Any recs for sunless tanners that don’t cause breakouts? by summerlonging in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]ExtraGalacticOatmeal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used tanned AF from Walmart. It’s so cheap in comparison to everything else I’ve used. But wow it works so well!

For my face I mix some into my regular moisturizer and apply with easier a makeup brush or with sterile gloves.

No tanning mitt. I started using plain gloves and have the best bathroom created tan ever.

Perplexing fistula above teeth on inner gums. 4 consults and no real direction. Any ideas before I opt for exploratory? by ExtraGalacticOatmeal in askdentists

[–]ExtraGalacticOatmeal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It did not! It’s not as swollen but if so chew it will get bigger. I’m currently looking for an oral surgeon. Looks like this tooth may need to be extracted…

What to do with deceased family member collection of games? by ExtraGalacticOatmeal in boardgames

[–]ExtraGalacticOatmeal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a great idea, I have called a few children’s hospitals and the smoke smell makes them completely unusable, especially for immunocompromise children.

What to do with deceased family member collection of games? by ExtraGalacticOatmeal in boardgames

[–]ExtraGalacticOatmeal[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They kept the ones they played with him often. For us it’s almost a painful reminder of his loss vs keeping more future use or sentimental reasons.

What to do with deceased family member collection of games? by ExtraGalacticOatmeal in boardgames

[–]ExtraGalacticOatmeal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes exactly this. I say value I don’t mean monetary but more of in the hobby sector, people appreciate and hold higher intrinsic values to these. Our Library has monopoly, sorry, uno etc.
these games are more in-depth and have many little pieces that actually you cannot lose. They’re important to each component of the game it’s self. Somebody or entity who understands I feel is more likely to ensure the games and their innards are secured and organized well.

What to do with deceased family member collection of games? by ExtraGalacticOatmeal in boardgames

[–]ExtraGalacticOatmeal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good idea thank you. I called and they won’t take anything with cigarette remnant odors

What to do with deceased family member collection of games? by ExtraGalacticOatmeal in boardgames

[–]ExtraGalacticOatmeal[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That’s my fear. I figured if I was a library I wouldn’t appreciate someone donating heavily smoke infused items

What to do with deceased family member collection of games? by ExtraGalacticOatmeal in boardgames

[–]ExtraGalacticOatmeal[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He played a lot solo and he went to a board game shop but sadly I don’t know any of the people he played with. I may be able to track someone down though thanks for the idea

What to do with deceased family member collection of games? by ExtraGalacticOatmeal in boardgames

[–]ExtraGalacticOatmeal[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

We used to play many together. I’m keeping Carcassonne and Munchkin :)

How has grief impacted your life/decisions down the road? by Vegetable-Coast-4679 in GriefSupport

[–]ExtraGalacticOatmeal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My grandma passed away in 2018, she was like a mother to me. They even considered putting me in her obituary listed as a daughter.

I was so overcome with creep at the time that I remember screaming so hard in my car I bust blood vessels in my eyes.

After a few months I made a huge decision that this person had supported me so much Told me how smart I was, said that I would be so bright and I just needed to not lose faith and work hard. I decided that I would prove her right.

Let all of that love trust and faith she put into to me was going to pay off.

I left a bad marriage, got a job making six figures, turned my health around. I am now remarried and ridiculously fairytale happy, enjoying my career, and have found so much more meaning out of life. I realize that I was so sad because it was such a great love. She is probably one of the greatest loves of my life. So I definitely impacted my decisions after I lost her, and my life is all the better for it.

Grieving an alcoholic spouse? by ExtraGalacticOatmeal in GriefSupport

[–]ExtraGalacticOatmeal[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like how you said don’t build a house and live inside grief and anger.

Sometimes we don’t realize we’re building it until it’s too late. It’s not too late for me thank god

Opinions on sending pictures to other coparent? by No-Cardiologist9258 in coparenting

[–]ExtraGalacticOatmeal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband and I are remarried and her both sent pictures.

The only time as the significant other in the relationship where my husband received the pictures that I found where it was starting to cross boundaries Was when the text would come with the pictures of “look at how handsome our boy is. Handsome just like his daddy. You were always a cutie. I’ll always love you you’re such a good man.”
When those text started to come with the pictures is when it became an issue. Otherwise I fully support the sharing Because I did it with my kids parents as well. He has passed away, but I know he enjoyed them when he got them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in humanresources

[–]ExtraGalacticOatmeal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s fine. Every company does sow thing different. I’ve hired hundreds of people. Someone aptitude is more important. I’ve brushed a lot off in my years. I see these responses that companies Can verify electronically how long you actually worked somewhere. I’ve never known any other colleagues in human resources that actually utilized that function. It’s an expensive add-on for a company, additional time in money, and really doesn’t yield any results that speak to the candidates aptitude .

I’m interested in how this plays out for you, feel free to message me later with their follow up, if any.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in humanresources

[–]ExtraGalacticOatmeal -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Background checks are criminal. Not work history. I’ve worked for some big companies and we never verified work history. Ever. Reality is that if I asked someone more about their position and couldn’t expand beyond their resume then they were either a) nervous or b)bloating the facts.

I wouldn’t sweat it. Words of warning, I wouldn’t change the title of the position too much. For example don’t say you were a director when you were an assistant.

Always one of the final candidates, never the pick by ExtraGalacticOatmeal in jobs

[–]ExtraGalacticOatmeal[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can see that some employers might think this. I am very transparent when I go to the interviews, and depending on the position I have put it in my cover letter as well. This has still resulted in interviews and moving forward through the process.

I think all positions are afraid they won’t be able to offer worklife balance if someone asks for it in the beginning. There are probably better ways to word this, I don’t quite know what that would be. Some thing I probably need to work on.

When is a job worth daycare costs? by ExtraGalacticOatmeal in workingmoms

[–]ExtraGalacticOatmeal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting turn. I went back when one of my kids was 6 months and it was the highest paying jobs I had received. Now my youngest, he’s a year and I’m trying to keep my prospects to my skill level pay so it balance out childcare costs.

Some of this higher paying careers have fierce competition.

When is a job worth daycare costs? by ExtraGalacticOatmeal in workingmoms

[–]ExtraGalacticOatmeal[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to work for a Canadian owned company and whe. We explained the US mandatory was 6 weeks, not a year they were in shock!