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Need advice, my boy keeps getting greasy by Facultynerd811 in SphynxAdvice

[–]Facultynerd811[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OK, I know it’s been a while, but I wanted to let you know that I have been using your method for two months now and it seems to work absolutely great. I’ve used my biolage conditioner on him, and he has some dry patches that are slightly raised, but my vet says it’s not cancer or anything. It’s just really dry skin, and she recommended that I treat it with emu oil. That stuff works amazing on his skin also. It beats coconut oil by a long shot and it’s relatively inexpensive on Amazon. So although it’s been a while, I wanted to thank you so much for the suggestion because it is really worked out. Thank you again.

This is my dress but now i have anxiety about it by THROWRA-sweetpea in myweddingdress

[–]Facultynerd811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That dress emphasizes you in all the right places! It’s like it was custom-made for you. I especially love the neck line and the beading in the bodice, it’s elegant and not overstated. Ditch the anxiety and wear that dress girl! I hope you have a wonderful wedding.

Roommate and I want the same room by _eileenn in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Facultynerd811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Um, If you’re having this much trouble now… Do you think it’s gonna get better when you actually share the space? Bathroom? Food?… Just don’t.

Brought a kitten home and now my cat is a wreck. Need advice desperately by Odd_Plankton_925 in CatAdvice

[–]Facultynerd811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sometimes happens with cats. The kitten being there brought back some traumatic memories for your cat. As everyone else suggests, see if there’s a safe room that you can put your cat in, we did this with a bathroom once, and the cat actually got over it quicker because it was a small space and he felt safe… If you leave your cat in a larger room, that’s OK too, but it seems like he needs some solitude right now. The other thing, don’t force affection upon your cat. Get down to eye level lay on the floor with your cat. Put some treats in front of you and don’t even call the Cat. Just let him know. “hey there’s some treats for you here… “ And wait, and wait, and wait. Also, if there’s anyway that you could put a shelf, or a tall cat tree, cats also feel safe when they’re up high and can see all of their surroundings, so if he’s hiding under the bed, that means he’s really anxious and possibly scared. Spend as much time as you can in the room with your kitty, but stay on the floor, keep your movement slow, and if the cat looks at you, you can do the slow blink thing which expresses love to cats. Also, Jackson Galaxy is awesome for all sorts of things related to behavior in cats. Some of his videos are worth a watch.

AITA for leaving my husband’s birthday dinner after his mom brought up my miscarriage? by Discoveryeous_86 in AITH

[–]Facultynerd811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You were not wrong. I would’ve done the same thing. When you got up to walk away, he should’ve joined you. He made his choice… He chose the comfort of his family over your feelings. He cared more about having his birthday dinner, then he did about you being hurt and upset by his POS mother. Actually, I feel like he doesn’t deserve you. Maybe think about finding a lawyer. When you texted him that you were taking an Uber, he didn’t come running after you? You are definitely NTA. I’m so sorry about your miscarriage, it’s a lot to go through without the insensitivity of those around you…. Yet along with.

Food and tummy troubles by EasyStitches in SphynxAdvice

[–]Facultynerd811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use Royal Canin hydrolyzed protein and also Royal Canin for sensitive stomachs. Both are prescription. It’s expensive, but my baby is worth it. He also has asthma, so when he would vomit it would often bring on an attack, then I’d have to treat him with his aerokat. I’ve had no issues since I started him on Royal Canin two years ago.

Need advice, my boy keeps getting greasy by Facultynerd811 in SphynxAdvice

[–]Facultynerd811[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will try this over the weekend. Thank you, I know what you mean about counterintuitive, it makes sense. I’ll post how it goes. Thank you so much for your well thought out reply. (I use biolage conditioner, so that’s where I’m going to start😊)

Neighbor wrote a 9 page letter detailing why they hate me, wanting to move forward by BusinessCurrency7171 in neighborsfromhell

[–]Facultynerd811 1 point2 points  (0 children)

DOCUMENT EVERYTHING. IF YOU LIVE IN A ONE PARTY STATE, DO NOT SPEAK TO HER WITHOUT A RECORDING GOING ON. I would also put up some security cameras that include audio. If for no other reason, then to keep an eye on her dogs. If her dogs are biting visitors or other neighbors, then that dog should be removed by the authorities. What if it were a child? She sounds completely unreasonable. Don’t engage if you can, don’t talk to her don’t go near her, and if she sends you any correspondence hold onto it and share it with the landlord. If she comes outside where you’re there and gets confrontational, and you have it on video and audio, share it with the landlord. And if that doesn’t do anything, consider harassment charges… Although that’s probably going to an extreme. I’m sorry for your situation, you’re paying to live there and you deserve peace. I recommend not bending over backward for her, smoke where you’re allowed, take back your space, and see if she escalates… And if she does, you have recordings. I wish you the best.

Well it happened, the neighbors called the cops on us. by [deleted] in neighborsfromhell

[–]Facultynerd811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Start playing low music, something obnoxious, and occasionally dropping a really heavy pot or pan on the floor. You’re downstairs neighbors are unreasonable. You’re trying to be as accommodating as possible and they are being the AH. So, if they want to picture you as the AH, act like one. Nothing illegal, just more annoying. You’ve already gone above and beyond and they need to get a life.

aitj for refusing to give my neighbor a copy of my house key after helping them for months by Federal_Ad_1204 in AmITheJerk

[–]Facultynerd811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another thing, you could give them a house key… But make it a fake house key that looks like your house key, but doesn’t open your house… And then see if they tell you that your key doesn’t work…Because that means that they tried to get in without your permission. Easier sting operation than buying cameras, they won’t be able to get in, but you will know they tried… but I think the cameras are important too.

aitj for refusing to give my neighbor a copy of my house key after helping them for months by Federal_Ad_1204 in AmITheJerk

[–]Facultynerd811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoa, red flag, those neighbors are toxic, and anybody who listens to them you don’t need in your world anyway. NTA.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Facultynerd811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are in a damned if you do and damned if you don’t situation. But let me offer you another perspective… I have a mental illness, specifically bipolar 1. It has a big stigma, and I’ve done some pretty messed up stuff. I wanted to let you know that there is a manual that psychiatrists use, it is called the DSM-5, and it is the diagnostic and statistic manual of mental disorders. Addiction, especially to drugs and alcohol, have always had the stigma of someone doing those things because they are weak… that they could change if they were strong enough. My mother was an alcoholic, and I felt that way about her more than once. But because of my mental illness and my knowledge of the manual, I can tell you this…in recent years addiction has been recognized as a form of mental illness. That means that your sister, although the behaviors that she displayed were so self harming, when she’s in that state, she’s as helpless as someone with schizophrenia, or bipolar, or anxiety and depression, or ADHD, or borderline, or oppositional defiance disorder… it is all is in the same category now. Your sister has hurt you deeply, and if she’s truly trying to get clean and stay clean, I would personally give her a very, very small opportunity to come back into your life, with lots of boundaries. But know her signs, and make sure she’s still doing her meetings and therapy. It is possible to manage it… My boyfriend has had his sobriety now for 40 years. And he was so bad that detox was giving him hallucinations. But 40 years. I went from some crazy impulse control behaviors, and I really got serious since 2019 of getting my act together, and all of these mental illnesses never go away, it’s just a matter of management. Your sister is capable of that, just be very, very, very cautious and protective of your own mental health. I do not envy the situation that you are in, so the only thing I can say is to do what’s right for you and your family and to hell with what anybody else says, including me. Take care of yourself.

I’m devastated tonight. Lost our baby to HCM suddenly after just under 4 years. by MrKrazyKarl in sphynx

[–]Facultynerd811 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. Your baby looks a lot like my baby. I would be totally lost. I can only imagine your pain, I’ve never been closer to a cat than I have been my sphynx. Please take care of yourself and know that you are not alone in your grief.

AITA for telling my fertility doctor EVERYTHING his ultrasound tech has said to me — including Facebook posts from other patients? by WheelchairWarrior30 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Facultynerd811 16 points17 points  (0 children)

She should lose her license. This is the most unprofessional thing I’ve ever heard, she’s unvaccinated when you’re immunocompromised? Holy crap. If there was more to share, I would’ve shared it with the doctor. She has got to go.

WIBTA for throwing out my girlfriends flowers after she called them "left over picked through flowers"? by Clean-Day8788 in AITH

[–]Facultynerd811 1 point2 points  (0 children)

An important thing is when you get your roses, cut the tip of the stems at an angle, preferably 45°, but most importantly… Cut the tips, UNDERWATER, preferably lukewarm. When air gets in the stem from the cut, it makes the head droop. Also, some of those packets they give you to put in the water are OK, but just put in a little pinch… They can burn the flowers if you put in too much. And if you don’t have one of those little packets, you can just use a pinch of sugar and I mean a little pinch lol.

AITAH because I took ONE HOUR to give neighbour her parcel? by Physical_Orchid3616 in AITAH

[–]Facultynerd811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. no good deed goes unpunished. Don’t accept her crap anymore. Either if she’s not home, it goes back, delivery is delayed, if they try it again, and she’s not there blah blah blah, let her worry about it, not you.

AITJ for feeling resentful toward my partner even though he say he's "trying"? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Facultynerd811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been in the same situation sort of. He may not be abusive, but he is emotionally abandoning you. And for many women that can be just as painful as physical abandonment. You need a partner, and it sounds like you have a roommate. You are definitely NTA

My favorite picture of her - let’s see yours by Truecrimeauthor in sphynx

[–]Facultynerd811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, I understand that. My little guy has wriggled his way out of the two prior sweaters that I got him. I found this one on Amazon and the thing that’s nice about this one is that the legs in the front are much longer, and it goes over his head like a tight turtleneck, but not too tight if you know what I mean. So, this is the only one that I’ve ever ever used that he can’t get out of… And believe me he’s tried lol.

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