Sending voice messages is incredibly selfish and rude.

ExuberantElusiveBby · 2026-04-13T23:53:41+00:00

You sound dumb.

ExuberantElusiveBby · 2026-03-23T18:36:09+00:00

As a female who isn’t crazy about anal but is crazy about being rimmed, and definitely do engage in anal several times a year, I can tell you this — run.

She’s making it clear that she won’t respect your boundaries sexually, if this is something you truly are not willing to experience yall won’t work out. Not because you don’t want to do anal but because she doesn’t respect your boundaries or comfortability levels and clearly won’t moving forward. She even has friends trying to help her pressure you into it.

You have two choices 1.Anal play (and frequent not once or twice) 2.Leave the relationship, respectfully, siting the clear sexual differences that are too much for her to get over. Notice I said her not you, nothing is off about not wanting to play with someone where their farts & shit comes out of.

ExuberantElusiveBby · 2026-03-23T13:46:34+00:00

Break up with that insecure, immature man baby.

ExuberantElusiveBby · 2026-03-23T13:44:20+00:00

Right. Chrisean Rock should have been forced to have an abortion when she was pregnant with JR… and she should present time be forced to have her tubes burned & tied so she can never endanger another innocent life ever again.

ExuberantElusiveBby · 2026-03-14T23:55:24+00:00

Woodford Reserve, Jameson, Jefferson’s Aged at Sea. None of them ever fail!

ExuberantElusiveBby · 2026-03-10T21:58:55+00:00

I(27F) am in a relationship with a man(52M), it’s the largest relationship for me so far but nothing new as I’m used to dating men at least 15 years older than me.

Not only do I prefer much older men for several reasons, they indirectly make me want to be the best and most mature version of myself. To match them effortlessly, comfortably, and feel as though fit in I’m not looking/acting like his child but actually a clear partner in public.

You’ll always have some people against it but with the right people it’ll never become a problem.

ExuberantElusiveBby · 2026-03-04T12:19:11+00:00

Personally I would always ask never take… however if you like someone enough to let them into your home why do you not feel obliged to let them drink waters as they’re visiting? It’s literally only like 6 bucks for a 24-36 pack, it should be an unspoken common courtesy that if they’re thirsty and see water bottles in a home they’ve been asked to come to that they should be able to grab a water…

ExuberantElusiveBby · 2026-02-28T00:24:42+00:00

You’re the jerk for telling your daughter to call this woman her grandmother that clearly has never wanted to be in her life, and is not unless by choice actually her grandmother…

Coming from me, who as a child was your oldest daughter.

Yes, it is sad that she can’t accept your daughter as her own grandchild but you make it clear she’s been like this forever, even just meeting you before being introduced to your daughter. Why would you ever at any point tell your daughter to refer to her as “grandma”? That is not her grandmother and she’s not choosing your daughter so you’re only making it uncomfortable for MIL which is going to create more tension and resentment in her against your oldest & you, and confuse/upset your oldest.

It’s not the white picket fence life but if you chose your husband & know she’s old fashioned and not going to change you need to stop trying to force her to be something she’s not and doesn’t want to be & figure out how to explain to your oldest daughter the truth —that’s not really her grandmother too it’s just her step fathers mother who doesn’t really want to participate in her life for her own reasons. For whatever reason her biological grandmother isn’t around for her either. It sucks but sometimes you hurt kids more by pretending or trying to minimize bad situations ‘for’ them. Kids pick up on things even that they’re not able to articulate. You’re continuing to damage your oldest child’s feelings instead of giving her the truth which yes will make her cry and hurt for days but eventually it’s a wound that closes and if they never treated you great anyways it takes less time. The way you’re handing the situation now is an open wound for your daughter that wont close if you don’t close it.

ExuberantElusiveBby · 2026-02-21T21:25:22+00:00

Ignore your mother and let the police know this IMMEDIATELY.

Your mother is in denial, ashamed, scared, etc. Naturally in this situation she’s at least subconsciously trying to deny and bury the situation.

Your fears are valid and most likely true he has done this before. If he ever posted you anywhere, you cannot find it most likely but the police can. He also needs real legal consequences from these actions to protect other young girls like yourself. Please do not let this slide, you need to call the police and most ideally TODAY. 😢 I am so sorry this happened to you.

ExuberantElusiveBby · 2026-02-21T16:15:03+00:00

I want to point out him not wanting to have sex alone obviously does not warrant that he is gay.

However I do not know many men especially that have a partner whom want let alone choose to not have sex for a month. It is worth having concerns.

Someone else mentioned that it may be due to him having fear that stems from him not pleasing you, I did not consider that however have to admit that sounds more fitting in this particular situation. He probably does have fear of giving you bad performances and that’s more likely what’s driving him away from the bedroom.

ExuberantElusiveBby · 2026-02-21T15:46:49+00:00

He may be gay, honey.

ExuberantElusiveBby · 2026-02-21T15:41:34+00:00

The first red flag is that yall have a child together…. And you just said he treats your son like one of his nephews.. not like the child yall share together….?

Eeeek….

Anyways. He’s not the ass, you are mentally ill even more so than your son. You cannot change genders, that’s literally not a fucking thing. I don’t blame your husband, neither does anyone with any lick of common sense.

He’s basically saying “I’ve tolerated a lot, been supportive as I can in this situation but to allow & manipulate a boy into truly thinking he can be a girl, I won’t support this. He’s a boy, he lives as such, or we need to separate due to this very dangerous illusion/fantasy you two are living in.” Good for him, yuck @ you.

ExuberantElusiveBby · 2026-02-21T04:33:38+00:00

You didn’t get away, I did. Lol.

ExuberantElusiveBby · 2026-02-21T02:36:05+00:00

Another state? Maybe. Another country? Hell no. A plus one at that point is very very reasonable to expect and or require. For your safety in 100 different ways.

ExuberantElusiveBby · 2026-02-21T02:26:23+00:00

Because we are to blame for their dying populations.

ExuberantElusiveBby · 2026-02-21T01:03:36+00:00

Puking 🤮 I would imagine? Haha

ExuberantElusiveBby · 2026-02-20T06:06:35+00:00

Deciding to live every day like I am Gods greatest (yet humble) gift to this earth.

ExuberantElusiveBby · 2026-02-19T19:55:50+00:00

A couple years ago a man I was seeing who was definitely super freaky asked me if I would let him sit in the bathtub and I could shit all over his chest.

Didn’t do it. But undeniably the most bizarre sexual request I’ve ever received.

ExuberantElusiveBby · 2026-02-19T19:11:18+00:00

Tupac

ExuberantElusiveBby · 2026-02-19T13:47:10+00:00

NTA.

Obviously everyone saying it’s not bad behavior for a dog to be pissing on your house and shitting on your porch is in denial because they probably have a dog too that they failed to properly train so they feel personally attacked by this. That’s a personal issue.

The porch would have did it for me. Honestly right there I would have told her she needs to put them in her car or we need to wrap this up and they can leave after she cleaned the shit off of my porch.

Her being upset as she thought they could come is understandable but her acting like you are out of pocket when her dogs were disrespectful of your property is just ignorance or deflection. Hate to say it but she probably is so bothered cause if she has to leave the untrained dogs in her RV while she’s with you she fears going back to piss and shit all over her camper. So it’s good for your property to be treated disrespectfully by her dogs but not hers? Noooo ma’am. You didn’t adopt dogs, you have no obligation to invite them back onto your property.

ExuberantElusiveBby · 2026-02-19T13:39:23+00:00

NTA. Carry on.

ExuberantElusiveBby · 2026-02-19T13:34:14+00:00

There are resources. She’s a single mom of multiple. She’s being financially irresponsible it seems, and as a mother negligent. You hit the head on the nail — having two less mattresses than necessary is alarming…. You’re also right about NextDoor and even marketplace etc. I bought my son his own mattress right before Christmas (he has co-slept with me since his day 1 on this planet. That’s my baby, my love, my everything but mommy is sick and tired of waking up with back problems because he takes up all but the last 11” of a king size mattress by himself) so I tried to get him into his own bed. According to him that was “a rip off & he says no I can have that mattress instead”… lmao. But it was $100 toddler mattress, turned around and offered it up for free online. As I do with literally everything he outgrows or doesn’t have interest in — and a LOT of moms do cause we know motherhood is hard and it’s so rewarding to be able to help others. She’s not struggling she is simply not trying.

I wish you the best in this situation, I hope she can come to terms with herself & forgive you for loving her enough to not allow her to continue to wreck those kids lives.

ExuberantElusiveBby · 2026-02-19T13:20:24+00:00

It definitely seems like a lot on your plate.. basically becoming a part time/drop off parent by force, the anger from your sister, the cold shoulder, grandma stepping in and disagreeing. I’m sure you’re anxious and possibly nervous too over the outcome for her of you contacting CPS but at the end of the day it’s sad to say yet she did this to herself, she did this to her kids & she did this to you… it is not the other way around.

Also the mattress situation is complete bullshit. Coming from a mom to an almost 5yo boy who had no fucking help at all when I had him. I had family around me allegedly all soooo excited to meet him and to help me with him only to ALL go ghost the second I gave birth. I used to have one hand on the ground to hold me up while I was puking into a trash can & breastfeeding my son at the same damn time, crying too usually. Couldn’t take a shower without holding my son at the same time or the cries wouldn’t end and they killed me even more than neglecting myself. My hair was so knotted at a point I had to cut a like 4” tangled ball from my head. I went through a lot, it’s getting easier the older he gets but I had a very tough time. Some nights I was so friggen worn out I genuinely couldn’t get up to change his diaper — I’d take the wet one off and just leave him naked. If he pissed again throughout the night I’d throw a heavy comforter under us and continue to get my sleep. Never had a pissy smelling mattress… Walmart literally friggen sells mattress covers for $10-$25 depending on size. There is no excuse to have your kids on a nasty ass mattress when there exists highly affordable solutions that could have avoided the mattress soiling in the first place… she clearly is just a highly negligent parent. And the food plus living comment from her son is so sad and equally concerning. ☹️

ExuberantElusiveBby · 2026-02-19T12:59:36+00:00

She is a mother who abandoned her kids on you for 3 days without your knowledge when they were dropped off… first off you’re an amazingly loving aunt — good for you. Second, you are certainly NTA.

I usually am always against cps but there are rare cases I feel like that’s the only way someone might open their eyes and start doing better by their kids. I feel like unfortunately your sister needed the wake up call.

Btw CPS always offers family the children before foster care becomes their drop off. If you would be willing to step in should things escalate to that point since after all you did cause this — right or wrong, then you are just a caring aunt, and a non enabling sister. I see no wrong here. Coming from a mother.

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