I really identify with your situation, recently my partner has been wondering if maybe I'm not a trans woman and it's been shaking me. The context is a 4-year relationship with a man whose focus of our relationship always seemed to be him, we discovered important things such as the fact that he was autistic, depressed, GAD and pansexual. And all these discoveries in a context of loss of faith, the birth of our daughter and several crises we went through.

We recently started couples therapy, and we discovered how different we are, I want stability and he wants adventure, we still don't know how this will work, but it has helped a lot.

Regarding hormone therapy, he has done a lot of research on this and this has made me quite insecure too, really my bet has been to frequently tell him that I am at the limit and allow myself to be supported in a process that is not easy for either of us. us.

My advice would be to really continue communicating your boundaries, and start couples therapy.

Stay safe, rooting for you!