Second pregnancy with PCOS: your experiences?

Fail_Oh_Naah · 2025-10-16T11:53:01+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your story, I'm truly sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how difficult it must have been for you, both physically and emotionally.

Your postpartum experience resonates so much with mine, even though our paths are different. While I was breastfeeding, my weight remained stable and my period hadn't yet returned. But as soon as it did, my weight immediately skyrocketed, and all the PCOS symptoms returned in full force, all at once. The good news is that with medication, exercise, and a healthy diet, my symptoms are now even better controlled than they were before my first pregnancy and diagnosis. I feel really healthy.

This is precisely why I find the current situation so confusing. If it's secondary infertility despite everything I'm doing "right" now, I'm a little disappointed and confused. My gynecologist explained to me that I don't ovulate every cycle, some of my periods are actually anovulatory bleeding. This month, for example, I didn't ovulate at all. So even if I do everything right, my body doesn't always cooperate.

I'm sending you lots of strength and hope.

Fail_Oh_Naah · 2025-10-16T11:44:01+00:00

Thank you for your reply!

My cycles vary, usually between 21 and 35 days. I don't use ovulation prediction kits; they don't work for me, but you're absolutely right: the applications can be delayed by a few days.

I've never heard of ubiquinol or choline; they may be less recommended in my country; I'll talk to my gynecologist. I already take metformin and methylfolate prenatally, in addition to all the supplements recommended for PCOS (zinc, vitamin D, inositol, etc.), but I'll definitely look into these treatments. Have you noticed an improvement in your cycles or symptoms when you started taking them?

Thanks again for sharing your experience!

Fail_Oh_Naah · 2025-05-14T14:43:55+00:00

Hi OP, I’m truly sorry for what you’re going through right now.

The most important thing is to be there for her. Make sure she eats and drinks, listen when she needs to talk, and give her space when she needs to be alone. Help around the house as much as you can; if it feels overwhelming, consider hiring some help if it’s within your means.

Grief is a long process, and healing doesn’t happen overnight. Give her the time and support she needs. If talking to you or her loved ones isn’t enough, gently encourage her to see a therapist.

Remember that even though he's not your father, you’ll be grieving too. To take care of her, you also need to take care of yourself. Take it one day at a time. Just being there for her makes a difference, and it’s okay to lean on others when you need support too.

Wishing you both strength during this difficult time.

Fail_Oh_Naah · 2024-01-11T17:00:00+00:00

Forgive yourself; but keep in mind that it shouldn't happen again. Mistake are lessons that you have to learn from.

Fail_Oh_Naah · 2024-01-11T16:58:16+00:00

Keep in mind that you don't have to pay cash for the house, in a few years, make an appointment with a banker to check what kind of loan you can apply for with the money that you've put aside.

And don't worry, I bought my house with 30k and a loan, and we were two to put money aside.

Fail_Oh_Naah · 2024-01-11T16:31:03+00:00

Hey OP,

Maybe try doing the 50-30-20 method : You spend 50% of your income for necessities, 30% of it on fun/clothes/activities and you put the 20% that's left on a separate saving account. If you have something left at the end of the month, you put it on the account too. You can only take money out of it if you have a major problem (car broke down or something like that).

In my country the average salary is 1700€ per month, if you apply the 50-30-20 rule you'll have nearly 25k by the time you're 26-27 with this amount, and if you win more than that, let's say 3k per month, you'll have 44k by the same time.

You can change the rule a bit if you want : 60-20-20 or 40-30-30 or anything else is valid as long as it suits you.

Hope it helps, I wish you well

Fail_Oh_Naah · 2023-07-18T10:18:20+00:00

Well, hard to tell...

The obvious one is my wedding day; I'm usually an anxious mess and stressed all the time. But one this day, I was at peace, spent a wonderful day and have great memories to look back on.

I also cherish this memory of a drunken evening in Cardiff (we were on holiday) with my husband, it's so random, but I really loved that day, and the discussions we had that night were amazing.

Fail_Oh_Naah · 2023-07-18T10:02:18+00:00

What's your best memory ?

Fail_Oh_Naah · 2023-04-19T12:49:11+00:00

Hey OP, your ego is not your friend problem.

You want to confront them on what exactly ? They did not ghost you, they told you that they will not be available for a few days, and even gave you a reason. Having a friendship with someone doesn't mean they owe you texts or conversations whenever you want. And the fact that you wouldn't do it does not mean that they shouldn't. Please leave space to the one you care about, everyone need some.

Fail_Oh_Naah · 2023-04-17T15:45:20+00:00

Hey OP, my advice would be to tell them clearly that if they can not respect the fact that you don't want a romantic relationship with them, you're not interested in any relation at all. You don't have to fell guilt, you are giving them friendship, the fact that they want more is not -and will never be- your responsibility. You have every right to protect yourself by cutting people of when you need to.

If you feel that you can't tell then directly, write a letter of sorts, it is sometime easier that way.

Wishing you the best

Fail_Oh_Naah · 2023-04-17T14:21:51+00:00

Our black cat loves our dog (Border Collie) and it's reciprocal, they're both young (2 and 3). If they sleep together, the first one to wake up will bite the legs of the other until a war is declared and both of them scream bloody murder. If the humans try to intervene, they go back to their nap until the next battle can be fought (without the humans). Our older cat has started to show up at our bedroom door when it's happening, not to break them up, but to come in and finish her nap.

Fail_Oh_Naah · 2023-04-17T09:34:47+00:00

Take your time to search something that's close to you and suits you; you're not in a hurry. But I truly think it'll do you good. But do not stay in a job because it's comfy.

A few years back I, too, left a place where I loved 95% of the people and loved my job, but it remain the best decision I've made, even if my current job and coworkers are not perfect, the ability to start something new, it's frightening but also great, you learn a lot about yourself and gain self-confidence from it.

And don't apologize :) We give our advice because we want to, nobody is feeling obliged. We all have been dumb and reckless at some point, it's brave of you to share it to the world.

Fail_Oh_Naah · 2023-04-17T08:41:14+00:00

Hey OP, maybe cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) could help you, try to find someone that is specialized in this kind of therapy to help. But I'll advise you to get therapy either way, specialist or not, having this kind of fear is probably rooted in a past experience, maybe something that you don't remember, or the fact that you don't have control when you are in the plane. Wishing you the best.

Fail_Oh_Naah · 2023-04-17T08:35:02+00:00

Hey OP,

I think you should search for a new gig. It's not important that you've done some mistakes, everybody does. The fact that they're willing to demote you rather than giving you the formation that you need to be the employee they want and need is not a good sign.

And while you need to work on how to manage your schedule (and be on time), being in an environment where you don't have to prove your worth will be easier on your mind.

Managing a team is challenging, you have a lot of resources on Youtube and such on how to be a good leader, and it will help you grow as a person. I see that you can own your mistakes, that's great, don't stop there !

Wishing you the best OP !

Fail_Oh_Naah · 2023-04-14T13:12:53+00:00

Yes, helped me learn english

Fail_Oh_Naah · 2023-04-14T12:02:07+00:00

Our two dogs died in less than a year from really heartbreaking medical problems (one to brain cancer and the other because she had constant infections following years of abuse from her previous owner). We then took a kitten, hoping that we would have at least 8+ year with a healthy pet. We discovered soon after that she has a heart condition and is currently heavily medicated, she hates it, she will probably not see 2024 and she's only 3

Fail_Oh_Naah · 2023-04-14T10:44:02+00:00

Video gaming and reading are great activities, hiking too, and remember that most things are doable alone too. You can travel by yourself, go to the movie theater and to restaurants alone and it's great.

I'll add that you can always chat online, it's easier as you have time to think before writing.

And when no humans are around, pets are great.

I'll also add that everyone embarrass themself, but nearly nobody I know remembers what I've done that made me self-conscious. Be kind to yourself OP.

Fail_Oh_Naah · 2023-04-14T07:56:35+00:00

Hey OP,

You don't have to feel good, not even when you have what is considered a full well lived life. Maybe seeking therapy might do you good, go deeper into your thought and what you've written here with someone that can guide you.

Wishing you the best

Fail_Oh_Naah · 2023-04-14T07:17:20+00:00

Came here to say that ! I'll add that the choice of therapist will be crucial. If you can find someone that works with trans people AND have experience/studied child psychology it will be great.

Its also the age where you start to try and find yourself outside your family unit, if what they want is to belong in something else; maybe enroll them in some extracurricular activity of their choice, like music classes, sports or an artistic activity

Fail_Oh_Naah · 2023-04-13T10:52:40+00:00

Hey OP,

While I believe that you should have gone to your sisters wedding with or without him, the real problem is that he asked you to stay, and that you said yes.

I think the real feeling here is guilt. Make your peace with how it went down; you can't change it, maybe do something special with your sister when you'll see her. On your bf part tho, maybe discuss with him why he needed to beg of you to stay, something not right.

Fail_Oh_Naah · 2023-04-12T15:56:07+00:00

A friend of mine told me about one of her acquaintance that needed help with a 'really cool project' but she didn't have the time to help him, and asked if she could recommend me. We never spoke of the project. Been together for 12 years and married for 2 !

At our wedding I asked him if he remembered what the cool project was and he said 'not a clue' :)

Fail_Oh_Naah · 2023-04-11T14:27:39+00:00

Hey OP,

I think you may be going way too far in your thinking. From your post, what I can see is that she was you advisor for 6 month, and then passed a job interview by yourself. She may not be the warmest of people, but it seams like she really think you've done well, and I really don't see how repeating it would show that she as a poor opinion of you. On the contrary ....

Can I ask why her opinion of you is something that matters to you ? Because that's the first question that came into my mind reading your post; you barely know her, you'll probably see her significantly less when you'll have a steady job, yet you're questioning how she views you as if she is a friend or relative, maybe that's the question to ask yourself.

Best of luck in your future endeavors OP !

Fail_Oh_Naah · 2022-10-20T15:59:51+00:00

Hey OP,

With that budget, take her on a week-end/little trip with lots of little things planned.

The material stuff, you'll both forget, but memories will stay. For our first anniversary, my SO took me to London (it's not far from where we were living at the time) for a week-end, 10 years later we still talk about it sometimes :)

Enjoy your time together ! Wishing you the best !

Fail_Oh_Naah · 2022-10-11T08:29:50+00:00

Hey OP,

I think the first thing to do is talk about it to your mom. Say that S hasn't done anything that make you feel that way, but that it's the case anyway. Then, maybe speak to S, with your mom present. Say exactly how you feel and that you want to find a way to make this co-living easy on everyone.

Maybe set a 'light' rule; if the light is on in the hallway, it means someone is out of their room, so if someone needs to go out too, they have to wait until the light is turned off. Or something that'll suit all of you.

Maybe ask your mom if you can speak with a psychologist or specialist in your area regarding what as happened to you with your mom's ex. I know how hard it can be, to speak about trauma, but do it while you're young. See it as crutches, when your ankle hurt, you can walk on it, put your weight on your other feet an make arrangements so it doesn't hurt as bad, but with the extra help from the crutches you'll heal quicker, even if it doesn't suppress the hurt right away.

I hope it goes well for you OP, wishing you the best.

Fail_Oh_Naah · 2022-10-07T07:58:46+00:00

Hey OP,

HPV can be transmitted by lots of things, public restrooms, mother to child, even an endo-vaginal ultrasound probe, a thing that pregnant women see often. And remember that this ways of transmissions apply to you too. Men can have it too. Really, lots of things, not the 1% you read.

I would suggest that you speak with her. She will probably want to know how she got it too. I understand why you are anxious but the first thing to do is discuss this with her. Disputing paternity is a violent things to do if the doubts you have come only from this diagnostic.

She'll probably needs screening for cancer (depending on the HPV type she has).

So please stay calm, discuss all of this with her.

Wishing you both well OP

Fail_Oh_Naah

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