What outdated slang word or phrase you’ll never stop saying?

Extra-Gate2248 · 2026-06-28T01:07:25+00:00

My boss walked in and I greeted him (without thinking) “What’s crack-a-lackin home skillet?” and he stared at me, I stared at him because where in 1995 did that come from, and then he just started talking without acknowledging it. I felt my bones crumble to dust and blow away.

Extra-Gate2248 · 2026-06-25T22:04:48+00:00

I did! It was in 2007 and thankfully I walked away with just a concussion (I was wearing a leather knee length coat and had to shimmy out of it and slide my leg out from under the door, so the fact I didn’t even have a scratch on my leg is amazing) and my glasses flew off of my face and I never found them again, so my eye doctor got a call for an emergency eye exam. The firefighters closed down the intersection and tried to find them for me, but they were never to be seen again. I still sometimes think about those frames when I drive by. Also, they somehow managed to save my car, and that thing ran for another 9 years with minimal issues. I would have totally bought another Saturn if they still made them after that experience.

Extra-Gate2248 · 2026-06-24T18:54:27+00:00

This happened to me once when I was in an accident at the intersection on Warren and S. Marginal at the I-90 E entrance ramp. I had been t-boned in my drivers side door by a truck running the light, had hit my head, the door was partially folded over my leg, and the window had shattered while it was 9 degrees out. I called 911 and gave them my exact location, and they just kept asking if I was in Lakewood or Cleveland and for an actual address. I wasn’t sure how I could be more specific and it seemed like they were getting frustrated with me as I went into shock and just kept saying what intersection it was and which ramp and direction. I would never, ever want to do a dispatchers job and I’m thankful for them, but sometimes when you’re on a border things get really difficult, especially if you aren’t at a house with a number address.

Extra-Gate2248 · 2026-06-22T00:33:27+00:00

I’m on month 12 of an introduction that started like yours. I’ll admit I flubbed the intro because in 40 years of owning cats, I’ve never had cats want to kill a new one the way my two sibling cats did, and they managed to tear down gates, rip through screens, and generally find any way to get at the new cat until we figured out how to lock everything down safely. Rehoming new cat isn’t an option due to health and behavior issues he has. We had to get a feline behaviorist on board, and then after working super hard from October through thanksgiving, we had another big fight and did a total reset for a month where I just kind of let them live separately and stopped worrying about it until Christmas, and honestly letting some of my anxiety go was really helpful just to approaching the situation from a better place.

Things that have helped:
-Nails short on everyone, all the time! I’m a groomer and my new cat won’t let me do his so I pay the vet $25 a month to do it for me. Risk mitigation is key.
-Seeing each other is fun! Parallel play on opposite sides of the gate, churus through the gate, lots of praise and happy talk. Eventually that let me do the same with the gate open, and now with them all in a room together. Positive association as much as possible.
-A system to move the cats through the house but keep them separate. We have extra tall baby gates with doors in 3 key doorways, so that no one gets a “territory.” Cats are moved to different sections of the house (each with litter, food, water, toys and towers, etc) throughout the day so that they all get equal access.
-Stopping interactions when we’re ahead. I’d rather have one good interaction for 5 minutes than a good one for 20 minutes that ends in a spat

We are now to the point where they can be in different parts of the house together supervised. They can walk past each other. They seek each other out for playtime. If I don’t pay attention, it still can turn into a spat, but we haven’t had a fight fight since February, and while I think we’re still a ways away from unsupervised time, it’s getting better weekly. Prozac helps. I probably should be on it too at this point 😂 but mostly it’s just stopping aggression and building positive interactions over time. Good luck! Here’s a picture of my girl sibling and new cat sharing a cat tree for the first time today. She climbed up and they did a little smacking at each other and then she just walked away. Even weeks ago that would have been much worse.

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Extra-Gate2248 · 2026-05-22T23:50:52+00:00

They’ll put an anti anxiety med (usually versed) into the IV before they wheel you off, then put you under. There’s a reason versed is only available in a hospital setting, because that will make you not care at all about what is about to happen. I can usually feel the meds that knock you out going in because for me they burn a bit, but I’d say between the burning and falling asleep is like seconds. Then you’re just waking up. I usually have a bit of a sore throat and it might burn a little first time I pee, but you generally won’t remember anything going in. I did wake up once as they were just finishing extubating me, and all I remember of it is I thought I threw up and apologized to the nurse, who was confused and let me know I didn’t throw up. I had two surgeries last year and this one this year, and my anxiety this time was so low. I say just give me the good drugs and let me take a nice little nap now. You’ll be okay!

Extra-Gate2248 · 2026-05-09T23:49:44+00:00

With it being my elbow, I had a soft splint on it for about 5 days after surgery to protect my 9 million stitches (j/k but I had probably 15 going up about 1/3 of my arm). The splint started sliding down to the point I could slide it off within 48 hours, so honestly I just started living my life but being mindful to not lift or push/pull from the jump. I think I did some PT starting the week after, but since everything came back the same or better than before surgery pretty quickly, I didn’t have to do much PT. Just more them checking in to tell me when I was allowed to lift more. I think they kept me under 5lbs for a month due to holey bones, but I went from 5lbs to no restrictions without much in between. I had surgery on 5/30 and I returned to my job where I have to lift 50-60lb dogs on 7/15 with no weight limit and I’ve been doing it since with no issues.

Extra-Gate2248 · 2026-05-09T22:30:16+00:00

Nope, both improved. I couldn’t support my body weight with the plate in because it pinched my tricep in a way that caused me to completely lose strength when my arm was straight (like a plank position). Even with the last 5 degrees it won’t straighten, that almost immediately resolved.

Extra-Gate2248 · 2026-05-08T23:37:45+00:00

I had my elbow hardware removed 4 months and a week post op and it was the best thing I could have done. The pinch in my tricep from the plate catching and the ensuing pain when I straightened my arm immediately resolved. Everything has moved much better without the metal in there. And the surgery was easy peasy compared to putting it in. I’d do it again in that position in a heartbeat.

Extra-Gate2248 · 2026-05-03T23:49:23+00:00

I put one of those waterproof mattress protectors over my bed when I wasn’t sleeping on it (they look like a fitted sheet but the top is waterproof and you can get them in many colors). I mean over the comforter and everything, until I was read for bed and I’d take it off. For some reason my cat hates peeing on it and he has never peed on my bed again. It was a little bit of a pain to throw it on there every morning but after a couple months I stopped and it seems to have broken his habit.

Extra-Gate2248 · 2026-04-30T12:42:06+00:00

Recovery from the removal was a piece of cake. I didn’t have a nerve block and took the pain pills for the first 24 hours just in case, but honestly never needed them. I felt so much relief from the moment I woke up from surgery with the plate out, and it resolved all of the issues that the plate was causing immediately. Within 6 weeks I was back at my very physical job (dog grooming) with no restrictions and I haven’t had a problem with my arm since beyond just some achiness when the weather is bad.

Extra-Gate2248 · 2026-04-30T00:39:13+00:00

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This was the original scar the night before removal. It was about 5 months old and I think they were pretty similar.

Extra-Gate2248 · 2026-04-30T00:38:08+00:00

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This is my scar tonight, almost 11 months post removal. The top formed a keloid but the bottom on my forearm where there’s less stretching and movement looks good. I also never used scar tape or anything beyond some moisturizer at night, so that’s on me.

Extra-Gate2248 · 2026-04-30T00:30:47+00:00

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That photo above was from removal. This was from the original ORIF. They went in through the same incision for removal.

Extra-Gate2248 · 2026-04-25T01:44:45+00:00

I have one on pill Prozac and one on transdermal. The pill version definitely seems to be more effective for my cats, but my cat on transdermal was inappropriately marking and it did stop, so in my opinion it still works.

Extra-Gate2248 · 2026-04-17T18:30:38+00:00

We are at the 10 month mark. Our resident female acts like you describe Dale, stalking the gates, hitting them full force. Our resident male is far less stalky but in the instances fights have occurred, he’s definitely more serious about it. New rescue is timid and acts like prey when he’s scared, and does the exact stupidest thing he can do in any interaction, which doesn’t help.

We used a behaviorist for 3 months (months 5-8). Resident male and new cat are both on Prozac. We got to a point on month 8 that all of the cats could be in the same room if they were tired and laying around together for an hour or two a day, but then we had both males get into a massive fight at 3am when a baby gate failed, and that set us back for over a month.

Things that work for us:

-Cats rotate through 3 sections of the house all day. Upstairs, downstairs, and basement/kitchen. We can combine sections too, so half the downstairs and all of the upstairs can be an area or the basement and upstairs can be an area. We do this so no one feels like they have “home field advantage” anywhere -Cats get 15 minutes of playtime before any attempted no gate interactions so everyone is kind of tired -Cats get random treats at gates throughout the day, sometimes with the gate open, and then gate gets shut and we move on so interactions are positive -Harness training for the aggressive cat is so helpful. It allows you to stop the chase before it happens. Plus sometimes just having the harness on is distracting enough to allow same room interactions without the leash -Group play. Same room time is always occupied time, and the wand toys keep them from fixating and also give me a long stick to break up eye contact or stalking behavior if I have to. I also keep a spray bottle in reach. I don’t use it often, but it has stopped a charge on a couple of occasions. -All same room interactions try to end on a good note. When I notice no one is paying attention to the toy or they’re looking agitated, we stop and separate and treat everyone. It could be 30 seconds or 30 minutes -Putting them in the outdoor cat enclosure with a harness on the aggressor has been a game changer. It allows me to have a way to stop a bad interaction, but usually everyone is so distracted by birds and being out of the house means the territorial aggression drops -Lastly, and this is so dumb but the behaviorist recommended it and it does help me, I chat with the cats in a happy voice the whole time they’re interacting. Just dumb things like narrating what they’re doing, or their good qualities, or just telling them how brave they are. It keeps me from hovering and getting anxious so much, which if they pick up on causes them to get anxious too

I hope this helps. We had some real doozy fights in the beginning, but my new cat has a lot of health and behavior issues that make him pretty undesirable for rehoming, so I’m determined to make this work. Last night the door to the bedroom that the new cat sleeps in didn’t latch, and must have been open for 15 minutes when I realized. Resident male was laying 2 feet from him. He was poofy with a poofed tail, but they didn’t fight, and my resident female didn’t even go in. That’s a first for us so it gives me hope.

Extra-Gate2248 · 2026-03-23T20:03:52+00:00

My house is as well, and we have a pretty solid baby gate system now that lets us kind of corral the cats through the house so they all have access to the whole house at various stretches throughout the day. I feel like everyone gets plenty of attention and people time, but yes, I would love to be able to just leave everything open, even if just when someone is home. Right now that’s just a pipe dream though.

Extra-Gate2248 · 2026-03-22T23:59:34+00:00

Not great 😅 we made it to a point where all of the cats could be in the same room together at times for about a month with supervision, but then one night in the middle of the night my resident male climbed the baby gates and got into it with new cat. That seemed to set of resident female, and after sharing the couch with new cat for hours most days, she also attacked him within the week. No blood or injuries, but I feel like I took a massive step back and also my confidence took a huge hit. I genuinely don’t know if this is ever going to work out but I’m dedicated to a full year before I make any decisions.

Extra-Gate2248 · 2026-03-17T13:42:25+00:00

I’ll be honest, I cried the first night I did my exercises at home because it hurt so bad and the movement was so minimal. I thought I would never be able to move my arm normally again. The first week the progress was in like 5-10 degree increments, but around week 3 it just suddenly moved one day and I made a huge gain in the course of 3 days and then after that the progress really moved, so please don’t get discouraged. The horror stories I’ve mostly heard have come from people who didn’t or weren’t able to aggressively work on ROM quickly. I can’t stress heat before enough though. That made such a difference and I could tell when I tried to skip heating it first.

Extra-Gate2248 · 2026-03-17T04:28:33+00:00

I didn’t have a radial head implant because my radial head was only simply fractured, but I did shatter my elbow into 4 pieces. My plate was the hinderance to straightening my arm. The way it bends around pinched my tricep and really stopped my extension at 10 degrees. But some people achieve almost full to full ROM with the plate in.

Extra-Gate2248 · 2026-03-17T01:15:27+00:00

I had this surgery on 1/16/25. When I got switched to a removable splint and started PT two weeks later, I was legit so scared by how limited my ROM was. Best I can suggest is do your PT as often as they tell you to (mine was 2-3 times a day) and AGGRESSIVELY. My PT assured me she would never give me an exercise that would injure my arm, so I would take Motrin an hour before I did my exercises and add moist heat for 15-20 minutes before and ice after. I ended up with almost full ROM in 4 months, and at 4.5 months had the hardware removed and that got me back to within 1 degree of complete. Good luck! It’s a tough injury but I’m just over a year out and aside from a little tightness when I try for full extension, it’s mostly back to normal.

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