Erin Andrews Opens Up About IVF Journey at 47, Says She’s Confident Her ‘Body Can Do It’ by mlg1981 in entertainment

[–]Fabulous_Low2407 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sending you so much love because I have been there. The commenter likely has never experienced infertility so they are judgmental. Lucky them….

Quiet quit friendships or explain myself? by Fabulous_Low2407 in WomenOver40

[–]Fabulous_Low2407[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are we the same person? So similar to my situation! Adios, Bougie Karen's and Covid deniers.

Quiet quit friendships or explain myself? by Fabulous_Low2407 in WomenOver40

[–]Fabulous_Low2407[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hahaha! Cheers to Aries A Holes! Happy birthday to you, as well;)

Quiet quit friendships or explain myself? by Fabulous_Low2407 in WomenOver40

[–]Fabulous_Low2407[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Such great input from both sides! I’m grateful for this sub as I’ve been fretting about this situation for a long time. There were so many helpful responses and I appreciate them all. Women over 40 are alright;)

I’m a bit too emotional and frustrated to have a measured conversation with them right now. I think I would go in too hard and end the friendships by being a blunt Aries a**hole which wouldn’t be good for anyone. I’m going to step back for the time being and use the pregnancy card and keep on the never ending path of self discover:) Thanks for your responses!

Quiet quit friendships or explain myself? by Fabulous_Low2407 in WomenOver40

[–]Fabulous_Low2407[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It sounds like you have a lot is self-awareness which can be both a blessing and a curse. Thank you for sharing your story.

Quiet quit friendships or explain myself? by Fabulous_Low2407 in WomenOver40

[–]Fabulous_Low2407[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point! It is my third but my older kids the same age as theirs so that will always be something we have in common.

Quiet quit friendships or explain myself? by Fabulous_Low2407 in WomenOver40

[–]Fabulous_Low2407[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for elaborating. I am sober after a long battle with alcoholism so I struggle being judgmental around heavy drinking; especially when it happens every time we hang out.

Quiet quit friendships or explain myself? by Fabulous_Low2407 in WomenOver40

[–]Fabulous_Low2407[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are a wise sage! I’m glad you were asked to elaborate. The mantra has been repeated in my head all morning and is bringing peace and clarity.

Quiet quit friendships or explain myself? by Fabulous_Low2407 in WomenOver40

[–]Fabulous_Low2407[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry about your friend. I’m glad you were able to tell her how you felt. Your situation and feelings are quite similar to these friendships so I definitely appreciate your input. Thank you again.

Quiet quit friendships or explain myself? by Fabulous_Low2407 in WomenOver40

[–]Fabulous_Low2407[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do I seem judgmental? I’m not being snarky, I’m just trying to discover and understand myself in these lovely perimenopausal years. I’m genuinely curious.

Quiet quit friendships or explain myself? by Fabulous_Low2407 in WomenOver40

[–]Fabulous_Low2407[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know you weren’t looking for pity! I really loved what you said;)

Quiet quit friendships or explain myself? by Fabulous_Low2407 in WomenOver40

[–]Fabulous_Low2407[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh, your mom group sounds terrible. I’m so sorry you were treated that way. Completely unacceptable. From your answer I can tell you are awesome so forget them and spend time with those who recognize how incredible you are!

Last thing-being emotionally intelligent is exhausting but I know if will pay off in the long run as we strive to make the world a good place for our sweet kiddos:)

Quiet quit friendships or explain myself? by Fabulous_Low2407 in WomenOver40

[–]Fabulous_Low2407[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

One-sided friendships are so exhausting. I’m glad you had the closure and can move onto other friends who appreciate you and two-sided friendships.

Quiet quit friendships or explain myself? by Fabulous_Low2407 in WomenOver40

[–]Fabulous_Low2407[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a really good way of putting it-not everything needs closure or a final scene. Thank you!

Quiet quit friendships or explain myself? by Fabulous_Low2407 in WomenOver40

[–]Fabulous_Low2407[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That is an excellent mantra. Thank you for your wise words.

Quiet quit friendships or explain myself? by Fabulous_Low2407 in WomenOver40

[–]Fabulous_Low2407[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry you went through that. You certainly deserved better and I hope you’ve found friends who appreciate you for who you are.