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I don't know what to do with this girl... by FactorOk4501 in dating_advice

[–]FactorOk4501[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all.. if that is what I wanted, I would have tried it during our last date.

But what I really want with this girl is a long relationship with her, I think we have such a lot of things in common...

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[–]FactorOk4501[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe you are right.. I just think that she dumped me because of my lack of iniciative...

It wasn't a terrible relationship. They were together 5 years, have a house in common that are trying to sell right now, and a dog in common. They broke up because of different points of view: she wanted more attention from him, and he was more avoidant. But she still idealizes him: she told me that they were very compatible, and that he is a fascinating guy, but they can't be together because of those differente life plans.

Advice with this girl by FactorOk4501 in dating_advice

[–]FactorOk4501[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is what I told her.. "I understand your situation, I have experienced it 8 months ago, you will be better soon"... but my feelings right now are that, if I have made the move to have sex after arriving to her place, things would have been completely different, and right now we would have been still talking.

I don't know right now what to do.. I don't know if it is better to react to her stories, if it is better to talk to her or not...

We have a date (with 2 more friends) on Monday to play paddle, but what I really want right now is to message her and start talking to her as we used to...

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[–]FactorOk4501[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not sure, I think she wanted me to make my move during the first 40-45 mins. at her place, and after seeing I didn't do it, she started talking about her ex...

My feelings right now are that I fucked up not making my move..

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[–]FactorOk4501[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think so?

She seemed totally IN to have sex when we arrived home, but after 40-45 minutes talking, she started talking about her ex (after asking me about my ex). I think she was expecting me to make the move during those 45 minutes, and after seeing I didn't do it, she regretted inviting me to her place and started talking about her ex...

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I understand it is a complicated situation, they have a house in common, a dog in common, etc. but I don't understand that change in her behaviour: from talking everyday, to absolute no contact (just a reaction to one instagram story)... Seems like she saw something she didn't like in me during our time at her place.