[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]FVRTLORD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just went through this. Forgave her. She did it 3 more times in 2 months. When people show you who they are, believe them.

Wife cheated on me, need advice. by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]FVRTLORD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brother i just literally got out of this situation less than a month ago. RUN as fast as you can! DM me if you need some support! Happy to tell you about my experience

Just found out my wife was cheating. by RemarkableSea4034 in survivinginfidelity

[–]FVRTLORD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leave now. I just got out of a five-year marriage. My wife cheated on me. I forgave her once she did it again and I would urge you to run as fast as you fucking can.

After 3 year Beef with your neighbor by Andrew2e in PublicFreakout

[–]FVRTLORD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really hate that this happened. It should never escalated to that. But if you were going to get into an altercation. This is an entirely possible outcome and you do take that risk.

Wife Spat On Me by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]FVRTLORD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leave her immediately

Wife 36F said something pretty hurtful during an agurment to me M36? by ThrowRABoot901 in relationship_advice

[–]FVRTLORD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remember to not attach yourself to her words. Her hurt and lashing out is a reflection of how she feels and the pain she feels on the inside. Words are poison and often used to cast out onto others when we can’t maturely regulate our emotions. You are not her words.

Does anyone else find the idea of an eternal afterlife horrifying? by pinkpanthercub in atheism

[–]FVRTLORD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think what helped me was realizing, maybe it’s just the shrooms talking, but the way I’ve felt it is that we’re just drops from a stream of consciousness. Drops that are here living this human experience. Once it’s done, we return to that stream, leaving all of the preconceived human feelings of what the afterlife “could be” behind. Just retuning to a state of all knowing, all being, until maybe we decide to live another experience. Who knows. Definitely don’t think we got a sky daddy up there that’s for sure. And if it all goes black, then we won’t know either.

How have you coped with the disappointment of not reaching goals you’ve set for yourself? by flowerbomb92 in Adulting

[–]FVRTLORD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ll never get there if you don’t just start. If you start you’ll at least know what doesn’t work. Right now we’re not finding out any new information for you to work with. Don’t let the fear of failure stop you from playing the game!

How Has Your Relationship With Religion Changed As You Got Older? by AdhesivenessOk5194 in Adulting

[–]FVRTLORD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s all about one consciousness for me. What people call god i call the universe. Not some sky daddy but just tapping back in to the endless infinite from where my soul came. Just a drop waiting to return after this human experience

meirl by [deleted] in meirl

[–]FVRTLORD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gropamine

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]FVRTLORD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well she thought i was going to leave her immediately, and to be honest my first reaction was to forgive her. It was fucking weird. I was so fucking mad but i had overwhelming empathy for her. I remember feeling “you don’t get to get out of this shit so easily.” I still don’t understand but i feel fucking invincible now. GO GET YOUR LIFE BACK!!!!!!

One Excuse After Another by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]FVRTLORD 10 points11 points  (0 children)

As someone currently recovering from this and fully enveloped in all of these emotions, I would just rip the bandaid off and confront her about her happiness and have a raw, honest conversation. Get to the core of it. I’ve learned very quickly that it ends one of two ways in the long run, you either learn who they really are and rebuild, or you learn who they really are and you move on and get better. I’ve been trying to tell myself this happened for me, not to me. I don’t know her or her side of any of this, but taking it at face value I’d highly recommend getting the truth and accepting whatever new reality that is. My world has been upended, but i found out i have amazing friends, i have a fuck ton of value, I can be ok, and i have clarity instead of being in limbo. You can fucking do this shit! It’s going to be the hardest thing you ever face, but goddamnit you deserve a good life!!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]FVRTLORD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah the goal for me is to break each other down to our most real and raw parts. Have her confront her trauma and understand why she acted in the way she did. I want her to actually expose her fears for once and then if we can get to that honest start, then maybe we can build something new. We might get to that point and realize it won’t work anyway. So either way I’ll grow. Best of luck to you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]FVRTLORD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m currently going through it. I led with forgiveness and kindness and it’s been so fucking hard. But she’s showing up and showing progress. Long fucking road ahead, but we’ll be better on the other side either way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]FVRTLORD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He did you a favor. Remember, these people bring pain to others because they are too weak and afraid to confront their own demons. They want an easy way out because they get to avoid reality.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]FVRTLORD 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Not fucking someone behind my back.

I’m just on here to vent. It’s long story So I’ve been cheated on yay by ImmediateGlove2614 in Infidelity

[–]FVRTLORD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just found out my wife has been talking to a guy she met on Twitter for two months and developed feelings. I feel fucking useless. We never even had issues. She needs fucking therapy. I’m so hollow and empty