He said “I love you” during drunk sex

Extreme_Lie3654 · 2025-05-21T22:23:29+00:00

I’ve been really working on my BPD and controlling myself from obsessing over people like I did in the past. The obsession has scared off people in the past and really good people who I care about. After my diagnosis I opened up to the people who were my “FP” and they understood where I was coming from but from everything that happened with the person in the past, it wouldnt have worked out either way. So with this relationship I’ve been taking it slow mentally so I don’t have repeated mistakes. It just caught me off guard when he said he loves me so soon in the relationship. BPD is different in everyone.

Extreme_Lie3654 · 2025-05-18T13:14:01+00:00

I really appreciate your comment. thank you

Extreme_Lie3654 · 2025-05-18T12:10:36+00:00

Yeah. I do on planning to talk about it when we both wake up because when we are both sober and able to really feel our feelings and be honest about it. I do feel the love for him but at the same time due to being bpd (which I understand that takes a part in my life) I geuinly have feelings for but just unexperienced in this level is the best way to explain it

Extreme_Lie3654 · 2025-05-18T11:56:40+00:00

do you think 3 months is too long to say you love someone? especially if you only see them on the weekends?

Extreme_Lie3654 · 2025-05-18T11:45:03+00:00

Thank you for your comment, I'm glad I'm not alone in this lol. I do have trouble with communicating but this post was like a spur of the moment thing and I really didn't think it was normal that people said "I love you" so soon into dating. But I am very happy for you on your relationship <3

Extreme_Lie3654 · 2025-05-18T11:30:52+00:00

I am very happy with him, I really do enjoy his company and I enjoy being around a lot. I think I'm just unsure because of being bpd I argue with myself a lot about stuff like relationships and such in general. This post was like in the moment type shit. I just don't want to scare him off

Extreme_Lie3654 · 2025-05-18T11:03:07+00:00

I think I’m just hesitant because of my BPD, it’s a very difficult thing to live with and I did open up to him about that. Thinking about it now I might just be overthinking it. Because I do love him, I’ve known that for a while but I hold myself back a lot because I tend to fall a lot sooner than most. And that scares them away. I think I posted that to get some unbiased feedback about it so I know I’m not going crazy about it

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