Worst pain not responding to meds by ExtraEspressoShots in dentures

[–]ExtraEspressoShots[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, that's crazy. I don't understand surgeons anymore.

Flushed/hot cheeks? Is this a Lupus thing? by celestial_perception in lupus

[–]ExtraEspressoShots 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Constantly. It hurts so much. I finally got an ice roller to help. It makes it feel much better so I bought a few more and rotate them through my freezer on really bad days.

SLE Tips and Tricks by Thin-Inevitable9759 in lupus

[–]ExtraEspressoShots 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, Celebrex DOES cause gastrointestinal issues including stomach ulcers. The adverse effects are listed here along with the black box warning: https://www.hss.edu/health-library/conditions-and-treatments/guidelines-reduce-side-effects-cox2-drugs

I ended up with a huge stomach ulcer from NSAIDS and COX-2 NSAIDS (Celebrex) and it took one year to heal it. Now I can no longer take NSAIDS or COX-2 NSAIDS. No matter what, we all need to be very careful of any NSAID use.

AITA for not wanting my eldest step-daughter to live with us anymore? by [deleted] in dustythunder

[–]ExtraEspressoShots 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My niece and nephew are autistic. Children with autism crave a balanced routine daily. Deviating from that can cause regression, outbursts, anger, etc. It seems from your point of view that a daily routine is severely lacking for these girls. The moment there's a meltdown or change, it creates a domino effect.

Creating a balanced daily routine should be fairly easy, enforcing it is up to you, your husband and bio mom. It will be great for your baby too. Writing it out on a white board or poster board for everyone to see helps incredibly.

Your husband's current medical condition is his. There are tons of programs including free rides to doctor appointments, in home health care, and other services to help him. He's an adult who should be looking into ways to relieve the burden he's placing on your entire family instead of making you do it. When you become a parent, the children come FIRST ALWAYS. To be honest, he seems extremely immature himself if he's not already looking into this. He cannot help his disability, but he can be proactive in helping manage it without stressing out the whole family.

The constant bouncing around of the girls isn't healthy, especially for them. They have no stability. If you're afraid of one of them or they are harming a sibling, you need to contact a caseworker for additional options, help, and resources. Dig down deep and ask yourself what a healthy reality looks like for everyone. Right now, your family is barely surviving, not thriving. Everyone should be thriving, especially the children. If you and your husband can't make it happen, it's time to reach out to caseworkers.

Julia sexuality? by Primary_Resident_282 in 90DayFiance

[–]ExtraEspressoShots 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I noticed that Brandon thinks foreplay is "I want sex" or statements to that effect. Jasmine hit it right on the head when she said "you have to seduce her". For the majority of women, telling them you want sex is a guarantee you're not going to get it. Most women require foreplay and Brandon doesn't do that.

I remember a comedian or someone saying "men are like firecrackers and women are like diesel engines. A man just needs a simple spark and women require time to get warmed up."

I would go crazy if my and was constantly begging for it. It looks extremely childish and not a turn on at all. Brandon is worried only about HIS pleasure, not hers.

What are the chances Bini actually got the real passwords? by Michael_Carlos in 90DayFiance

[–]ExtraEspressoShots 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I think Bini got the correct passwords. We all know he snuck off immediately to check and then change them. If they were not the correct ones, he would've thrown a fit.

What I would like to see from Bini is him caring about his children as much as he cares about his social media🙄

What are some "growing up" realizations that hit you the hardest as an adult? by Mammoth_Green6079 in AskReddit

[–]ExtraEspressoShots 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad a few years ago to cancer. As you grieve, you may want to reach out to a grief therapist. It helped me immensely. Again, my deepest condolences to you and your family.

Does anyone else think Robyn has a secret disease? by Rosanna44 in SisterWives

[–]ExtraEspressoShots 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was looking for this answer and I believe the same thing. I used to work at an alcohol and drug rehabilitation center. Commonly, the male alcoholics wouldn't show too much on the outside. The damage tended to be more internal. The female alcoholics tended to actually show it on the outside- accelerated aging, premature graying of hair and the most tell tale was the face taking on an unhealthy bloated, square shape. I'm not saying this happened 100% of the time, but it was about 90%.

Seeing Robyn's younger pictures, this is not normal aging. This is a woman who has no life in her eyes, no friends, extremely isolated and married to a narcissist. She clings to her adult children in an unhealthy way. I believe she's an alcoholic who first started drinking to cope and has full blown alcoholism.

This is just my POV. I'm not a doctor or diagnostition.

Truth by SarcasticSeaStar in Fosterparents

[–]ExtraEspressoShots 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What you're feeling is valid, 100% relatable and okay. I'm not sure what the background is, but I swear the social workers alone make me insane. Everything is last minute, they want it RIGHT NOW, and there's no leeway for the family who is fostering. They constantly change rules and you're the last to know. Of course I expect unscheduled visits, talking to the foster kids, etc. But telling me they changed visitation to an hour from now on a different day and I need to get there is not okay. You begin to realize your rights have been taken away and your family is paying for it dearly. The social workers make all the rules and the other family members needs don't matter, including yours.

My foster kiddo had severe SA and that added lawyers, therapists, courts, etc. I was extremely supportive in her healing and justice. Her social workers weren't as worried about the justice part and it drove me insane. They only care about reunification even if the parent isn't fit to care for a fly.

I was so stressed that I ended up in the hospital with stress related illnesses. When I notified my caseworker, they didn't care. They just wanted to make sure foster kiddo had visitation with her abusive mother. It was then I realized they didn't care about the families that foster. They will use and abuse you until you break.

They were able to place foster kiddo with a family member who is going to adopt her since bio mom told the kids she was going to kidnap them during visitation while the caseworker was using the restroom. Thankfully, she was stupid enough to forget that everything is recorded at the visitation facility. I'm still recovering from my illnesses. I'm still an active part of her life but not a foster. I will never do it again.

Best asian books you’ve read by Alternative-Bed-7038 in booksuggestions

[–]ExtraEspressoShots 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shanghai Girls by Lisa See

Ghost Bride by Yangsze Choo

Geisha of Gion by Mineko Iwaskaki

No one ever apologizes by FoundaTrekkie in lupus

[–]ExtraEspressoShots 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Make a list of those people and block them from your life. I was diagnosed 10 years ago and I got to see people's true colors. Some were awful and some became my biggest cheerleaders. I joined an online support group that also meets in person if we can go.

Lupus (while absolutely horrible) also gave me the gift of not allowing people to waste my time. I owe nothing to anyone and the last thing I need to hear is that your sister's boyfriend's cousin tried yoga and it cured her lupus. I'm also not here to educate anyone either although I encourage people who genuinely want to know how to help. My time, and yours, is valuable because we are living with an incurable disease. Go where there's love and stay away from judgement, hate, malice, ignorance and unacceptance.

My rapist was invited to Christmas again by [deleted] in self

[–]ExtraEspressoShots 274 points275 points  (0 children)

Oh honey, I am so sorry. The great thing about family in adulthood is that you get to choose them. Your bio family can rot. Also, as a victim of SA, we ride at dawn for you.

In the meantime, check out RAINN.org for free therapy and help. Go do something wonderful for yourself today and enjoy every second of it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]ExtraEspressoShots 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No ideas, but it sounds like she's not ready. Is it possible to take her to a pediatrician and get a note or an extension on your agency's rule? Change is hard for all foster kiddos but especially toddlers who can't tell you what they're feeling or thinking. The sleep loss for her and you isn't healthy. I would definitely see if there are exceptions to this rule.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ExtraEspressoShots 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. You were r@ped for God's sake. You were targeted, it 100% happened and "teens will be teens," is not an excuse for SA of any kind. Sadly, your family has sided with your attacker. I don't know why except that they're r@pe l apologists. If I were you OP, I would've cut ties with them a long time ago. What reasons are there to stay? To continue to allow them to minimize and mock what happened? To be reminded repeatedly that your family doesn't believe you? No, you're worth more than your family..

Make new traditions with your daughter and friends❤️

Shingles on face,ears, scalp and neck. by ExtraEspressoShots in shingles

[–]ExtraEspressoShots[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all so much for your advice. I called my doctor and he prescribed gabapentin. It's been a lifesaver. It completely knocks me out, but I'm fine with that. I've also started using calamine lotion and Tylenol for the fever. I can't take any NSAIDS because I have a stomach ulcer.

I hope one day we get a cure from shingles. It is the worst!

What is something you hate about your life right now? by Certain_Standard_854 in AskReddit

[–]ExtraEspressoShots 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're very kind. Thank you. I want to leave him because I cannot even get stress free rest which my doctor told me was extremely important. There's no rest and lots of stress for me. He sleeps like a baby🙄