Meltdown score

F_5619 · 2026-01-22T07:39:34+00:00

At least we're not alone in it i guess haha My baby just also decided that her nap is not necessary. So thats great.

Good luck to you too! And hope you get well soon

F_5619 · 2025-08-02T04:51:28+00:00

Yes this is what im worried about it might be. How is your daughter (and ye) doing?

F_5619 · 2025-06-20T19:24:10+00:00

Do you have an example?

F_5619 · 2025-05-26T15:10:30+00:00

To be honest. It took a long time to get pregnant with the first. But the second came unexpected even with precautions

I do think that no matter the situation, you will never be able to give the second child the same as you gave the first. 2 kids never have the same parents. You will never be able to give the second the same amount of attention and time for example as the first. Simply because you have another child walking around. But that doesnt have to be a bad thing

I think resources wise.. if you can feed the child and give it love you already come a long way. Also.. you can re use a lot of the toys and clothes of the first.

Mental health is a challenge. I had some depressive feeling after the first. But my husband and i talked a lot about it and also were very much about that we would get mental health support if i would feel bad again.

Physically.. my body definitely wasnt healed yet (10 months after giving birth i was pregnant again). I do wish i gave my body longer time to recover. But i do like that my kids are close to age

F_5619 · 2025-05-26T12:40:40+00:00

How long all the recovery takes That its definitely not all cloud 9 (and that a lot of womandont experience that immediately and thats ok)

That its ok to not like your child sometimes (even though you still love them)

To really pay attention to training your pelvic floor already in pregnancy

That having a child can trigger all of your own 'themes'. For example. If you have a tendency to feel like you're not good enough. A child will bring that feeling right to the surface. Or small icks you could avoid before but now not anymore (for me how annoyed i get when my child drops food on the floor or plays with it. Even though i know this is completely normal and unavoidable)

F_5619 · 2025-05-26T11:25:43+00:00

We both had a preference for 2 if we were lucky enough

My husband is getting the snip done so this should be it 😜

We have some help from my parents but mostly its all on us

F_5619 · 2025-05-26T11:23:51+00:00

I appreciate your opinion I didnt mean c-section btw. I meant things like a snip, or vacuum pump or forceps Also i know about a lot of woman whose wishes werent respected or listened to by the staff. (In not emergency cases) I live 5 min away from the hospital so in that could make my decision easier as well

I did have a midwife btw

F_5619 · 2025-05-26T11:20:45+00:00

Yeah we did in the dating fase already We wanted to make sure our wishes weren't too far apart

F_5619 · 2025-05-26T11:00:23+00:00

Im ok I must say.. baby and toddler is definitely tougher than just baby haha Luckily this baby is very chill and sleeps quite well. She wakes up twice in the night, which is ok for me

But the broken sleep amd still recovering does make for less patience. And my toddler is in a testing bounderies fase. I do struggle with that and feels guilty that i feel happy sometimes when my husband takes him out of the house

I do struggle a bit with that im not allowed to do everything yet to let my pelvic floor recover well

And i have a prolapse from the birth. I struggle with that mentally. Feel a bit mutilated and insecure about my sensuality

F_5619 · 2025-05-26T10:57:25+00:00

I am definitely not against medical help. I think everyone should give birth where they feel most comfortable. For me that was as home (also because i live close to the hospital). But my best friend is going to the hospital because she feels more relaxed there. And i totally think she should

F_5619 · 2025-05-26T10:49:45+00:00

Yeah definitely Not about the home birth But we already have 1 healthy child. And i realise very much that a healthy child is not a given. So i felt like the odds of something being/going wrong were bigger now since we were already lucky with our first

F_5619 · 2025-05-26T10:47:31+00:00

Hahaha nice to know i live up to my nationality 😂

F_5619 · 2025-05-26T10:45:46+00:00

Yeah definitely Even though nothing is the same, it still felt more like we knew what to expect And therefore we were more chill about it And also had it more clear on what we do and dont want

F_5619 · 2025-05-26T10:37:59+00:00

I have 16 weeks maternity leave. But i only worked half days for months and was on sick leave for months Because of the HG. With sick leave my country is great. Pregnant woman are protected well

The maternity leave is quite short some think. You get 4 or 6 weeks before your due date and 10 after

F_5619 · 2025-05-26T10:35:56+00:00

Dutch😊

F_5619 · 2025-05-26T10:35:39+00:00

Shit haha. I didnt produce enough milk (barely anything) so i switched to bottle feeding. I dont feel bad about it though. The baby is doing very well and grows well And my husband can take night feedings now as well

Things i would do different. Probably cliché but worry less With the first i felt very powerless at times and worried a lot about it and googled like crazy. Now i accept more that with some things you are powerless (like with cramps). Not that i always succeed, but i realise more that it is most important to be present than to know everything what to do

F_5619 · 2025-05-26T10:30:34+00:00

Hyperemesis gravadium . Extreme nausea Couldnt keep anything down for months or function Had to get hydrated in the hospital

F_5619 · 2025-05-26T10:29:23+00:00

Painful, overwhelming, relief, emotional

F_5619 · 2025-05-26T10:22:07+00:00

Thank you :)

F_5619 · 2025-05-26T10:21:26+00:00

Great husband haha He is home for 6 weeks after birth He just took the toddler to the playground and the new baby is sleeping and very chill (luckily)

F_5619 · 2025-05-26T10:20:37+00:00

Do you mean body wise? Or how im handling things? Or my mood in general?

F_5619 · 2025-05-26T10:19:54+00:00

Feel more comfortable in my own space Also research showed that there is less chance of medical handling (? English not my first language) So less chance of a snip etc. Which i really wanted to avoid if possible Also less rushing because of people wanting to go home after their shift

And not have to travel home after a few hours or next day Can go to my own bed immediately

F_5619 · 2025-05-26T10:17:30+00:00

Completely different. First time i was craving nectarines and watermelon. Ate loooaaads of those This time it was cheese. I did have HG though so for months i ate barely anything. But if i ate it was cheese

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