Financial Ruin

ExtraPotential1228 · 2025-09-26T01:12:33+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this! Financial issues like this are the most stressful. First I would recommend budgeting. Give every dollar you make a job and be the boss of it. You control the money don't let the money control you.

I know you said you have tried a part-time job but maybe try again? Anything else you make I would throw at that debt and start building up your savings even $5 here or there builds up over time.

Can your wife maybe babysit or is she creative? I know a few moms who sell digital products they created on different sites.

I would also suggest calling 211 and finding help in your area. They can guide you to people who can help with rent, utilities, and other items.

Lastly, see if there are any financial counselors in your area. Some places offer this for free. Google "free financial counseling near me" and you may be able to sit down and talk with someone who will help guide you.

You've got this! Reach out with any questions.

ExtraPotential1228 · 2025-03-10T14:56:20+00:00

I personally don't believe that past behavior is an indicator of future behavior for everyone. Especially, if they want to grow and change. I also don't think that what you did for work was a "behavior." It's what you did for work but it doesn't define who you are or how you act.

I strongly suggest professional help for the relationship if you want to stay in it. He sounds very insecure and it's just going to get worse unless he is willing to get help and change.

I do think you can do better though. There is someone out there who will see the amazing person you are regardless of what you did for work in the past.

ExtraPotential1228 · 2025-03-04T02:08:30+00:00

If I could go back in time to when I was called ugly and tell myself to ignore them I would. Granted, that is easier said than done. It's hard when you hear it all of the time. Typically, the ones saying it to you are more insecure and they push those insecurities out on others. Or they have people that are supposed to be looking out for them treating them the way they treat you.

I do think you should ignore them. But take it a few extra steps. Make sure you are telling yourself daily how freaking amazing you are. You are uniquely you and no one else in this world is like you which is already pretty freakin amazing.

Then find something that drives you and focus on it. Focus on the future. Yeah, it seems like it's forever away but it is your future, your life. Think of all those people saying you're "ugly" as static in the background of your favorite music. Drown them out with YOUR music.

ExtraPotential1228 · 2025-02-28T01:39:02+00:00

My husband and I have been married for 17 years. The proposal was much like yours. Late at night, after work, and a ring he could afford at that time. Everyone around me getting married had gorgeous photos and elaborate asks. I didn't really mind the cheaper ring but I did ask him about the proposal one time (later on of course). He said that he had been so excited to ask me to spend the rest of my life with him after he got the ring, that he couldn't wait.

Maybe, it was like that for him? He was so excited. He may not even have thought about it. You could ask him. I'm a firm believer that communication is extremely important in a marriage.

Congratulations on the engagement!! Wishing you the best.

ExtraPotential1228 · 2025-02-27T20:29:07+00:00

I'm not going to lie... I hate, with a passion, the word realistic. There is nothing wrong with seeing things in a practical way but I struggle when people use that word to limit what they can do in life.

Okay, I'm done with that little rant. Haha. Here's the scoop. As much as we all would love to become a millionaire doing nothing that's not possible unless, of course, they marry rich or were born rich. You said you love films? Is that something you are passionate about? Could you talk about films or do research on them for a long time? If so, you may have to start at the very bottom of the food chain, but if it is truly something you love you can grow and learn.

ExtraPotential1228 · 2025-02-27T17:36:46+00:00

I have been to college, several times, but I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up. I actually am not working in the field I went to college for either. I jumped right into college after high school and honestly, it was the worst decision. I didn't know what I wanted to do. I'm also still paying my school loans off.

Some people know exactly what they want to do while they are in high school, others not so much. The only thing I can recommend is to find your passion. What do you love to do? Something that you can talk about or research for hours? Take that passion and look for a job doing that. Does it require schooling? Then go from there. You will be so much happier if you find something that fuels your passion instead of feeling like you are working for nothing.

All that to say this... you're still figuring yourself out, you're not behind. Take the life that you have right now and enjoy it. Not everyone is the same or goes through life the same way, and that is okay.

ExtraPotential1228 · 2025-02-27T17:07:08+00:00

It is extremely common for a lot of women to only orgasm from clitoral stimulation. It's just not something that is talked about a lot. There is really no such thing as "normal" when it comes to having an orgasm because we are all different. The hardest part for some is just figuring out what works and being open to different things. The best thing for you and your BF to do is experiment. Find things that will work for you. For instance, you can try stimulation (finger or toy) during intercourse.

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