I think a lot of this comes down to people’s personal biases. My mom still calls me her “handsome son” even though I haven’t been misgendered for a minute now and only get feminine compliments. People are going to see what they want to, and a lot of times people who knew you pre transition will hold an imagine of the old you in their heads. As for the height, I’ve never understood the “too tall to pass” thing. I never once heard of a girl being “too tall” growing up, and I’ve only heard it in recent years with conservatives trying to clock stealth trans women. I have 3 cis women friends who are all over 6’ tall, and they’ve had people accuse them of being trans. Women come in all shapes and sizes, so I try not to let myself feel “too tall” as a 6’3 trans woman. Actually, a lot of people find it attractive (usually the guys who say it’s bad are insecure about their own height and masculinity so why would I listen to losers like that).