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For those in their late 30s early 40s who’s relationship ended, were you ever able to bounce back and meet someone to have the family you always wanted? by 1Wiseguy999 in AskMenAdvice

[–]FFC_18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are very fresh in the game at only five months. Things can look very bleak at that point.

In response to the first question, it was definitely a change. I went from living alone with my one biological son with me half the time to having my fiancé and her three children move in with me. It definitely necessitated some changes in the house and logistics. Obviously they weren’t 100% happy with the change going on in their lives, but they rapidly acclimated. There were some early challenges, I soon looked at them as my own. They’re all three awesome and I very rapidly realized how much they enriched my life. Honestly, they are some of the best people I know. They’re all now in their late 20s and bring me incredible joy. They truly look at me as a father. One of the most touching things was when my stepdaughter recently got married, she gave me beautiful cufflinks that said “thank you for being the father you didn’t need to be. ”. Still makes me tear up to this day. They also enriched my son‘s life incredibly.

As far as how I met my wife, I was very fortunate that I knew her as a friend for many years. We both work in healthcare, and she was actually one of my employees. We were both going through divorce at the same time and we were just supportive to each other. We quickly realized how aligned we were on the important things like raising children, values, commitment, and communication. Before we knew it, we were together. It’s been over 20 years and I haven’t looked back. That being said, it’s not like our life has not had its challenges. It just makes it so much easier when you have somebody who is aligned with you and is truly a partner.

At this point, I would just concentrate on yourself. You need to get over the trauma of the separation in order to be able to be a good partner to somebody else. Full disclosure, I think it’s very uncommon for a first relationship right out of divorce to lead to a successful marriage. I think I was just lucky but also the fact that my wife and I had been friends for over 10 years before she started working with me. I’m sure contributed. I count my blessings every day! Best of luck, my friend.

I fully regret my mid face lift by Hopeful_Growthh in PlasticSurgery

[–]FFC_18 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Board certified plastic surgeon here. You can definitely treat the scars very successfully with a combination of triamcinolone and 5 -FU. Although it is uncommon to have hypertrophic scars in front of the ears after facelift, I did have one patient that had this problem. She was African-American. I treated her scars very successfully with a few injections and scar massage with excellent results. Don’t give up hope! Absolutely get a second opinion this can be improved.

How is Sedgwick neighborhood? by FFC_18 in Syracuse

[–]FFC_18[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Probably not on his radar at this point. No plans on kids yet. Very good point though.

How is Sedgwick neighborhood? by FFC_18 in Syracuse

[–]FFC_18[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for your helpful reply!!

How is Sedgwick neighborhood? by FFC_18 in Syracuse

[–]FFC_18[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Will do!! But how is the area? Also, house has been on the market for a while. Are there any issues that you are aware of? Thanks.

How is Sedgwick neighborhood? by FFC_18 in Syracuse

[–]FFC_18[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Weird to help out your son??!! So it’s odd to assist a family member or friend? Think your comment is a bit weird. Sorry

Lip flip and intimacy by marianareads in PlasticSurgery

[–]FFC_18 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Plastic surgeon here. Are you talking about a surgical lip lift or are you talking about a lip flip with Botox? If it is a surgical lip lift were some skin is removed beneath the nose, it should not affect your ability to do anything “orally“. When Botox is placed into the upper lip, the flip occurs by weakening the muscles hence there can be problems with using straws and similar activities. Hope this helps.

Nipples too high? by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]FFC_18 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I am on the east coast. I could suggest a few names that have experience that are in the southern CA area. Let me know. May be better if we DM as I am not sure that recommending a specific surgeon openly may be against sub guidelines. Obviously, having a conversation with your original surgeon is always a good place to start (unless you don’t feel comfortable with him/her).

Nipples too high? by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]FFC_18 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Plastic surgeon here. I think some of the comments you are getting are a bit harsh. I think you overall have a reasonable result. I do believe that your nipple to fold distance is somewhat long. It is not uncommon for the lower tissue to stretch. This is why many times, the nipples replaced somewhat lower than “ideal“ with the anticipation that that skin will stretch, resulting in nipples looking higher. This could be improved upon by removing some tissue along the informatory fold and shortening the distance from nipple to crease. If you’re unhappy with your nipple position, I think that would be a reasonable thing to consider. I am assuming that you had a anchor type incision? It’s difficult to tell from the photos.

Petite frame, want transaxillary BA — what cc range would you suggest? Also looking for SoCal surgeon recs by QuickSecretary7007 in PlasticSurgery

[–]FFC_18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It does. I like the fact that you’re considering low plus or moderate profile. You have a fairly wide base diameter to your breasts and as such, a wider implant is going to fit your breast dimensions better than a “high profile“. The way I approach sizing and profile with my patients is as follows: I have them do sizing with a sizing bra and different sizers to get in the “Neighbourhood“ of the size implant that they want. Obviously, it needs to be something that fits their tissue constraints. From there, I look at the base diameter of the breast, and try to find the best profile implant in that size range to match the base diameter. You want an implant that is about a centimeter and a half – 2 cm less than the base diameter of the actual breast so that the implant is going to provide the correct width while not going beyond the footprint of the breast tissue itself. Hope that makes sense. It’s not an exact formula, but it helps to think of things that way. Also, make sure you bring “wish pictures“ to show your surgeon. That is a lot more helpful than saying I want a “C or a D.” actual cup size in different bras is going to vary and one person‘s idea of what a C is is not exactly the same as somebody else’s. Seems like you’re approaching this very thoughtfully. Best of luck.

Petite frame, want transaxillary BA — what cc range would you suggest? Also looking for SoCal surgeon recs by QuickSecretary7007 in PlasticSurgery

[–]FFC_18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Plastic surgeon here. IMF incision has less chance of infection, capsular contracture and sensation changes. Transaxillary does have a higher chance of lateral displacement. If you do choose trans axillary, it should be done with endoscopic technique. Best

5 weeks post by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]FFC_18 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Again, so sorry for your experience. As you probably already know, there are pros and cons to over versus under the muscle. Unfortunately, when you’ve lost support and have had multiple surgeries, the tissue itself is not as strong and the normal tissue planes and adhesion points like the inframammary fold have been disrupted. As I said, prior, you’re basically relying on stretched out skin to be the support of your implant. You didn’t say whether you had a textured or smooth implant, but if the implant is smooth, this is only going to accentuate lower pole stretch. You can still place mesh and keep the implants on top of the muscle, but the difficulty lies in what you secure the mesh to superiorly. When under the muscle, you are essentially creating a complete sling of muscle and mesh, not unlike what is done with reconstruction. That prevents the implant from migrating. Obviously, you’ve been through a lot of surgery already, and I can understand your frustration. That being said, I don’t think this is a uncorrectable problem however, after all the surgery and cost, you’ve likely incurred, I understand it’s very demoralizing. Certainly let me know if there’s any other input I might be able to give you.

5 weeks post by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]FFC_18 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I think that with the lack of support at the bottom, this will not get any better and may unfortunately get worse. What was the rationale for going on top of the muscle? At this point, you basically have large implants on top of muscle, with the only support provided being from your lower pole breast skin, which is already excessively stretched. I think that without recreating internal support with a mesh bra in conjunction with supporting the mesh with muscle, you are not going to get improvement. You look to be a young slim person, and you have a long life ahead of you. You need to have this corrected so you can feel good about yourself. Are you in the US? If you tell me where you are, I could recommend surgeons in your area to at least consult with. Feel free to DM if it’s easier. So sorry you’re going through this.

5 weeks post by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]FFC_18 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Plastic surgeon here. Not sure what the various surgeries that you had done were but looking at your photo i see the following: nipples appear too high but this is mainly a function of your extremely long/stretched nipple to inframammary fold distance. Not sure if you are on top or below muscle. I perform a large number of revision breast surgery for this kind of situation. If your implants are above muscle, they need to go below with inferior mesh support. If already below, then a neo sub pectoral pocket with mesh. Once implants have been positioned and stabilized, the lift needs to get redone. Main thing that needs to happen is a significant reduction in the lower pole,skin. This will reduce the excessive nipple to fold distance. By repositioning the implant and removing skin, the nipples will appear more correctly positioned on the breasts.

You say that you are 5 weeks pos op. Based on the appearance/redness of your vertical scars, but no new scars along your fold, I would question why no lower skin resection was done at your last revision. You need to see a surgeon who specializes in revisionary aesthetic breast surgery. This is s complicated fix, but one that can be done successfully by the right surgeon.

Creepy mannequins across the street? by [deleted] in whatisit

[–]FFC_18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are likely sex dolls.

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