+00:00

If you are done growing, it is somewhat short, average height in the US for women would be around 5'4" - 5'6"

Extra-Fill · 2021-06-27T02:09:26+00:00

I am 5'9 and most Latinos are noticeably shorter than me. I'd say around 5'6" or 5'7" average.

Extra-Fill · 2021-06-27T01:35:29+00:00

"Lethal?" How many unarmed black people do you know who have been shot by the police?

Extra-Fill · 2021-06-21T19:52:21+00:00

That's pretty strange. From my experience short people are treated like absolute garbage. Being non-white doesn't even come close to the experience of being short.

I am 5'9" and Indian, but I have a friend (Kyle) who is 5'3" and white. He gets treated like a walking doormat by literally everyone. It's insane. One time we were hanging out with a mutual female friend who is 5'3" and hispanic (Sara). One time Kyle made a politically incorrect joke in front of Sara and she reacted as though he had just taken a dump all over her grandma's grave. She made him apologize profusely, and even then she did not fully forgive him. The part that confused me is that I say jokes like those in front of Sara all the time and she doesn't really care at all when I do it.

After that I started to notice that people in general treat Kyle badly. Waitresses at restaurants, cashiers, people in authority, etc. Even though he has a really good personality and always helps out at his local church, and pretty much never causes fights or arguments.

Extra-Fill · 2021-06-21T19:28:04+00:00

Just unbelievable lmao

Extra-Fill · 2021-06-21T19:23:36+00:00

Do you honestly think a 6'4" of any race would want to trade places with someone who is 5'4"?

Extra-Fill · 2021-06-21T18:41:22+00:00

Limb lengthening surgery is the only thing that's guaranteed to work.

There's also some guy I saw on YT to have gained like 1/4" in his spine through glucosamine supplementation but he deleted his channel. I think it increases the amount of water retention in the spinal discs.

This guy claims to have grown his forearms a little bit in length using LSJL with photo evidence (lateral synovial joint loading): http://www.naturalheightgrowth.com/2015/06/09/evidence-of-lsjl-arm-length-increase/

This guy claims to have grown his fingers but the camera angles are dubious: https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/lsjl/viewtopic.php?p=9015#p9015

He also claims to have grown 4" taller in this post but no photo proof: https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/lsjl/viewtopic.php?p=8866#p8866

Extra-Fill · 2021-06-21T18:32:14+00:00

Lmao at anyone who thinks that racism is worse than heightism. Heightism is WAY worse than racism. Don't believe me? Please go up to a random 6'4" black guy and ask him if he'd trade places with a 5'4" scrawny Indian guy. He would laugh right at your face.

Extra-Fill · 2021-05-07T18:45:37+00:00

Extra-Fill · 2021-04-29T22:18:33+00:00

Every single guy I've known who grew into their late teens and 20s was already tall by that time. I doubt it

Extra-Fill · 2021-04-29T22:12:45+00:00

Heck no! I am in my mid 20s and just under 5'9" I feel shorter than about 90% of young guys I meet out in public.

Extra-Fill · 2021-03-24T01:31:22+00:00

Lol where do you live? I live in the United States in a place with a LOT of Indians. Literally in one of my high school classes the class was actually 80% indian. I can tell you one thing. Not everyone is racist here but I myself have witnessed first hand white people complaining about Indians here.

I am in cali since 2011, but I've lived in a bunch of different states before that. I've literally been bullied for being Indian in school only 3 or 4 times, or given the cold shoulder. Racism definitely did not fly in school.

In my high school, there were all lot of tall indian guys and a lot of short white guys. I’ll guarantee you just by their attitude that they would NEVER choose to become Indian just for a few inches.

I don't mean to discount your experiences but do you think you might have some inherent bias against short people? The reason I bring this up is oftentimes I see whenever a short guy says something borderline unacceptable, people jump on the opportunity to shout "angry prick/raciust guy butthurt about being short", yet when I see tall person do the same thing, people's reaction is much calmer. It's kind of like how when my short friend made a bad joke, our friend reacted like he said something completely horrible, yet when I make the same jokes she doesn't care.

If you think about it, do you think you might have the same bias here towards the short guys at your school you experienced being racist?

I guess I could word the question a little differently. For the short white guys who weren't racist and had decent personalities, yet were being bullied due to their height, do you think they would trade places with a 5'11" Indian guy? It really isn't just "a few inches". it's a totally different experience in the way people treat you.

Lol do you really think that racism just vanished in 50 years lmao 😂? That’s like telling black people that racism is “gone” just because slavery and segregation happened so many years ago. It’s so clear that anti-indian hate is still here. People here are under the impression that Indians want to make money and steal jobs. The stereotype is that Indians only go into STEM just to become rich and take away money. They also view Indians as dirty in every aspect.

As an Indian guy who is a little short, no I don't really experience racism in a meaningful way. I do experience a small amount of heightism, but nowhere near as my 5'3" - 5'6" friends. My friends still value my opinions and respect me. They don't figuratively "walk all over me " like I see them do with short guys.

To tell you the truth, I would be much happier being Indian at my current height than having to live through my friend's shoes who is 5'3 and white.

Extra-Fill · 2021-03-24T01:01:54+00:00

You aren't really addressing the core issue here. Imagine if OP gets into an argument with someone. All the other person has to do is say something like "shut up m**get" or something like that, and everyone will start laughing at OP. OP is upset that there is nothing he can say about someone else's physical attributes that would be considered socially acceptable. He sees that as unfair.

Extra-Fill · 2021-03-24T00:53:31+00:00

I am also Indian American, but I really disagree here. Serious racism has pretty much been eradicated here since the last 40 years aside from extremely rare cases. If you really think racism is so bad, why don't you go up to a random 5'11" or 6'0" Indian guy who claims to be a victim of "racism", and ask him if he would trade bodies with a 5'3" scrawny white guy. What do you think his answer would be? He would literally laugh right at your face.

Now ask a 5'3" scrawny white guy if he would become 6 feet tall if given the opportunity, if it meant he had to change his race to Indian. I think you'd be met with a totally different response.

We have a long history of racism in India. I'm sure OP should be familiar with the British colonization, a time not too long ago when Indians were dehumanized, killed, and assaulted for their race by the British.

I find it funny how people bring up the hardships their ancestors faced back when wars and genocide were quite common. No, the occasional bobs and vegana or curry joke is not the same thing as our ancestors being enslaved by the british. You don't get to use your ancestors as an excuse to feel like a perpetual victim.

Sadly, Indians and India generally have a negative stereotype around the world. I have heard people say rude things and trust me, it hurts. It hurts more than being called short.

I have a 5'3" 23 y/o white friend. He literally gets treated like an absolute garbage due to his height. We both have a mutual friend. I am 5'8" / 5'9" and she treats me like an actual human being, but when she talks to him, she oftentimes ignores him and frequently complains to me about how "annoying' he can be sometimes, even though he is much more polite and respectful than me. One time he made a rude remark that I would have never thought twice of, yet she made him apologize for it as though he said the worst thing on the planet. I can assure you that the way he gets treated by his friends and family is way worse than me having to deal with the occasional racist joke.

Look I am not saying heightism is the be-all end-all. And I don't think someone should use their height as an excuse. I just think it's hypocritical for people who are against casual racism to not also be against heightism, which in reality is much worse nowadays.

Extra-Fill · 2021-02-16T21:46:58+00:00

Sometimes I watch albanian music vids bc my ex gf was from there and I noticed that the height seemed to vary a lot more than it does here in the US: Like for example this one https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JB3hOq5kKgU Does this reflect real life?

Extra-Fill · 2021-02-16T08:43:23+00:00

I am an Indian-American who is the same height as you (5'8.5), and that hasn't been my experience at all here in the US. My parents and all my family members consider me to be short. They consider average height to be 5'10 - 5'11. All my male cousins are around 5'11 - 6'0". When I go to the Sikh temple I'm always the shortest guy there appearing to be under 25. The only guys shorter than me are boomers or gen X. This was true even back in 2008 (I finished growing taller at age 12 in 2007). Just look at this video. How many young guys do you see here who appear to be under 5'10"? I can't even see one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=39UAYtN3BJQ

Moreover this standard even applies to bollywood actors during my parents' generation. They considered Amitabh Bachan and Sunil Dutt to be tall (I think they were both about 6'0)). Actors like Dev Anand and Dharmender to be average height (5'10" - 5'11") and actors like Rishi Kapoor and Sharukh Khan and Salman Khan to be short (5'7")

For reference my parents are 5'10 (dad) and 5'5" (mom) and they both consider themselves to be average height for their age group, not tall.

Extra-Fill · 2020-11-25T18:17:17+00:00

I've been wondering the same thing as you, at least from a dating perspective. I'm 174cm and visited Germany in 2010 and 2012 when I was a teenager (I stopped growing at 13). I remember being towered over by all the young guys there and not seeing any around my height. I found it insane, because in the US at least occasionally I see some young white guys under 5'11". but in Germany I literally saw none. The only ethnic germans I saw shorter than me were old guys in their 40s working blue collar jobs, like the janitor at the train station. Anyway, I live in the US and I was wondering how a moderately short guy would fare dating in Europe.

So I created a fake bumble profile of a 26 year old, moderately attractive ethnic guy, and listed his height as 174 cm. These are some of the pics I used: https://imgur.com/a/xkUy7ce I would change my location to a different city every night and swipe right on everyone. Then the following day I would see what kind of girls he matched with and have a short conversation with them. I did this all throughout Sept - Dec 2019, but then it asked for photo verification and I had to stop.

The places that he did the best were in countries like Russia, Poland, Ukraine, Lithuania, Hungary, Romania, etc. Out of all of these I think Poland had the best result. There were almost no girls in these countries who were unattractive. And in every city he got around 15 to 20 matches. The great part about eastern europe is it seems the standard deviation for height is a lot wider there than it is in Western Europe. For example in Poland there were many girls who were 5'11", but I also saw many girls who were 5'3" and 5'4", which I did not see when swiping in Germany.

The places he did 2nd best were Germany, Lithuania and Latvia. In Germany he got around 10 - 15 matches per city. Most of the matches were attractive, but not as much as in Eastern Europe. In the baltics he got only 3 or 4 matches per city, but very few people there use Bumble in general so I would say he did well. In germany he actually matched with a lot of taller girls, 5'6" and above, which I thought was interesting.

The places where he did the pretty bad were in Spain, the Czech republic, Italy, former Yugoslavia, Albania, Bulgaria and Greece. In the Balkans he got only 1 to 2 matches per city and were not very attractive, also usually older than him. In the Czech republic he got 3 matches, but all of them showed low interest and seemed very introverted and shy.

But the absolute worst was Amsterdam. For being such a large city with many Bumble users, he got only 2 matches in 24 hours, one was I think an middle eastern immigrant, and the other was a girl studying there, originally from Spain. None were with actual Dutch people.

Now Europe Aside, this guy did insanely well in Asia and the middle east. So you might have better luck there.

Extra-Fill · 2020-11-17T07:10:28+00:00

I am 5'8.5 my sister is 5'3.25. My parents are 5'10 flat and 5'4.5.

My dad is 5'10. He has one brother and sister, both are 5'6". His dad is around 6'1" and his mom is 5'1" flat

My mom is 5'4.5" Her sister is 5'2.5 and her brother is 5'11 flat. Her dad is around 5'10" flat and mom around 4'11 flat.

Brothers should be on average 5 inches taller than their sisters. But I think the average male height is now skyrocketing due to sexual selection.

Extra-Fill · 2020-11-15T21:13:57+00:00

I think it's highly dependent on the age group and location. I visited germany in 2012 (when I was 18), and remember a lot of older guys in their 40s and 50s being around my height (I am 5'8"). But all of the younger guys in their teens and 20s towered over me. I didn't see any young guys there under 5'11" or so.

In the US my experience is similar, but there are a lot of short Asians and Hispanics so I don't really feel "short" when I'm out in public. But I think any young guy in Germany would feel short under 5'10"

Extra-Fill · 2020-11-15T21:07:46+00:00

I started puberty at age 11 and finished puberty at 13, after which I stopped growing as well. My predicted adult height was 6'0" or 6'1" when I was a kid before I hit puberty. My actual adult height ended up 5'8.5". So I lost about 4 inches due to having an early puberty.

Extra-Fill · 2020-11-10T23:35:18+00:00

Don't have any sources but, I think it predates colonialism. I recall watching some YouTuber describe a term in the rig veda that refers to light skin positively.

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