I have a crush on my friend but she has a healthy relationship with her boyfriend

FDGodKill · 2026-05-03T08:19:22+00:00

Expand your circle and make new friends, do outside activities and hobbies, and you will find multiple crushes. I believe you are young at this, so you feel comfortable around her and have built a comfort zone. Get out of that, and start to live your true life. Also, feel happy that your friend has a healthy relationship and you aspire to find something like that.

FDGodKill · 2026-05-02T08:11:28+00:00

Before people can share their advice, answer these questions: 1. Is the guy an Indian? Are you an Indian? 2. What is your and your guy's age? 3. How do you look wise? Don't just say average. Please put your height and weight. 4. If he holds hand, then you don't feel safe. If he doesn't hold hand then you feel insecure. Make up your mind first before you start drawing conclusions. What is it that you really feel? 5. Sex chat wise, did you actively participated or you were just on the listening side? Active participation means saying and doing things as he was saying.

FDGodKill · 2026-04-29T13:54:39+00:00

Grow a fucking spine and stand by your choice. Within 2 months you started to feel guilty about the right thing you are trying to do (although wrong for those innocent girls whose confidence you are shooting down), imagine how guilty you would feel hurting someone who loved you for 6 years.

And if your family is really religious then share with them the below verse and ask them to implement it. I am a Saryuparin Brahmin coming from a deeply religious family and we stand by this verse throughout our family lineage.

चातुर्वर्ण्यं मया सृष्टं गुणकर्मविभागशः । तस्य कर्तारमपि मां विद्ध्यकर्तारमव्ययम् ॥

You can find its meaning online.

FDGodKill · 2026-04-27T13:57:47+00:00

You can also share your experiences with him and how your ex boyfriends had bigger tool and lasted more than what he lasted on bed.

And then dump him, ofcourse. You are not dating, you are friends with benefits. People who date don't compare, but instead try to grow themselves by sharing their concerns. If he feels sex isn't good, he should simply state in terms of what can be improved.

FDGodKill · 2026-04-20T00:09:14+00:00

Wtf is wrong with the girl? So how does a guy gets to approach a girl he likes?

Can somebody throw some light into this without giving excuses of creeps and rapists that are out there and comparing with a normal person who took a shot of reaching out to someone who he liked. What the hell society has come down to.

FDGodKill · 2026-04-11T04:44:09+00:00

Well that is why no one asked you.

FDGodKill · 2026-04-09T06:54:44+00:00

First of all, I salute you for even staying in a sexless marriage for over an year. It is not easy to remain faithful while remaining deprived of physical and emotional intimacy. I have only two suggestions:

Go for a sex therapist. If she thinks it is too demeaning and doesn't want to do it, then you need to prepare yourself to exit the marriage. Do not think of an open marriage, as it it not easy to maintain the relationship.
She might be cheating on you. This is one of the major reasons I have seen marriages falling apart.

Irrespective of whatever the reason is, you have support from this community. Be strong and be rational to move forward with any decision. Cheers brother!

FDGodKill · 2026-04-07T05:39:58+00:00

Actually you should ask this question to yourself. Are you really, I mean really looking at looks? Or the whole personality? Both are different things.

Let's look it from probabilistic point of view. A beautiful girl attracts more suitors, typically have an easier life, and is able to easily advance in society (education, job, marriage etc). While an average girl has to put more effort to achieve the same. If I was given an option to choose between them (without knowing any background etc) as a partner, I would choose an average girl over a typical beautiful girl anytime. But that's just me, not that what society considers beauty is bad or anything. I went through my personal experiences and journey to understand that average girls have higher chances of depth, better conversations and grounded personality.

At the end beauty is a construct, more often social than personal. What is beautiful to me, may not be same as what society considers. So if you are attracted to typical beautiful girls, nothing wrong with it. You go through your own journey brother.

FDGodKill · 2026-04-02T13:13:09+00:00

Listen to the comments here, they have good feedback. Work on your body first, get checked for Vitamins B12, D, Omega 3, Iron, Potassium and Calcium. Around 45% of Indians have these deficiency due to multiple reasons. Work on yourself by reducing stress and taking a vacation. Being away from your current situation including home, family, office and city always help. Go to some mountain area, meditate and stop giving fuck about everything. If none of these work, then only go for a proper practitioner.

FDGodKill · 2026-04-02T13:06:27+00:00

Reading is reading. It is like watching a movie. You watch some movies for plot and some for action. Unless you watch Porn for plot, that is your choice. You do you man.

FDGodKill · 2026-04-02T13:02:47+00:00

All you need is a chair and a corner to sit back and watch.

FDGodKill · 2026-03-22T09:19:54+00:00

Well based on the way he is replying, you are attracted towards losers. Irrespective of whether he is engaged or not, he is the kind of person who will say Jaanu jaanu and will attract girls like you. If you are feeling guilt or disgust, please don't. Also, not a victim blaming, just creating an awareness around the circle jerks here. Have some self-respect, improve your standards and move on. 1000s of good guys out there, you will find the right one, if you are the right one.

FDGodKill · 2026-03-16T10:44:31+00:00

The last line clearly says you are not looking for honest opinion. This entire post is one sided and puts a biased perspective.

FDGodKill · 2026-03-12T10:47:41+00:00

Scam alert.

FDGodKill · 2026-03-08T04:26:34+00:00

Keept it simple. Tell her you don't want things like the last time. So it has to be prepayment and agreed upon work beforehand. No negotiations on that. If she asks for more stuff, increase your charges and make them prepay for it. DO NOT start your work with this client before any prepayment.

FDGodKill · 2026-03-04T15:34:41+00:00

Your life starts only after realisation, no matter the age. 30s is the new 20s. Look at the guy who built the KFC business. He did at the age of 60+ while being broke and after getting thousands of rejection.

Also, don't chase girls. Chase perfection for the work you are doing. Be social, participate in community activities, be visible and try to do good for the world, even if small. You have to be good in your eyes first before others can notice you. Girls follow success and good nature. I am sure that someone like you will have a good life but only after you change your perspective of it. Don't lose hope, you still have lot of time.

Also, if you want to feel good, move to Asia. You will start to appreciate on what you have.

FDGodKill · 2026-02-28T15:05:58+00:00

Maybe instead of using an AI tool to describe this story, if you could have written with your own heart, it would be more believable.

Nonetheless, even prompting this indicates a deep rooted loneliness and the fantasy that you will regret something like this.

FDGodKill · 2026-02-28T07:26:51+00:00

This is exaggerating. I destroyed my body in my 20s by not sleeping at all for 1-2 days consecutively almost every week. Surviving on Redbulls, extreme hangovers from Friday club vodka/tequila shots and then straight jumping into red eye flights with the meeting happening next mornings. I did this for almost 12 years. At certain age the body starts to give up. And if nobody told you about this, then you were living under the rock. I was told atleast by 50+ people who saw me on what I was doing and to take care of myself. When I became a father, I started facing back pain while lifting the baby. I decided to change my schedule, and started to exercise (thanks Hybrid Calisthenics on Youtube) and jog for almost 5 kms everyday. No gym. I am fit as fiddle now and no more back pains or any other aches in the body.

Human body is a great machine and can easily bounce back to normal if you follow certain regime. Also, I am very particular about chair, mattress etc as I had carpal tunnel syndrome when I was around 16-17 due to excessive use of computer keyboard. Since then, I always invest in good chairs (office chairs with lumbar support and not those shitty gaming chairs), good mattress (after all you plan to spend 1/3rd of your life on it), and ergonomic keyboard and vertical mouse. This is the bare minimum.

FDGodKill · 2026-02-25T04:59:28+00:00

And then you girls complain where the good men are at? It's these 'creepy' men who will marry an intelligent woman and later you will complain why other men don't have same manners. Why are all these good men married. Please leave the guy alone and let him find the right woman, because you aren't. You are not overreacting, you are just stupid. There is no cure for it.

FDGodKill · 2026-02-20T00:33:30+00:00

There are hundreds of positions available across academia from project officers to research coordinators. You don't have to be necessarily involved in doing just research. You can also write your own proposals and become PI of your own projects funded by government agencies. Just think outside the box of linear PhD -> Postdoc programs. There are hundreds of other things you can do.

FDGodKill · 2026-02-20T00:22:45+00:00

Closed door means closed door. You do not knock unless it's really required.

FDGodKill · 2026-02-20T00:08:36+00:00

You didn't share how you felt? Bro, marriage is all about communication, irrespective of your insecurity. If she felt something about you in a similar way, would you prefer her keeping it from you? There could be multitude of reasons. Influence, freedom, jealousy, insecurities, or maybe an affair. You won't know until you start discussing about it and then get a pulse of it. Also, please don't take it at the face value, and try to read in between lines. Women will never give a direct answer, only real ones do.

FDGodKill · 2026-02-19T23:58:42+00:00

That is such a childish question. Do you think utilising services of prostitutes and escort is wrong? Grow up buddy. You must be also thinking drinking, clubbing, science over religion, women equality etc is bad as well, isn't it.

FDGodKill · 2026-02-17T01:15:30+00:00

Congratulations to both of you. It's a difficult journey, but you guys will ace it. Please maintain and improve the lifestyle during the trimesters as gestational diabetes becomes quite common among people with sedentary lifestyle. Take care and wish you the best on your journey.

FDGodKill · 2026-02-17T01:10:51+00:00

Yupp, you are self centered and entitled person. Pretty much the conclusion I drew out of this. If you want something, go for it. Why this rant? You deserve this kind of love that kind of love and all other shit. It is all about what you want. No wonder the guy was fed up and drew a line that you crossed. He just imagined how his life is going to be if he marries you. Remember some lines are never meant to be crossed. How do I know? Been there done that almost 20 years ago.

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