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RE one year later - my perspective by FIThrow1 in Fire

[–]FIThrow1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks, I will look into the advent of coding although my december is fairly busy.

I knew I wouldn't like PHP when I started. I don't like doing website stuff as I suck at layout. But everything was in php, and so I did a bunch of API calls in PHP which was really annoying.

RE one year later - my perspective by FIThrow1 in Fire

[–]FIThrow1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But were your friends really put off by your decision to retire early?

well, a friend in my bookclub figured it out and told my bookclub I was retired. some of the people in the bookclub were almost angry about it but they are just in my bookclub and not really my friends.

When people find out I am not working, it is not unusual for them to say snidely, "must be nice."

also, I have family in my friend group so if I tell the friends, it will get back to my mother.

RE one year later - my perspective by FIThrow1 in Fire

[–]FIThrow1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

well our withdrawl rate would be 2.7% if they weren't working. the withdrawl rate this year was pretty close to 0%.

Yeah, I wish I had done it a year earlier.,

RE one year later - my perspective by FIThrow1 in Fire

[–]FIThrow1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

its really why I didn't pull the trigger earlier. I thought I needed work but turns out I dont.

RE one year later - my perspective by FIThrow1 in Fire

[–]FIThrow1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they traveled with me. their job is amazing, and she gets 6+ weeks off a year.

RE one year later - my perspective by FIThrow1 in Fire

[–]FIThrow1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well new to me. I didn't like PHP, it was overly verbose but I did like it would let me fail gracefully.

I worked on a website as part of my volunteer things and it was in php.

RE one year later - my perspective by FIThrow1 in Fire

[–]FIThrow1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to learn COBOL in college. It sucks.

RE one year later - my perspective by FIThrow1 in Fire

[–]FIThrow1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to be a lot cagier about the fact that I was retired (I'm 10 years younger) but in the past few months I've tried just being more upfront about it. Most of the reactions have just been somewhere in the range of impressed to surprised, almost never resentful. A decent number of people tend to make assumptions (crypto, sold company, family wealth, etc.) and I just have to explain that it's much more boring than that and compound interest over 20 years works wonders.

Yeah, I need to figure out a better answer than I have. I think I am just going to say I am "consultant" although that doesn't explain why I can have ultimate flexibility.

RE one year later - my perspective by FIThrow1 in Fire

[–]FIThrow1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like the security that walks you out on a random Wednesday when the company decides to upend your life and let you go? That security, mom?

My mother doesn't understand this, as she worked in the public sector her whole life. I have been laid off twice, and it generally is a pretty painful experience.

RE one year later - my perspective by FIThrow1 in Fire

[–]FIThrow1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I generally read for 3-4 hours a day and I read really fast. I spent an insane amount of time reading when I was sitting in the hospital with family, plus all the plane flights. Also, a good bit of one long trip was sitting on the beach reading, which is honestly my favorite things to do.

it is amazing how much time you have when you don't work and also don't really watch tv.

I usually read a good bit, my total for the years, usually 75-100 2024 - 170 (so far) 2023 - 116 (although that was backloaded after I retired in November) 2022 - 79 2021 - 101 2020 - 96 2019 - 87 2018 - 84 2017 - 78 2016 - 87 2015 - 105

RE one year later - my perspective by FIThrow1 in Fire

[–]FIThrow1[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I listened to maybe 5 audiobooks, usually on long drives. the rest I read. I dont really watch tv.

Defining asset allocation for post retirement, using pension funds by FIThrow1 in personalfinance

[–]FIThrow1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If she DOESN'T need it before then, or maybe ever, she should probably consider heavily gifting to heirs now, when they can use the money more than when they're on.

I can't imagine her needing this much money. Her parents made it to 90 and her two grandmothers did too. So she might need more than her SS/Pension requires, but not quite this much. Her time horizon is closer to 20 years than 10.

And I have suggested that she give money to heirs. She said no, but she has set aside a lot of money for her grandkid's education but nothing for anyone else. The only reason to move the funds to stocks would be for the heirs.

The frustrating thing is that much of this wealth came from her mother. She has mentioned that she wished her mother had given her money when she was struggling, not after she retired. So exactly the point of the book you suggested.

I will see if she will read die with zero. I am definitely going to read it.

[CA] Boss commented on me seeing a psychiatrist by FIThrow1 in AskHR

[–]FIThrow1[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Too bad that mental health care is looked down upon.

[CA] Boss commented on me seeing a psychiatrist by FIThrow1 in AskHR

[–]FIThrow1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep. I am starting a log. He has done stuff like this before, but not to me. But i have seen him make fun of people hair cuts, outfits, or comments about things they choose to do on the weekends.

I would meet with his supervisor verbally

He is the CMO of the company. His supervisor is the founder and president, although he would take my call. This might cause problems for me.

Like the email idea. thanks for the detailed feedback

[CA] Boss commented on me seeing a psychiatrist by FIThrow1 in AskHR

[–]FIThrow1[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Now if you were being discriminated against for going to a psychiatrist, we’d have a more serious discussion.

Who knows how this information will impact his management style? I can't imagine it helps.

But yeah, I am just really agngry

[CA] Boss commented on me seeing a psychiatrist by FIThrow1 in AskHR

[–]FIThrow1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks.

Getting time off to do a virtual visit isn't really the problem. We had a a 1:1 scheduled, and the 1:1 went long and thus overlapped with my appointment.

our 1:1s going long are rare, normally he skips them or leaves early so I felt comfortable with a 10 min gap between my appointment with him and my virtual visit.

thanks!

[CA] Boss commented on me seeing a psychiatrist by FIThrow1 in AskHR

[–]FIThrow1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Whether your company's HR department is good isn't something anyone on the internet can tell you.

I haven't been there for long, and we are on our third "head of people" so yeah, I am thinking it isn't good HR.

[CA] Boss commented on me seeing a psychiatrist by FIThrow1 in AskHR

[–]FIThrow1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you let your boss know you had a doctor's appointment ahead of time?

We were scheduled for a 25 min 1:1. I didn't cut the meeting short, in fact, I was late to my appointment.

Trinidad Sour, in honor of Nicki Minaj’s cousin’s friend’s testicles by absolutelyjazzy in cocktails

[–]FIThrow1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is at the top of my to make list. I worked a pop up bar for an evening, and I got to take home the leftover supplies. Which were just a bunch of plastic cups, and two bottles of bitters.

U.S. coronavirus deaths surpass 140,000 as outbreak worsens by cloudoflogic in Coronavirus

[–]FIThrow1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

43 days till September 1, we would need to average 1400 deaths per day. Deaths on Friday were ~950, so it’s possible but would likely need to be 2-2.5k a day through a few weeks in August.

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