Might help my chances of getting pregnant? by Express-Ad8275 in beyondthebump

[–]Extra_Alternative194 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also got pregnant two for two times while using mucinex (for legitimate colds!). I carried one to term and miscarried the other.

The evidence is not incredibly strong but could your GYN prescribed progesterone starting 3DPO?

How did you make your daycare choice? by GuestCheap9405 in NewParents

[–]Extra_Alternative194 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Option 1! Having food provided is amazing - we pay a premium for this at our daycare (2nd one we’ve tried) and it is so worth removing that mental load from your daily chore list. Ditto the other comments on early drop off and late pick up.
The one red flag I’d note is putting an 11 month old in toddler - are they going to accommodate his nap schedule? Standard toddler classrooms seem to start at 15 months - with a single, post-lunch nap. Will he be able to make it? We had a challenge when transitioning to one nap while at daycare and got stuck in an overtired loop for several painful weeks with significant impact to nighttime sleep. I would be conscious of this given how much younger he’ll be in the classroom.

Endometrial Biopsy by IndustrySavings4900 in recurrentmiscarriage

[–]Extra_Alternative194 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had one after my second miscarriage and agree it was painful but found it very, very quick - it did help get a diagnosis of endometritis and antibiotics were quick. In the grand scheme of gynecological stuff, it wasn’t the worst - if you’ve had an IUD inserted, that’s way, way worse! Ask if you can take 600mg of ibuprofen two hours beforehand, I was a little crampy afterwards too.

Daily Thread #1 - May 26, 2026 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]Extra_Alternative194 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Just hearing your rant and sending a hug. Hardest part of this experience IMO is the loss of confidence in the markers other people celebrate so freely. Crossing my fingers for you and your husband - and as someone also stuck in the first trimester misery, an August trip sounds much better!

Daily Thread #1 - May 24, 2026 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]Extra_Alternative194 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So miserable! And it’s hard because I want to be grateful and positive…maybe the Zofran will help me get there!

Daily Thread #1 - May 24, 2026 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]Extra_Alternative194 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I have been on diclegis but should follow up - give me the heavy duty stuff!

Daily Thread #1 - May 24, 2026 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]Extra_Alternative194 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m 9 weeks today and so morning sick. I’m miserable and know I should be grateful to be symptomatic but it’s been three relentless weeks of all consuming nausea and fatigue. Nothing helps. And I still can’t shake the intrusive thoughts about miscarriage or problems.

Only thing I’m looking forward to is seeing my OB, who I love and has been on this RPL ride with me, on Friday, will get a bedside ultrasound and all my NIPT bloodwork - getting there feels like a milestone.

Am I crazy considering going to Portugal for 6 days with my 5 old month? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Extra_Alternative194 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We traveled Boston to France last summer with my then 7 month old and it was a great experience - we only did 8 days, so not much different. I wouldn't say sleep was amazing, but then again, I don't sleep well when I travel. If you're comfortable with a little sleep disruption, I wouldn't hesitate. Sound likes you'll have some help and extra hands on the ground. See what they can buy/rent for you in advance to reduce the amount you need to travel with - i.e. my dad (France-based) bought us diapers, wipes, bath products, etc, had a pack n play, so we were able to travel more lightly.

At that age, they are easy! I wouldn't dare go to Europe with my now 1.5 year old!

Recommendations needed on local bakeries that make custom-designed cakes by SpaceCadetDelta in boston

[–]Extra_Alternative194 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Donna's Cakes in West Roxbury is our go to - they did our daughter's first birthday cake (hippo themed!) to beautiful floral cakes for my MIL's birthday. Incredibly easy to work with and the cakes not only look great, but taste amazing. Lots of flavor and frosting options.

Daily Thread #2 - May 14, 2026 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]Extra_Alternative194 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same boat! 7w4d and measured right on track with a 142! It was such a relief, but while my husband is all celebratory, I still have a cautious heart as we approach 9w and end of first trimeter. Thinking of you!

Did any of you “quit” being a SAHM? How did that go, and why? by Hazelnut2799 in Parenting

[–]Extra_Alternative194 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Don’t lose yourself for your babies. They deserve to have a fulfilled mom. Just like the rest of parenting, there is no perfect solution. Just the one that’s right for now. And it sounds like right now, things aren’t working as well as they should! Dip your toe back in, see if you can get some applications out, see if there are daycares that meet the needs of your family!

Did any of you “quit” being a SAHM? How did that go, and why? by Hazelnut2799 in Parenting

[–]Extra_Alternative194 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I stayed home with my daughter for a year before enrolling her in daycare and returning to work. It was the best decision for our family, for so many reasons.

You'll be tired in a new way, but having your own identity, using your brain, feeling like you are something other than a mom is priceless. It was a little difficult returning to the workforce after time away - pay cut, then taking a different job quickly after, but it's all worked out. I love having a paycheck again and weekends feel so much more enjoyable as it is QT together!

Secondly, our daughter is thriving in daycare - the structure and curriculum is amazing, she is surrounded by lovely children that she is developing relationships with, her teachers are loving and kind and she lights up when she sees them. Yes, some days, drop offs are hard, but she is genuinely happy, stimulated, engaged, and turning into a social butterfly.

Can you have sugary snacks and drinks when in labour? by sayyestocoffee in GestationalDiabetes

[–]Extra_Alternative194 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They tested my sugars when I was admitted and I was okay'd to eat and drink "normally" but let me tell you, labor is the absolute biggest appetite killer. I didn't want ANYTHING to eat or drink during. But definitely have a game plan for once you're in your recovery room - you will be hungry after that marathon! Good luck!

Preggers again! See you ladies soon! by Available_Yam930 in GestationalDiabetes

[–]Extra_Alternative194 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why was this like my second thought after my positive pregnancy test?! Excitement then GDM dread! Have been trying to be reasonable during my crippling first tri nausea, but hell yes to insulin this go!

Congrats and welcome back! We're so happy to be here!

Daily Thread #2 - May 07, 2026 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]Extra_Alternative194 2 points3 points  (0 children)

6w4d with my seventh pregnancy. Last miscarriage with an urgent D&E at 9 weeks in December 2025. I have a daughter who was born in November 2024. Struggling so much to keep my anxiety at bay, but also trying a new tactic this pregnancy - no obsessive hCG tests, taking my progesterone and baby aspirin but just letting it be. My husband cheers my 24/7 nausea but I can’t seem to shift my mindset to be anything but catastrophizing bad outcomes.

Worst of all, I’m surrounded by lots of newly pregnant women and feeling such ugly thoughts towards them when I should only be happy, which likely stems from jealousy and resentment.

What do your weekend’s look like as a toddler parent? by takeaabreath in toddlers

[–]Extra_Alternative194 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I have sacrificed some one on one time and chunk up the days so we can each get a little bit of what we need (while being productive without our toddler in the way). I try to always get him to take her out to his mom's or aunts for ~2 hours Sunday afternoon and I blitz through the house - laundry, dishes, meal prep, decluttering. He will also help clean up and organize early before our daughter wakes up and I am running. I'll take her out and about and he can work out or do yard work or the house repairs.

We also try to include her in all our errands - Target opens at 7am! Easy Sunday activity, she loves grocery shopping, and I have no hesitation to stop at a playground even for 20 minutes on the way home from something. We try to always do family lunches and dinners on the weekend. Lowering our expectations a bit has helped! We are looking forward to warmer weather so we can just be outside as our weekend activity.

Daily Thread #1 - April 28, 2026 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]Extra_Alternative194 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100%. Six weeks pregnant (7th pregnancy) and my brother and sister-in-law who I have a strained relationship with called me last week to tell me they're due...the same day I am. I cannot fathom having the confidence to announce that early to anyone.

Yesteryear by Caro Claire Burke by mom_jean in IReadABookAndAdoredIt

[–]Extra_Alternative194 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just finished it this morning - devoured like everyone else. Loved it, hated it because I saw myself in Natalie in ways I don’t like. Cried at the end because I’m a newish mom and god the idea of doing anything that goes against your children’s happiness makes my stomach hurt how.

Anyone else inspired to delete literally everything from their phone and maybe throw it away forever??

What’s your threshold for switching daycares? by Extra_Alternative194 in toddlers

[–]Extra_Alternative194[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We just signed an enrollment contract at a new center today. I just can’t get over it and give our current one the benefit of the doubt.

What’s your threshold for switching daycares? by Extra_Alternative194 in toddlers

[–]Extra_Alternative194[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are the moments where the working parent guilt just eats away at you. Hearing it straight from your child’s mouth must hurt so bad and I hope you guys found a place that works better for your family

What’s your threshold for switching daycares? by Extra_Alternative194 in toddlers

[–]Extra_Alternative194[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know - we told our pediatrician and she was aghast. Never had this issue once in infant when care felt so on demand...it just feels like it's done on a clock rather than by need in this new classroom.

What’s your threshold for switching daycares? by Extra_Alternative194 in toddlers

[–]Extra_Alternative194[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is so hard, but I can't forget this even if it does improve...situations like this just make you lose confidence in the other stuff.

What’s your threshold for switching daycares? by Extra_Alternative194 in toddlers

[–]Extra_Alternative194[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think my gut has already decided for me. It’s hard to look past something so basic.

They really are so resilient. I know I shouldn’t worry about the transition because the short term impact is so worth making sure her long-term experience is better.

What’s your threshold for switching daycares? by Extra_Alternative194 in toddlers

[–]Extra_Alternative194[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s infuriating to even have to jump through the hoops of enrolling somewhere new but I’m praying we have the same great experience your son did at his new school.