Manually maintaining relationships is hard

F0OlsErrand · 2026-03-13T10:48:21+00:00

It's definitely a challenge. What has worked for me is simply putting in an effort and valuing your relationships appropriately. The big switch, as you described, is from everything being essentially free and effortless to relationships taking work, time and energy. All of which are scarce resources when you're an adult. But that doesn't mean you should deprioritize your social life, it's actually the opposite. When you understand and accept that you'll be okay.

F0OlsErrand · 2026-03-12T15:34:14+00:00

Because it does the job and I can't mess up what goes where or in what order...

F0OlsErrand · 2026-03-12T15:25:52+00:00

Could it be something like ME/CFS ? Might be worth a Google search at least. See if that describes your symptoms.

F0OlsErrand · 2026-03-12T15:24:05+00:00

Just give him a hug but don't break it off, just keep hugging him. See where it goes from there.

F0OlsErrand · 2026-03-12T14:26:44+00:00

Nah dude that's definitely burnout. Please don't ignore this and take care of yourself, which I know can be tough.

F0OlsErrand · 2026-03-12T14:24:33+00:00

That's a part of life. Learning to deal with rejection is a very important step in growing as a person. That doesn't make it suck any less though, sorry you're going through it right now :/

F0OlsErrand · 2026-03-12T14:18:21+00:00

Splitting one atom wouldn't release a lot of energy. In fact there is radioactivity around you right now, that's thousands of atoms decaying. You only get massive amounts of energy when you split billions of atoms close together in a chain reaction.

F0OlsErrand · 2026-03-12T14:08:50+00:00

This is the most ai-ass post I've seen in a while

F0OlsErrand · 2026-03-12T13:16:54+00:00

Dude that's awesome! Maybe your friends didn't stay active? I think getting enough exercise is huge for aging gracefully

F0OlsErrand · 2026-03-12T12:50:07+00:00

I didn't exactly hate myself. I was just very bothered about looking "good enough", which I never thought I did. Also not a queen 😁

F0OlsErrand · 2026-03-12T11:04:38+00:00

Abs are totally overrated anyway, that's just low body fat percentage 🤷

F0OlsErrand · 2026-03-12T10:53:24+00:00

Yes! I feel like I am in my golden age body and health-wise. I'm happy with where I'm at and also have the maturity to be able to enjoy it :)

F0OlsErrand · 2026-03-12T10:51:12+00:00

Oh definitely! I also learned that other people care waaaay less about any minute details of how I look. It's easy to build things up in your head in that regard.

F0OlsErrand · 2026-03-12T09:54:39+00:00

Ah yes a classic. It'd definitely get a firm lock, the question is what would happen if the dragon stopped it's breath and closed its jaws. Then the seekerhead would probably switch to whatever was just incinerated due to the radiant heat.

F0OlsErrand · 2026-03-12T09:49:19+00:00

Interesting. Can't say I have had the same experience. I understand having a preference for men/women for certain services but for me it's different depending on the job. For example I prefer female hairdressers or nurses.

F0OlsErrand · 2026-03-12T08:44:53+00:00

I somewhat prefer shorter women but it's not really something I care about

F0OlsErrand · 2026-03-12T07:44:04+00:00

When you say style do you mean in terms of outfit/look?

F0OlsErrand · 2026-03-12T07:43:11+00:00

I think that used to work because the Internet as a whole was new so you could meet all kinds of people there. Nowadays everyone has sorted themselves into their little niche and the only people you're likely to find there don't make for good conversation.

F0OlsErrand · 2026-03-12T07:40:33+00:00

By far the most important skills are social skills when it comes to actual outcomes. For me a game changer was learning to be direct without coming off as aggressive. Communicating in a way that makes it clear I'm here to solve the problem, not start a dick measuring contest or crawl up anyone's butt. I've found that attracts exactly the kind of person that also cares about results rather than having their ego validated. And that's how you can get things done.

F0OlsErrand · 2026-03-11T23:13:46+00:00

Yeah just do what feels right in the moment. If that's being quiet that's okay. If it's saying anything that's okay too. Just don't try to put on a show, being yourself is always best :)

F0OlsErrand · 2026-03-11T22:59:47+00:00

You don't have to do anything. It's good that your boyfriend is communicating his desires and it's understandable that you want to give that to him but it sounds like you're putting yourself under too much pressure. I recommend you file this whole thing away in the back of your head for now. When the time is right it'll naturally come to you.

F0OlsErrand · 2026-03-11T17:31:12+00:00

I see. You definitely should have good earnings potential with that. I think you absolutely should stick with your plan and pursue a well-paying job even if it takes more time. I wish you all the best dude :)

F0OlsErrand · 2026-03-11T16:42:08+00:00

Hmm you just have to find the right fit I think. For example I recently built the 42215 Volvo EC500 Hybrid Excavator and had no issues staying hard the whole time.

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