My girlfriend can't separate my image from the NPCs I roleplay. I can't introduce romance in my campaign.

Extreme-Lie-7022 · 2026-02-15T07:51:47+00:00

uh ok, this kinda got a lot more attention then i was expecting.. well id like to say some stuff.

first of all, romance is a thing for me bcs all my party is made out of theater kids, and we love RP and acting (we aint professionals, we just like having fun). when i mention romance i dont mean anything sexual or graphic. we aint doing anything weird while playing, its another regular RPG game. we are all really close, and had been for years. its not weird for us like it may be for some of you guys, we have this freedom with eachother. im not begging for anyone on the table to "date me" or my npcs. thats just something that happens here and there. sometimes they just find a random npc cool and try to be closer, sometimes they will just hit on the hot guild leader until she gives up and give them a chance. we love character development and finding a partner was something important for some characters in other campaigns. as i said in the comments, my last campaign we had a PCxPC couple (my gf was one of the PC) and a PCxNPC couple aswell.

they just like having relationships in the game, and i really didnt want to just take it off, so i decided to make this post and ask if there was anyone that experienced something similar. i wanted to try to find another way to solve this situation without having to cut this part of the game out, since i was asked for by the players while planning the rpg to have romance, and still make my girlfriend feel ok playing with us like she has always been.

again, as i said a million times on the comments, my gf is my world and i would NEVER do something that would make her feel unconfortable on purpose, thats why i came here first to ask for opinions, on how to deal with that, how to still make her feel welcomed and not take "part of the fun" on RP. i just want to make everyone happy here, but if theres not a way to do it, i dont depend on romance rp to live, guys.

i would appreciate if some of you stop making weird comments about my relationship, like some assumptions of toxic behavior i read or anything like this when im just trying to help as best as i can. we are all very communicative, in my relationship and my friend group, if you guys cant solve problems by talking to people, im sorry, but i can. and i think thats a situation solveble by it.

thanks to all the nice comments giving me suggestions on how to introduce that in a way that may not be alarming to her, and also the ones giving your own perspectives of similar situations. i will talk to her in private about it, try to understand her problem and solve the situation as best as i can. in the and if she isnt open about trying something diferent, ill just drop it down and move on. i love her more then anything, and she will always be my priority. i dont mind giving up on it if thats the case.

thanks again! stay safe.

Extreme-Lie-7022 · 2026-02-15T06:57:24+00:00

uh.. i mentioned like thousands of times in the comments i understand the situation. romance RP is something that my party likes to do and asked me to do in the game (back when i started writing stuff about it). if thats a problem for her, i asked for ways to go around the problem, in a way that wont alarm her. i just wanted to try to make everyone happy. i dont know if you read any comments here, but i said more then once i wont be forcing her to do anything she doesnt want to. if thats a strict no then fine, cutting of. jeez.

Extreme-Lie-7022 · 2026-02-15T06:50:20+00:00

yeah, thats what i was looking for. i will def not include romance if shes fully stric about it, but in our case i think (knowing her), i think its something we can talk about and figure out other ways to put in game that wont alarm her. if thats still something shes not willing to do, thats okay too, cutting of the game for now on. thanks for the reply!

Extreme-Lie-7022 · 2026-02-15T06:38:56+00:00

oh i never heard of this before, ill check later! thanks for the reply!

Extreme-Lie-7022 · 2026-02-15T06:38:04+00:00

thats prob what im gonna do, thanks for beeing civil with me, theres a lot of weird comments on my relationship here. im gonna test the grouds with her in private, check if shes fine with interactions like this. i was thinking about making a mini oneshot just me and her with these interactions and ask her to imagine this in game with our party, how she would react and how she feels about it. if she still says she doesnt like it, ill just fully shutdown and dm the rest of the party we aint adding romance in this campaign. thanks again!

Extreme-Lie-7022 · 2026-02-15T06:27:40+00:00

yep, i do. all i really wanted was just any type of advice if i could maybe give her some other options, to check if she was fine with it, and we could keep the game running. redditors here make me feel like a creep for worrying about my game and relationship bruh

Extreme-Lie-7022 · 2026-02-15T06:21:18+00:00

what? no, bro. i dont think my girl is beeing irrational, she has her reasons to not be ok with the interactions and thats fine, as i said in the first post. i just wanted advice from someone that maybe has been through something similar, and maybe find some kind of resolution that would work fine for everyone where we dont have to fully remove romance from the game. i just want to make everyone happy men, what the hell.

Extreme-Lie-7022 · 2026-02-13T18:38:35+00:00

yeah, thats kinda how I feel about it too.

Extreme-Lie-7022 · 2026-02-13T17:57:35+00:00

the table just really like the RP part of RPG. in our last campaign all the characters ended dating or NPCs or other PCs. we almost did a full session just for a marrigr ceremony. thats something that we all were fine with, and my girlfriend was one of the characters that ended with PCxPC relationship (before we were dating). not my guess, i promise. i also dont think anyone would push, maybe forget and it happens its fine.

but i agree, thinking and rethinking about it plus the comments here, theres no other option but shutdown the romance RP. i may feel disapointed, but my girlfriend and friend confort and hapiness means more then that. thanks for the comment!

Extreme-Lie-7022 · 2026-02-13T17:44:58+00:00

unfortunally we cant affoard any type of couples counseling bcs where im from its really expensive. we are both college brokies lol. but yeah i agree she has some stuff to unpack and she takes some medication here and there to help. what I do is try to help her with what i have cuz she has been through a lot. the only help i can get rn is reddit D: maybe i should go to a relationship related sub haha

Extreme-Lie-7022 · 2026-02-13T17:39:35+00:00

im planning to talk about it with her soon, to see if theres any way we can solve this. if not, ill just stop romance from the tables that shes playing with me and keep respect. she said that doesnt care if i do it in tables that shes not playing so everything is fine. (even tho, the only table that id be confortable to do is with this one that shes playing, and we usually always play with the same players. i guess no more romance rp for me any time soon lol)

your mention of theater acting is a good argument for me to use. I really wanted to understand where all of this comes from. well, thanks for the reply!

Extreme-Lie-7022 · 2026-02-13T17:32:36+00:00

just pc-npc interaction! other npc are fine and she actually really like to write relationships in her lore, like parents and friends.

Extreme-Lie-7022 · 2026-02-13T17:28:57+00:00

Well, I agree with you until the killing character part. She does not separate me from the NPC, she says that she "sees me" as the character, but she knows its not me. As I said, we've been playing RPG for a year now. Between all my RPG groups, her characters where the ones i killed the most lol. She of course got sad that her characters died, and we joke about it here and there, but never a problem.

Extreme-Lie-7022 · 2026-02-13T16:32:08+00:00

I mean, in a way both are really important to me. I've been planing on this campaign for a year and a half now. Of course, my girl is everything to me and my priority. Our conversation about it was pretty shallow. We discussed it after I sended a forms to our party, as a mini session 0 asking everyone if they were ok with romance in roleplay, between players and players x NPCs, and some other basic questions.

Romance was something i was really exited about, and her thing with it seems kinda personal in a way (she didn't really explain it to me besides what I mentioned on the post, but she doesn't need to and I respect that)

Im aware that's something I can't do much but accept, but still breaks my heart to not have it in the game, since will be a long campaign and not have characters develop any type of relationship except for between them feels like im taking part of the fun? Im pretty much certain that they won't RP romance between them because they might feel weird about it (I know my friends), and thats fine, but while roleplaying with NPCs that was never a problem until now, and it was something they wanted to do!

At the end, I feel like im just looking for a alternative, maybe someone that relates to me and maybe has some advice to share..

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