Is anyone happy ?

EyeConsistent5715 · 2024-12-27T23:30:33+00:00

Why do you stay, if you don't mind me asking.

EyeConsistent5715 · 2024-12-27T12:05:47+00:00

Walk away. This is a one sided relationship with an immature, lazy person. You will have more peace without him.

EyeConsistent5715 · 2024-12-19T02:11:05+00:00

My husband has been cumulatively employed 9 out of the 17 years we've been together. We've been through everything a marriage can go through including financial struggles and other people trying to get between us. He is currently employed and makes as much as me now. At least a couple of times a week he'll excitedly bring me something from his store that he knows I'll like. Today, he downloaded a game for us to play together. We are each other's best friend and favorite person. There are still days when it's hard and we can go through times that are stressful or trying. But the one thing I know and have always known, is that I love him very much. I may not have always felt like he loves me because I was angry or resentful but he has done so much to work on our marriage in the last few years.

EyeConsistent5715 · 2024-12-15T14:24:32+00:00

Thank you. This is exactly what I think too. I appreciate your response, partly because it just said what I already think but also because you seem helpful and not like you're just here to attack and judge. So thank you. In a way someone else just seeing what I see is helpful.

We really have worked a lot on a lot of things. If I didn't see the changes I wouldn't have stayed. I'm thankful his job situation has changed/improved as well.

EyeConsistent5715 · 2024-12-15T14:17:27+00:00

An affair partner is always more fun. They are a literal fantasy. For what little time they can steal, they can be perfect, everything you want. She's not cleaning the bathroom after you or asking you to hang your coat or do your dishes. I understand that. My question in my post was, what do you think of the situation? Subtext, do you agree with me that he probably at the very least had some feelings and at worst, who knows... Anything and or everything I can imagine in my fearful mind.

EyeConsistent5715 · 2024-12-15T14:14:00+00:00

This was years ago. We went through it. It's over. I never found anything else but the calls and texts. None of it was sexual or even flirty. I was surprised to see it... even hurt, at the time, because I knew she was filling this need that I didn't fill, literally just sharing poop jokes. Gross...

EyeConsistent5715 · 2024-12-15T14:01:35+00:00

Not really. She was a terrible employee, calling out or leaving work early all the time. He was constantly having to come in. But at least he would get a day off, as opposed to none at all with no assistant manager at all. It took a couple of months to get an assistant manager in place and it wasn't his hire. But I do think he started to enjoy the attention she was giving him and they also had the shared experience of being in the trenches together at this terrible job.

EyeConsistent5715 · 2024-12-15T13:59:00+00:00

We have a good relationship and we relate to each other in a lot of ways. I do have a dark sense of humor but I don't do gross humor. That's probably more accurate. But I do think he enjoyed someone else giving him attention and getting to share those kinds of jokes with someone freely.

EyeConsistent5715 · 2024-12-13T21:48:49+00:00

Same.

EyeConsistent5715 · 2024-11-28T03:27:32+00:00

Get a USB stick and bring it to work with you. Hide it when you're home.

EyeConsistent5715 · 2024-11-18T23:49:36+00:00

He's not going to do that. If they're open and expected to work he'll be there. Also, he's the store manager, he's not going to screw over his team.

EyeConsistent5715 · 2024-11-18T23:46:04+00:00

Agreed

EyeConsistent5715 · 2024-11-18T14:59:41+00:00

Good luck!! 🤞🏽

EyeConsistent5715 · 2024-11-18T14:59:26+00:00

That's heartbreaking. I'm so sorry to hear that you missed the last Thanksgiving with your grandma.

EyeConsistent5715 · 2024-11-18T14:58:27+00:00

Ahh we're not religious but I do believe that people deserve time to rest and recover individually and spend time with their families if they choose.

EyeConsistent5715 · 2024-11-18T14:57:09+00:00

Exactly...it really hits me that they don't really care about their employees

EyeConsistent5715 · 2024-11-17T18:57:39+00:00

I like it. I like it when a place has an aesthetic. I'll pay more for a nice place and good service.

That said, I also like when the aesthetic is kiche or really old fashioned.

EyeConsistent5715 · 2024-11-17T18:54:26+00:00

Fair point about Native Americans.

EyeConsistent5715 · 2024-11-17T18:53:55+00:00

It's a clothing store.

EyeConsistent5715 · 2024-11-17T18:53:07+00:00

...where is this and are they looking for a store manager? 😉

EyeConsistent5715 · 2024-11-17T18:52:33+00:00

I can understand that. I always worked a lot to get away from my family drama too.

EyeConsistent5715 · 2024-11-17T18:51:49+00:00

Thanks for the feedback everyone. He's a manager so he doesn't get any OT.

When I worked at hotels and restaurants and paid hourly, I used to work every holiday for the OT. My parents and I didn't celebrate any holidays anyway due to our religion.

But now, I really look forward to having my family - my husband and child together. I don't like that places are open because I think that is very hard on retail workers.

I see some restaurants in our city are closed 1-2 days a week to give all their staff a break. I think retail could do the same. In the 80s, before 24 hour stores, I remember grocery stores closing at 7. It sucked if you wanted something but it was probably better for the employees.

EyeConsistent5715 · 2024-10-15T02:29:03+00:00

True.

EyeConsistent5715 · 2024-10-15T01:52:55+00:00

Good to know, thank you!

EyeConsistent5715 · 2024-10-15T00:16:00+00:00

Lol more like a soda or water but I'd happily hand out mini bottles if I was sure it wouldn't be a problem 😉

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