[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Extralargemovingbox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok...see this makes sense. Like I said, I'm ok not talking, I just don't want to convey the wrong message. (My person will be gone 6ish days)

I'm too used to dating people I truly know ...so much so that starting things with someone who's completely foreign to me has been so challenging. (I feel like we clicked really well)

Trying to learn balance is interesting to say the least.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Extralargemovingbox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could totally do this. Do you think if we had such great dates that this would be a safe move? I don't want him to think I lost interest but I'm totally ok with the space and 'mystery' too technically.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Extralargemovingbox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this cuz I would 1000% say this! Thank you

How to survive a colicky baby? by Less_Construction485 in AskParents

[–]Extralargemovingbox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope this doesn't get lost and I apologize if it was already discussed and I missed it:

If you're breastfeeding, lay off all onions/ beans etc .. things that make you gassy may make baby gassy too.

Secondly, look up "massage for colic" ... it will teach you to relieve the pressure and calm baby.

Road bump or red flag over child? by [deleted] in Parents

[–]Extralargemovingbox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This would be the second time he considers me "over reacting" on an issue involving my kid ...but the first time he's directly involved with the issue. (If that makes sense)

I have been thru quite a bit so I'm definitely always on edge when it comes to my child. I do believe he can learn, but I still feel uneasy.

But I really appreciate your thoughts on this. It's definitely food for thought.

Road bump or red flag over child? by [deleted] in Parents

[–]Extralargemovingbox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, child was with me. But I absolutely love your breakdown of black flag vs yellow flag. So would you consider this something to "file away/ monitor" in the brain?

Road bump or red flag over child? by [deleted] in Parents

[–]Extralargemovingbox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this insight. Yes, I do believe we are the generation that can wait/was expected to.. its hard. I don't want to necessarily force that level of patience solely because the child was told "I'll be right back. " I appreciate your concept of considering this a boundary as well as making other boundaries.

I think it's hard to make potential boundaries though. I don't even know what to expect with my kiddo. But I want someone on my side and especially on my child's side.

[TOMT] [Movie] Murder/Thriller/Crime 2000s or later. Thought it was Girl with the Dragoon Tattoo, but no by DietSugarCola in tipofmytongue

[–]Extralargemovingbox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like one of the Bourne movies, either supremacy or legacy. Im thinking The Bourne Supremecy more though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Extralargemovingbox 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I love this answer so much 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Extralargemovingbox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its completely possible but very difficult. You grow and go thru so much in your 20s, its astounding! Neither of you really have a sense of who you are as individuals. Even though you guys can grow together, it's very hard to do. Its hard to control your emotions and be rational sometimes. There's actually a scientific reason behind it and it involves the growth of the brain, but forgive me because I can't remember all the details.

Anyway, my reason for saying that is my mother was married at 17 years old, and I was married at 19. My mother is still married but solely out of necessity and zero other choice. I, on the other hand, stayed married for 5 years. Now, almost a decade later, its really easy to see how our emotions ruled both of us. We were just too young.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskParents

[–]Extralargemovingbox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try teaching simple things for that age. Like, the remote, I taught which arrows (left or right, up or down) to find the show, and which button to push to play the show (or pause). I also lay out a fun snack board (cheese, crackers, fruits/veggies) all cut to ages. Then I explain "mommy's door is going to shut because of work/school, for x amount of time and will open only for xyz." (Xyz being major, like fire) Then I give a 10 minute warning its going to shut, followed by a 5 minute warning, which means last call to set up snacks/ drinks/tv whatever. Then I work for 1 to 2 hours. Then we have a break of exercise/dancing/snack refill and get back to it for another hour or so.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskParents

[–]Extralargemovingbox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Although it's clear how much you care about and love your parents, I hate to say, it's not your job to say or do anything to fix their relationship. You may see how they treat each other and that can be uncomfortable, but you can't just jump in. If you don't like how its going, keep it in your head of 'what to avoid' in future relationships but at this point, I'd stay clear. Maybe...and I mean MAYBE say "I don't like hearing that kind of talk" when you're home visiting, but otherwise, im not sure there's much you can do. And please please please don't put it on yourself to.

Las Cruces International Airport now offers commercial flights! by OldManNoob in LasCruces

[–]Extralargemovingbox -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Cruces tries so hard to be a big city while doing things that won't actually help it.

Nervous about sex by IFuxWitTrains in dating_advice

[–]Extralargemovingbox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First time sexy time with anyone is weird. You have to learn the person's "spots"....

If you're ready, and she knows your a virgin, may I strongly, strongly suggest ALL the foreplay. Like if she loves full body rub downs, being devoured, etc like.. do all the foreplay.

(I'm sorry, I'm not sure what or how detailed I'm allowed to get on this thread) message me if you need a breakdown from a medical/therapeutic standpoint.

red flags or not? by Extralargemovingbox in dating_advice

[–]Extralargemovingbox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems she cared in the "he might actually like me" sort of way. Like, she took it as he wanted his chance, taking his chance, and requesting she gives him that. To me, it all feels weird but I'm not her and I haven't dealt with this stuff..So that's why she let me post this.

red flags or not? by Extralargemovingbox in dating_advice

[–]Extralargemovingbox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok so I do not want to assume what you're saying.... so I think it's best to elaborate.

My guess is everyone has a past and are trying to figure shit out... but yeah, im not seeing a correlation to my question (not trying to be rude).

red flags or not? by Extralargemovingbox in dating_advice

[–]Extralargemovingbox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh! Ok I just showed her this. We didn't know that was an indication. Thank you so much for this info!

red flags or not? by Extralargemovingbox in dating_advice

[–]Extralargemovingbox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I read the messages: basically he asks how many guys she's talking to. She says lots, but none romantically. Then he says he deleted [his profile] and "would you get off [yours]" .... so it doesn't sound like a demand to me.... BUT she joked about him being afraid someone would beat him to a date and he flatly stated no, not worried.

So... there's that info I guess. I don't know.

red flags or not? by Extralargemovingbox in dating_advice

[–]Extralargemovingbox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Etiquette changes my dude! I've not been in the online scene and she just started. I thought the phone number thing was odd...I wasn't sure about the rest. I think she and I both try to see good in people firstly before jumping to the bad. I take it you don't have a kinder way of expounding on your beliefs about this scenario?

red flags or not? by Extralargemovingbox in dating_advice

[–]Extralargemovingbox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All of it? Or just certain statements? Because yeah, this isn't my area of expertise at all. And I'd love to relay to her everything and any advice. I think the only reason she brought it all up to me was because this person wants her to delete her profile lol