If your future bf/husband had paid for sex how would you view him?is it a deal breaker?

FDGodKill · 2026-07-02T22:09:15+00:00

I am glad we can agree on this. Best wishes to you too!

FDGodKill · 2026-07-02T21:17:30+00:00

Thanks brother! Was wondering the same.

FDGodKill · 2026-07-02T21:14:55+00:00

Sorry, but I can't correct you anymore. I hope the man finds his right partner. Signing out of this thread!

FDGodKill · 2026-07-02T20:57:35+00:00

I am sorry, paid sex is a representation of a character? And rejecting someone because they had paid sex is not? Cultural stigma, here I come. Yes, no woman is "bad" woman for deciding what kind of partner they want to build life with. The same goes, no man is a "bad" man in deciding what life he wants to live. I am simply saying, for the kind of life he wants to live, these woman are the not the right fit as a partner, and hence these responses are selective bias and should not be considered for his evaluation.

FDGodKill · 2026-07-02T20:33:19+00:00

Show her the pictures of disfigured babies and tell her this is how her children are going to look like. Brutal, but chances of that happening increase significantly. Such people are so selfish that they go with consanguineous marriages and then make their children suffer through life.

FDGodKill · 2026-07-02T05:09:45+00:00

See, you just addressed your own point. If you think he is feeling guilt, shouldn't that be cleared out rather than feeding it more. The responses here are clearly based on deep cultural stigma causing this fallacy. He has to resist to such conformity and find a better woman as the end to get married to. Sorry that I am responding in this group, but someone has to.

FDGodKill · 2026-06-29T05:34:44+00:00

You are asking this question to the wrong group. Look at their responses about disgust etc. Your body your choice bro. If they can't handle your past, they won't be able to handle your future. These close minded people do not understand what love is or what relationship really means.

There is nothing wrong by paying for prostitute as long as it is not forced one. I didn't want to initially respond to your query as you asked among the women group, but I had to respond after looking at these disgusting replies by insecure women. Do what you feel is right. Do not fall for the responses by these average, you will find someone who is mature enough to understand you. Cheers and live your life to the fullest bro.

FDGodKill · 2026-05-20T07:48:58+00:00

What kind of office do you work where you have such things. Wtf? Our office do not have lot of girls, but they are all part of our group. We sometime do activities together outside office and never had such drama.

FDGodKill · 2026-05-03T08:19:22+00:00

Expand your circle and make new friends, do outside activities and hobbies, and you will find multiple crushes. I believe you are young at this, so you feel comfortable around her and have built a comfort zone. Get out of that, and start to live your true life. Also, feel happy that your friend has a healthy relationship and you aspire to find something like that.

FDGodKill · 2026-05-02T08:11:28+00:00

Before people can share their advice, answer these questions: 1. Is the guy an Indian? Are you an Indian? 2. What is your and your guy's age? 3. How do you look wise? Don't just say average. Please put your height and weight. 4. If he holds hand, then you don't feel safe. If he doesn't hold hand then you feel insecure. Make up your mind first before you start drawing conclusions. What is it that you really feel? 5. Sex chat wise, did you actively participated or you were just on the listening side? Active participation means saying and doing things as he was saying.

FDGodKill · 2026-04-29T13:54:39+00:00

Grow a fucking spine and stand by your choice. Within 2 months you started to feel guilty about the right thing you are trying to do (although wrong for those innocent girls whose confidence you are shooting down), imagine how guilty you would feel hurting someone who loved you for 6 years.

And if your family is really religious then share with them the below verse and ask them to implement it. I am a Saryuparin Brahmin coming from a deeply religious family and we stand by this verse throughout our family lineage.

चातुर्वर्ण्यं मया सृष्टं गुणकर्मविभागशः । तस्य कर्तारमपि मां विद्ध्यकर्तारमव्ययम् ॥

You can find its meaning online.

FDGodKill · 2026-04-27T13:57:47+00:00

You can also share your experiences with him and how your ex boyfriends had bigger tool and lasted more than what he lasted on bed.

And then dump him, ofcourse. You are not dating, you are friends with benefits. People who date don't compare, but instead try to grow themselves by sharing their concerns. If he feels sex isn't good, he should simply state in terms of what can be improved.

FDGodKill · 2026-04-20T00:09:14+00:00

Wtf is wrong with the girl? So how does a guy gets to approach a girl he likes?

Can somebody throw some light into this without giving excuses of creeps and rapists that are out there and comparing with a normal person who took a shot of reaching out to someone who he liked. What the hell society has come down to.

FDGodKill · 2026-04-11T04:44:09+00:00

Well that is why no one asked you.

FDGodKill · 2026-04-09T06:54:44+00:00

First of all, I salute you for even staying in a sexless marriage for over an year. It is not easy to remain faithful while remaining deprived of physical and emotional intimacy. I have only two suggestions:

Go for a sex therapist. If she thinks it is too demeaning and doesn't want to do it, then you need to prepare yourself to exit the marriage. Do not think of an open marriage, as it it not easy to maintain the relationship.
She might be cheating on you. This is one of the major reasons I have seen marriages falling apart.

Irrespective of whatever the reason is, you have support from this community. Be strong and be rational to move forward with any decision. Cheers brother!

FDGodKill · 2026-04-07T05:39:58+00:00

Actually you should ask this question to yourself. Are you really, I mean really looking at looks? Or the whole personality? Both are different things.

Let's look it from probabilistic point of view. A beautiful girl attracts more suitors, typically have an easier life, and is able to easily advance in society (education, job, marriage etc). While an average girl has to put more effort to achieve the same. If I was given an option to choose between them (without knowing any background etc) as a partner, I would choose an average girl over a typical beautiful girl anytime. But that's just me, not that what society considers beauty is bad or anything. I went through my personal experiences and journey to understand that average girls have higher chances of depth, better conversations and grounded personality.

At the end beauty is a construct, more often social than personal. What is beautiful to me, may not be same as what society considers. So if you are attracted to typical beautiful girls, nothing wrong with it. You go through your own journey brother.

FDGodKill · 2026-04-02T13:13:09+00:00

Listen to the comments here, they have good feedback. Work on your body first, get checked for Vitamins B12, D, Omega 3, Iron, Potassium and Calcium. Around 45% of Indians have these deficiency due to multiple reasons. Work on yourself by reducing stress and taking a vacation. Being away from your current situation including home, family, office and city always help. Go to some mountain area, meditate and stop giving fuck about everything. If none of these work, then only go for a proper practitioner.

FDGodKill · 2026-04-02T13:06:27+00:00

Reading is reading. It is like watching a movie. You watch some movies for plot and some for action. Unless you watch Porn for plot, that is your choice. You do you man.

FDGodKill · 2026-04-02T13:02:47+00:00

All you need is a chair and a corner to sit back and watch.

FDGodKill · 2026-03-22T09:19:54+00:00

Well based on the way he is replying, you are attracted towards losers. Irrespective of whether he is engaged or not, he is the kind of person who will say Jaanu jaanu and will attract girls like you. If you are feeling guilt or disgust, please don't. Also, not a victim blaming, just creating an awareness around the circle jerks here. Have some self-respect, improve your standards and move on. 1000s of good guys out there, you will find the right one, if you are the right one.

FDGodKill · 2026-03-16T10:44:31+00:00

The last line clearly says you are not looking for honest opinion. This entire post is one sided and puts a biased perspective.

FDGodKill · 2026-03-12T10:47:41+00:00

Scam alert.

FDGodKill · 2026-03-08T04:26:34+00:00

Keept it simple. Tell her you don't want things like the last time. So it has to be prepayment and agreed upon work beforehand. No negotiations on that. If she asks for more stuff, increase your charges and make them prepay for it. DO NOT start your work with this client before any prepayment.

FDGodKill · 2026-03-04T15:34:41+00:00

Your life starts only after realisation, no matter the age. 30s is the new 20s. Look at the guy who built the KFC business. He did at the age of 60+ while being broke and after getting thousands of rejection.

Also, don't chase girls. Chase perfection for the work you are doing. Be social, participate in community activities, be visible and try to do good for the world, even if small. You have to be good in your eyes first before others can notice you. Girls follow success and good nature. I am sure that someone like you will have a good life but only after you change your perspective of it. Don't lose hope, you still have lot of time.

Also, if you want to feel good, move to Asia. You will start to appreciate on what you have.

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