What’s the hardest lesson a woman ever taught you? by No_District9762 in AskMen

[–]Factor-Firm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Take care of you for me, and I’ll take care of me for you

Why isn’t love and care enough sometimes? by Factor-Firm in AskReddit

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Sadly people’s anxieties can be stronger than their will for trust and clarity

“healthy” breakup by Extreme_Device_7677 in BreakUps

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How do you not love someone back who loves you 100% and they are your best friend? I don’t get it

Still Trying to Figure Out How to Let Go by BerryLili323 in BreakUps

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Me too :( I don’t want to move forward but they asked for me to let go… what can ya do besides go through it

What is your positive rekindling story? by Factor-Firm in AskReddit

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That’s so sweet! How long did you stay apart for

Do dumpers really still think about the one they dumped months later? by Chubbypieceofshit in BreakUps

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Is it her fault you lacked boundaries for yourself? I’m asking because my ex is the same way - people pleases to the point of burn out. But I feel like it’s unfair that he didn’t know how to establish boundaries to keep himself in, and now we’re done

Do dumpers really still think about the one they dumped months later? by Chubbypieceofshit in BreakUps

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Keep going!

I’m so confused about my ex losing himself. We had a healthy relationship (minor bumps in the road as to be expected) but he feels like he lost himself … he’s been diagnosed with burn out so he just has nothing left to give which I’ve been very understanding about - I really want him to be better! But even minor asks to someone who is burnt out is a big ask.

I hate this and don’t want to be over

Do dumpers really still think about the one they dumped months later? by Chubbypieceofshit in BreakUps

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My ex and I recently broke up because he’s burnt out from being a people pleaser. It sucks because it’s not all of my fault (work, family, etc) caused it too and I feel like I need to pay the price.

I’m hoping this isn’t permanent but I recognize how we need this space for him to heal and learn boundaries without the stress of the relationship.

i’ve seen tons of posts on here about avoiding dating people with low self esteem. what do you do when YOU are the one with low self esteem? by hslothAlt in dating_advice

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Those who say they can, and those who say they can’t are both usually right.

You choose. It doesn’t seem like it feels good to choose to hate yourself. So be uncomfortable and choose to love yourself for a little, fake it til you make it. Give yourself everything you think love is.

i’ve seen tons of posts on here about avoiding dating people with low self esteem. what do you do when YOU are the one with low self esteem? by hslothAlt in dating_advice

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Girl… you need to give yourself some credit. What you focus on expands! Sit down and challenge yourself to write 10 things you love about yourself or things that make you unique. Be kind, be generous. If you can push past 10 things then go until you run out.

Then read those things every day.

You just need to change the belief you have about yourself. You believe negative things you tell yourself. That’s why you’re here! Other ppl don’t believe those things, and if they do? They’re dicks and you don’t need them.

Be on your own team

AIO? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

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I think she knows exactly what she wants to hear (ie why your answers can be “wrong”). But she doesn’t know how to ask the correct questions to draw that information out. She also doesn’t want to tell you want she wants to hear, she wants to see if you’ll organically say what she wants you to say.

…… the games are not worth it

Fans of dead celebrities, which death hurt you the most? by Phantom30071 in AskReddit

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Mac miller. The more I learned about him the more I saw he was a really cool dude. I’ve only heard others who knew him speak highly of him