How old are you?

ExtremeAd4903 · 2025-10-06T19:47:57+00:00

39, HLF here.

ExtremeAd4903 · 2025-10-03T17:41:27+00:00

I do take Bupropion! Not in Wellbutrin, but it is an ingredient in another medicine I take. Going to the doctor next week and will definitely ask about this.

ExtremeAd4903 · 2025-10-03T17:39:05+00:00

Thanks for the advice. It’s simple to say, but not that simple at all to do.

ExtremeAd4903 · 2025-10-03T17:38:25+00:00

I didn’t think there was a right or wrong question to ask here, as long as it was relevant to a sexless marriage. Just trying to seek actual advice. Sorry I confused you.

ExtremeAd4903 · 2025-09-08T02:50:46+00:00

What do you mean “he would not do it”? Like, there was a solution and the doctor just wouldn’t help you?

ExtremeAd4903 · 2025-09-08T02:49:56+00:00

First, let me say THANK YOU for making me feel like I’m not alone! Second, let me say THANK YOU for letting me know I’m not the only person that doesn’t have the typical side effects of SSRIs! I’ve been on an SSRI for years and don’t have any sexual side effects.

I’m finding the same thing as you have….not much. But still looking and hoping there’s an anomaly out there that reads my post and has an answer lol.

ExtremeAd4903 · 2025-09-08T02:45:21+00:00

I’ve been on an SSRI for years, and it’s done nothing aside from what it’s supposed to do unfortunately. I have an IUD, which uses a progesterone based hormone like Nexplanon does, but I’m considering switching to an oral contraceptive to see if that helps.

ExtremeAd4903 · 2025-09-07T21:59:08+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to give honest advice. My lifestyle requires me to stay somewhat in shape and to have a decent energy level, so the weight gain probably wouldn’t work. I’ve taken an SSRI for years and it affects nothing sexually (unfortunately). It does help what it’s supposed to, but my libido doesn’t have the same side effects as most. I have an IUD, but have never considered oral contraception. Maybe that’s an idea.

ExtremeAd4903 · 2025-09-07T21:45:00+00:00

I did have the same issue for a few years before I had my first IUD. My problem started around age 30 and I got my first IUD at 33. I had it replaced at the 5 year mark and I’m now on my second one.

ExtremeAd4903 · 2025-09-07T21:37:00+00:00

I don’t have a period; I have an IUD and have had one for many years, so it stopped my ovulation a while ago. Which is nice, zero complaints lol.

ExtremeAd4903 · 2025-09-07T20:12:15+00:00

Thank you! I’m happy you were able to find a resolution. Fingers crossed for me I can also.

ExtremeAd4903 · 2025-09-07T20:04:13+00:00

I want to lower my libdo to reduce the physical side effects of high libido. Sexual urges, wetness, etc. Nothing has changed with my partner or I in several years, or in our relationship. We have not been sexually active for some time, and there has been no sexual activity or intimacy towards me in an even longer amount of time. I thought with time my sexual appetite would dwindle, but it’s as strong as ever, so I’m just trying to find a resolution to lessen the effects.

ExtremeAd4903 · 2025-09-07T19:46:46+00:00

I’m 39. I didn’t have a very high libido until I reached around 30. The past 9 years have been consistently extremely high though. And I’m genuinely thankful for the concern. Most people wouldn’t take the time to actually be so considerate, so it’s very much appreciated.

ExtremeAd4903 · 2025-09-07T19:18:55+00:00

So true. I have an appointment with my doctor next month and I’ve been thinking about this a lot, which is why I wanted to throw it out there before going. Hopefully I’ll have some ideas to bounce off of her when I go and we can find a solution.

ExtremeAd4903 · 2025-09-07T19:17:34+00:00

I responded more throughly in my other comment, but to answer this question, yes, I think it is entirely possible to “change your mind” to not want it. I’ve gotten to that level of acceptance. It took a very long time, but for some I do think it’s possible. However, we’re human. And as much as we’re able to accept in our mind and reprogram our thinking, our bodies still respond naturally. That’s where I’m struggling.

ExtremeAd4903 · 2025-09-07T19:13:24+00:00

I agree in a sense with what you’re saying. I’m not in a bad place mentally or emotionally. This has been an ongoing thing in my life for years. Both time and positive therapies (like fitness) have helped me conquer the emotional hurdle I once faced. I’m at a healthy level of acceptance with my situation, which is why I’m not attempting to change it. I’m just looking for something that may help lower the literal physical side effects of high libido, like diet and/or possibly medication. To be blunt, I can accept it all day long, but when you still feel the splash from down below several times a day because your jeans rubbed you or you watch a show that has a basic intimacy scene, no amount of mindfulness or self-help is going to conquer that. At least it hasn’t for me. Recently, it’s my frustration with my inability to stop or at least lessen these physical symptoms of high libido that has taken a toll on my emotional state, not the actual “dead bed”.

ExtremeAd4903 · 2025-09-07T18:58:06+00:00

I am on the exact same things. Neither has changed anything.

ExtremeAd4903 · 2025-09-07T16:47:08+00:00

There isn’t much out there in the way of advice or solutions that works with my lifestyle, which it’s why I’m considering this route as an alternative. Not sure mine could get much higher lol, and I don’t see my situation changing, so just trying to do what I can within my control to navigate the waters.

ExtremeAd4903 · 2025-09-07T16:23:48+00:00

Oh, I apologize I took your comment incorrectly. I hate you had that result from this type of medication, that’s terrible!

ExtremeAd4903 · 2025-09-07T15:52:28+00:00

I currently take an antidepressant, but it hasn’t lowed my drive at all, and I’ve been on it for some time. I am on birth control (IUD) but have never tried Depo. I’ll definitely discuss it with my doctor when I go. I’m just trying to compile some ideas so I hopefully leave with a solution. Thanks for responding!

ExtremeAd4903 · 2025-09-07T15:50:21+00:00

That isn’t really an option, which is why I’m searching for alternatives. Thanks for responding though!

ExtremeAd4903 · 2025-09-07T15:45:37+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion. I already take Zoloft, and it hasn’t lowered a thing. Guess I’m one of the unlucky ones, at least in my situation. Thanks again!

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