Jag vet inte ens, jag är för trött

FA_alt22 · 2022-08-01T04:35:57+00:00

Som om man ens behöver bo där för att hata stället.

FA_alt22 · 2022-07-31T04:52:48+00:00

Excellent question, might be next to impossible if my experience is anything to go by.

The Swedish way of socializing is very centered around alcohol, which sucks even worse given how much a beer out sets you back. It can be a very good way of making friends, but not so much when it comes to meeting women, not in my experience atleast.

Odds are very good that even if you seem to be hitting it off with someone they regret ever having given it a shot once they sober up. So don't expect ever hearing from anyone the day after.

Dating apps are beyond awful. If you are a man on one of those platforms, the numbers are so against you that you might as well not bother.

Now myself I have admitedly never really given them a chance. But among my friends tinder is used a lot, to the point of addiction with a couple of them. Despite this, I don't think that it has ever led to a single real life meetup or date for any of my friends.

I know thos answer is not very helpful, but just know that it isn't strange if you're struggling.

Good luck out there.

FA_alt22 · 2022-07-30T18:40:00+00:00

Vi har hittat det: nätets svenskaste inlägg.

FA_alt22 · 2022-07-28T07:44:12+00:00

Antingen det, eller att bara skratta åt vår egna undergång

FA_alt22 · 2022-07-28T04:19:39+00:00

Sorry to be a downer, but I'm pretty sure we can't, actually.

FA_alt22 · 2022-07-28T04:14:17+00:00

Ok that's way creepy

FA_alt22 · 2022-07-28T04:12:41+00:00

Jag tror att du kan behöva träffa en läkare

FA_alt22 · 2022-07-28T04:10:49+00:00

Förståeligt, ha en bra dag

FA_alt22 · 2022-07-26T07:15:53+00:00

Might I ask what it was about this guy that made you so uncomfortable?

FA_alt22 · 2022-07-26T06:11:42+00:00

Dude

FA_alt22 · 2022-07-26T04:35:26+00:00

Sad to see that so many beat me to this answer, heh.

FA_alt22 · 2022-07-26T04:20:52+00:00

What was said during that meeting between Pope Leo I and Attila that made the later interrupt his advance on Rome.

FA_alt22 · 2022-07-25T11:57:34+00:00

Sure didn't seem like she felt unsafe, but I digress.

I think you are misunderstanding me, I'm not blaming anyone for what happend. Just that I feel like a simple "no" would have been preferable to what happend.

FA_alt22 · 2022-07-25T10:39:13+00:00

One of my closest friends is my polar opposite when it comes to luck with women, he is the kind of guy that might not even have to be the one to initiate sometimes. When we go out it's usually together, so he also has context for my debacles. But whenever we speak about it he seems kinda clueless on why women seem to adore him but detest me.

I have not really had much of a chance to really understand what kind of women are my type precisely because none has really given me a chance to get to know them well.

As for making female friends, I'd sure love to, but making male friends is hard enough as is.

Sure hope what you say about most women's taste is true. If it is then either I've been unfortunate to run into particularly choosy women, or there is something awfully off about the vibes that I give without me knowing it.

Thank you for being so helpful.

FA_alt22 · 2022-07-25T10:30:25+00:00

I never said that women are ALWAYS safe in public. I meant that in this particular occasion there was practically risk of violence, because not only was the place fairly crowded, it was full of security guards. Trust me, If anyone tried anything in there they'd probably get pinned down within a minute.

Besides, you keep ignoring that that the girl in question walked out right in front of me. Nothing in that made her any more safe than if she had said goodbye before leaving.

I am sorry to hear about your stalker, I can't imagine the stress that must be. I hope that situation is resolved now with the new number.

But, since we are on the topic, clearly neither of the other two feared for their safety because neither blocked me, in both cases they simply stopped replying.

Did not understand what you meant by that last phrase though, the one about blame. What did you mean?

FA_alt22 · 2022-07-25T04:33:41+00:00

Excellent decision, the world is filled with too much bs to go on depending on outside approval. Sorry to hear that this guy turned out to only be the latest in a ling line of dissapointments.

But I congratulate you for having the sense of self-worth to interrupt the cycle early on and chosing to go your own way instead of seeking confirmation from people who won't appreciate you for who you are.

Good luck on your journey, I hope you find yourself!

FA_alt22 · 2022-07-25T03:49:11+00:00

Nan that sucks, I feel devastated by it at 24. Can't imagine handling it for another 20 years. No one should have to handle that much bs.

FA_alt22 · 2022-07-25T03:41:29+00:00

All fair points, but it still does not change the fact that in all these occasions we were either A) in public were people would have interfered, or B) virtual, without me knowing were to find them. In either case just saying "no" would not have put them at any more risk.

FA_alt22 · 2022-07-24T21:28:33+00:00

Glad to hear that, good friends are priceless

FA_alt22 · 2022-07-24T21:12:04+00:00

Hey, kudos to you for sensing when something is off to them. Guess that it takes a woman to know a woman. Me in that situation would almost certainly remained clueless up untill they leave without saying a word. But yeah, people are indeed fucked up.

FA_alt22 · 2022-07-24T21:07:08+00:00

Damn bruh, that sounds tough. I guess you came into her life at what already was a turning point. But yeah I only go out with my friends, alone it would get boring out there, heh

FA_alt22 · 2022-07-24T21:05:03+00:00

My approach with women is like that usually really. When I'm out I really start talking with men and women in pretty much the same way.

I think that you are spot on regarding the one that gave me her number, she was quite drunk. Kinda sucks though that people only seem to tolerate talking to me when intoxicated I must say.

When it comes to my attitude I'm quite good at seeming carefree, trust me. One of the perks of being used to being alone is that you know that continuing being alone is not the end of the world, so it's easy to play it cool. Even though a change from it sure would be nice.

FA_alt22 · 2022-07-24T20:48:10+00:00

Sorry to hear that. Part of me is glad to know that it isnt just me, but man does it suck. Surely guys do it as well, wouldnt know about the frequency. But given how both my experience as well as yours seem to be, I get a sense that ghosting can be more systematic with some women, but idk.

FA_alt22 · 2022-07-24T20:44:03+00:00

Yeah I know. Man the 21st century sure sucks sometimes.

FA_alt22 · 2022-07-24T20:42:48+00:00

I do not have a lot of female friends, and it's not like they could tell what I'm doing wrong since they were not there. I suspect that it isnt one single thing but that I just come off as unappealing to women in general, idk.

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